I'm so glad you're starting to feel a bit better.  I
can only imagine how hard it must be for you, losing
Mischief.
You're right that keeping yourself occupied is a good
idea.  Being busy does seem to help a bit.
And you're right, your heart will mend in time.  And
it's natural to feel sad, and to grieve.
Don't forget that there will always be people here who
are listening and who care!  So please post whenever
you feel the need to.
Take care-
Lynne


--- rainow14 <rainow14@...> wrote:

> Hey everyone
>
> i am doing bit better today... not much but i am not
> crying all the
> time now ... i decied i would do some major cleaning
> today that needed
> to be done anyways but i am so missing him that i
> needed to do
> something to keep myself occupied so i figured
> cleaning was my best
> option ... i am alone alot due to the fact that i
> live alone but also
> cause i have a disability so he was really more then
> a an animal to me
> he was like my best friend ... my child ...  so for
> me it was a hard
> thing to loose but i know my heart will mend ...
> thank you for all your
> help ...
>
> Ashley
>
>


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Hey everyone

i am doing bit better today... not much but i am not crying all the
time now ... i decied i would do some major cleaning today that needed
to be done anyways but i am so missing him that i needed to do
something to keep myself occupied so i figured cleaning was my best
option ... i am alone alot due to the fact that i live alone but also
cause i have a disability so he was really more then a an animal to me
he was like my best friend ... my child ...  so for me it was a hard
thing to loose but i know my heart will mend ... thank you for all your
help ...

Ashley

I think it's not unusual to have all sorts of feelings
like this after losing a pet.
One thing I remember after my dog Chimo died, many
years ago; I was only 16 so my parents took Chimo to
the vet to be put down, she had a brain tumour and was
having awful seizures.  They brought her home to be
buried but she was wrapped in a blanket and I didn't
see her body.
For a week afterwards I was haunted with thinking that
maybe it wasn't really Chimo they had brought back
from the vet, that maybe there had been some mixup and
Chimo was still alive somewhere.  Alternately, since
we buried her the same night I was also haunted with
thinking that maybe we should have checked to make
sure she was actually dead and that we didn't bury her
alive.  This went on for a week or two but it
gradually faded.
This happened again after our cat Sonya died, which
was much more recently.  For some reason I have this
terror of live burial, and I refused to bury Sonya
until her body had stiffened.
So you see it's common and natural to have all sorts
of strange feelings and emotions after experiecing
such a loss.  So I think the fears you are having
about your mother's dog are quite normal.
Does anyone else have any thoughts about this?
Lynne


--- rainow14 <rainow14@...> wrote:

> is it normal to be scared of another animal dying
> when its in your
> care ?? my mom going away for two weeks to florida
> and she wnats me to
> look after the dog ... is this normal for me to be
> feeling ?? scared
> about it dying ??
>
> ashley
>
>


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is it normal to be scared of another animal dying when its in your
care ?? my mom going away for two weeks to florida and she wnats me to
look after the dog ... is this normal for me to be feeling ?? scared
about it dying ??

ashley

I totally get what u are saying about turning around and swearing u
see them .... cause i had that a couple times lastnight where i
turned around quickly and i swore i saw him lazed out on the floor
like he use to do with all his limbs streteched out... i guess it
cause i am so use to seeing that too ... everyone says it will get
easier ... i am hoping it does ... i do miss him ...

ty so much everyone for your help ...

Ashley
--- In northpetloss@yahoogroups.com, "Aisling Mere" <myzen66@...>
wrote:
>
> The numbness you describe is I think very common, I remember
> experiencing it after the passing on of a pet.  I remember as I
went
> through my daily routine I would feel numb, and it was almost as
> though I would stop thinking about what had happened, then I would
> remember it suddenly.
>
> I think the numbness is like a form of shock, really, a reaction to
a
> devesatating event.
> When our iguana passed away, it was so strange, because it was as
> though his cage, with him in it, was still there, even though after
> we buried him we took his cage down.  Both my husband and I had
this
> sensation of the cage being still there, every time we looked into
> the room where it had been.  I felt as though I could clearly see
it,
> and it was a bit scary, because I really wondered if there was
> something wrong, but it was just a reaction to his loss.  He may
have
> been a lizard but he had a real personality and we missed him
> terribly.
>
>  I have no doubt that Mischief is watching over you; having done
some
> seminars with a couple of Animal Communicators (Barbara Janelle and
> Diane Frith) and having read the book Animals and the Afterlife, I
> have heard about, read of, and even experienced some really
> interesting things that seem to prove that the souls of animals
> survive.  After all, all living things are made up of energy, and
> it's a law of physics that energy never really dies, it transmutes
> into another form.  Quantom physics is beginning to prove this, so
> it's no longer just faith that helps us believe this, but science
as
> well.
> You'll find as time passes that it will get easier to bear, the
first
> few days are the hardest.
> Take care-
> Lynne
>
>
> --- In northpetloss@yahoogroups.com, "rainow14" <rainow14@> wrote:
> >
> > rought night ... i dericed that i would cloean the washroom where
> his
> > litter box was .... and as i am cleaning i remembered lil things
he
> use
> > to do like sitting on the toilet while i showered or slept in the
> > sink ... i remmeber he use to watch me wash teh floors just to
walk
> > across them with his nice fresh cat litter paws ... god i miss
> him ...
> > i know that life will be different without him ... but i know
that
> he
> > is poperly looking down at me and saying why she crying and boy i
> would
> > love to bite her cause she crying ...he use to bite me whenever i
> > cried ... so its been kinda weird to be able to cry without him
> biting
> > me ...
> >
> > does anyone else have the numbness feeling a couple days after
the
> pet
> > died not happy but u do feel sad but there not as many tears ...
> there
> > still tears but they are not total bawling now ...
> >
> > ash
> >
>

