hi my name is christy i wuold like to chat with you
my husband has hd and i can relate to what you are saying
--- On Thu, 8/27/09, c_u_muddin <c_u_muddin@...> wrote:


From: c_u_muddin <c_u_muddin@...>
Subject: [One Big Huntingtons Family] Violence and Huntington's Disease.
To: onebighuntingtonsfamily@yahoogroups.com
Date: Thursday, August 27, 2009, 8:37 PM


 



I fell in love with a man 8 years ago who was diagnosed with HD 6 years before
we "met". I was head over heels the first time we spoke on the phone! Everything
was great; he moved in with me and my 3 daughters about 2 months later.The first
few months were fine, but he stayed somewhat distant from my girls (he has one
of his own, the youngest). About 6 months into it, we got into a big fight and
he got violent with me for the first time.None of the kids were home and I was
astonished! He swore the next day that it would never happen again. Well,it did,
and did time and time again. It usually only got to the physical point when we
had gone out, and were drinking. My children saw it many times and just couldn't
take it anymore! They could never understand why I stayed.. Half the time,
neither could I! My children moved away from home a year ago; my twins were 18
and my youngest, 14. The twins moved in with friends,my baby moved to Florida to
stay with her
dad, who moved there 5 years prior. My,now 15 year old, has refused to move
back home until my boyfriend moved out and we were officially 'over'.Well, he
did move out June 1st.He went to jail for a month and then stayed with his mom
until he got an apartment August 3rd. We got into a fight that night and he
threatened to kill me. I was scared so called the cops. Anyways, I still love my
boyfriend! I still want to be with him and I want to be there for him when he
needs me the most! BUT, I have to be there for my daughters also! I often wonder
if he behaves violently just because that's his nature, or if it's only because
of the disease! My parents didn't talk to me for over a year because I was going
to leave, and then backed out and couldn't...When he went to jail, my parents
began talking to me again. And now, since he has his own place,they still are,
yet told me that if he wasn't completely out of my life, they would never speak
to me again! I would
be completely out of their lives forever! My boyfriend has this amazingly sweet
and adorable side! That's what I have always tried to hold onto through
everything! That's why I continue to forgive him, because I blame all of the bad
on the disease! But I don't know either because he has been the first one, in
many cases, to blame his actions on having the disease. Has anyone else dealt
with this?! My boyfriend's ex-wife told me that he has always been violent, and
was always the same with her too! I just don't know what to believe! I've read
the books, newsletters, etc... I just need a real person to talk to! Some advise
from anyone that has possibly been in my shoes! I would appreciate it so
much!!!!



















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