Dear Nina,
Lovely to hear from you too. I think of you girls with your strength of character and it does make me think "I can do this".
I must admit, like you, I have become my own person. I guess I have made all the decisions for a while now. Saying this I was always rushing everywhere. Life has certainly slowed down. Our boys played a big part in our lives.
Pleased to hear you have some happiness in your life. Being a little older, I don't expect this to happen to me. But I do believe kids need a father figure, it gives them balance. Enjoy the companionship, you're lucky to get a second shot at it.
I too thought when I lost mum and dad,how hard it was. Nothing prepared me for this!!
Take care Nina, you are on track to overcome the big hurdle you have been over. I'm sure I'll get there.
Love Cathy
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, October 03, 2007 9:21 PM
Subject: [nzbraintumour] Re: Hi!!
Hi Cathy, lovely to hear from you. Its a tough road loosing the
ones we love but with time and lots and lots of supportive love
around us we somehow manage to get through each day. For me I don't
think the shock of Aaron being diagnosed and his terrible rough time
he had will ever go away, there are days I still can't believe that
its happened. And like Becs and Penny its more so when I look at
the kids faces and its makes me really mad and angry that this
happened to our family, especially when there are so many other evil
people in the world... which I know is not quite the "pc" attitude
but thats how I feel somedays. I think my lifes perspective changed
alot too. I thought I had changed 10 years ago when my mum passed
away but boy have I changed now. I think I have much more of a can
do attitude and not too many things frighten me now, I stand up for
myself and my beliefs a heck of a lot more and if people don't like
it then its just tough. The boys and I are doing pretty great
though, like Becs I too have recently met somebody. Its very early
days and to be honest its just what the doctor ordered. I can
honestly say that it feels really really amazing to have somebody
else put a smile on my face, instead of me trying to make everybody
else smile. I have known him for years on the social circuit so he
knew Aaron and the kids, and was at his funeral so its nice that he
knows our background and he talks about Aaron all the time which is
great for the kids... who by the way have taken to him like a duck
to water. My family are just a bit concerned about things going
pear shaped and if I get hurt or if the kids get hurt, but hey if we
had a crystal ball wouldn't life be just a little boring! All I can
do is go with my gut instinct, and I think I've been a pretty good
judge of character so far in my life.
Well take care Cathy, treasure the little things. Remember, one day
at a time. Post soon.
Lots of love NINA
--- In nzbraintumour@yahoogroups.com, "doncederwall" <doncedes@...>
wrote:
>
> Dear All,
>
> Just a note to let you all know I am in "the land of the living"
but it will take me some time to recover from the trauma of this BT
ride.
> All you caregivers who have experienced this will share with me in
saying, how different life is without our soul mates. My question
is, "how long is it before you start to feel a little better".
>
> To all those still on the journey. I think of you all and send you
positive thoughts as I know the difficulties, both emotionally and
physically you face every day. Keeping our loved ones well and their
spirits high is always a top priority. Most of you also have the
added responsibility of families, try and get as much pleasure and
fun as you can with the family. The memories are wonderful to hold
on to.
>
> Keep up the good work. I always think the roles could have been
reversed, this always brings me down to earth.
>
> My love and best wishes to you all.
>
> Cathy w/o Don dx 1996 passed away Aug 2007. RIP.
>
Having problems with message search?
Fill out this form to ensure your group is one of the first to be migrated to the new message search system.
Send Email