The numbness you describe is I think very common, I remember
experiencing it after the passing on of a pet.  I remember as I went
through my daily routine I would feel numb, and it was almost as
though I would stop thinking about what had happened, then I would
remember it suddenly.

I think the numbness is like a form of shock, really, a reaction to a
devesatating event.
When our iguana passed away, it was so strange, because it was as
though his cage, with him in it, was still there, even though after
we buried him we took his cage down.  Both my husband and I had this
sensation of the cage being still there, every time we looked into
the room where it had been.  I felt as though I could clearly see it,
and it was a bit scary, because I really wondered if there was
something wrong, but it was just a reaction to his loss.  He may have
been a lizard but he had a real personality and we missed him
terribly.

  I have no doubt that Mischief is watching over you; having done some
seminars with a couple of Animal Communicators (Barbara Janelle and
Diane Frith) and having read the book Animals and the Afterlife, I
have heard about, read of, and even experienced some really
interesting things that seem to prove that the souls of animals
survive.  After all, all living things are made up of energy, and
it's a law of physics that energy never really dies, it transmutes
into another form.  Quantom physics is beginning to prove this, so
it's no longer just faith that helps us believe this, but science as
well.
You'll find as time passes that it will get easier to bear, the first
few days are the hardest.
Take care-
Lynne


--- In northpetloss@yahoogroups.com, "rainow14" <rainow14@...> wrote:
>
> rought night ... i dericed that i would cloean the washroom where
his
> litter box was .... and as i am cleaning i remembered lil things he
use
> to do like sitting on the toilet while i showered or slept in the
> sink ... i remmeber he use to watch me wash teh floors just to walk
> across them with his nice fresh cat litter paws ... god i miss
him ...
> i know that life will be different without him ... but i know that
he
> is poperly looking down at me and saying why she crying and boy i
would
> love to bite her cause she crying ...he use to bite me whenever i
> cried ... so its been kinda weird to be able to cry without him
biting
> me ...
>
> does anyone else have the numbness feeling a couple days after the
pet
> died not happy but u do feel sad but there not as many tears ...
there
> still tears but they are not total bawling now ...
>
> ash
>

Hi Ann-
All excellent suggestions, thank you so much for posting!
Lynne


--- In northpetloss@yahoogroups.com, "Ann Brightman" <cabright@...>
wrote:
>
> Hi Ashley,
>
> Coming home to an empty house after a pet has died is very bleak,
so yes, as
> Lynne says, it's very common to feel numb.
>
>
>
> When my dog Alice died, I found one thing that helped a bit was to
make a
> few changes to my surroundings and routine. Even something as
simple as
> putting a new cover on the bed, or rearranging some furniture or
something.
> I also tried to adjust my routine a bit, so that during the times
when I
> would normally be walking or feeding Alice, I wasn't just left with
an empty
> space. Trying to get out more with friends might help - even though
you may
> not feel like being sociable, spending time with other people in
different
> environments can help distract you, bring you out of yourself, and
remind
> you that there are still parts of life that are pleasant. Watching
> funny/upbeat or favorite shows or DVDs can also help lift you a
bit, or
> listen to some energizing music.
>
>
>
> People have different ways of coping with loss and grief, of
course. Also,
> Alice died at an old age after a period of declining health, so her
death
> was not as much of a shock to me as Mischief's must have been to
you. It's
> much harder when a young, healthy animal dies suddenly and
unexpectedly.
>
>
>
> I hope these suggestions will help a bit.
>
> Ann
>
>
>
>
>
>   _____
>
> From: northpetloss@yahoogroups.com
[mailto:northpetloss@yahoogroups.com] On
> Behalf Of rainow14
> Sent: Friday, February 01, 2008 8:27 AM
> To: northpetloss@yahoogroups.com
> Subject: [northpetloss] Re: hello new member
>
>
>
> Hey Lynne,
>
> I found yesterday night very hard .... i came home from work and i
> relized i was coming home to am empty apartment and no one was
coming
> here to greet me or give me kisses .... i relized that no one was
> going be here to love me or anything ... so i found that very
> hard ... i woke up this morning and now i am starting to feel a bit
> numb and i am not sure if thats ok or not .... i miss him so
much ...
> and i miss having his meows in the morning .... its very hard ... i
> found going to work yesterday helped a bit until i relzied i was
> coming home to an empty house with nothin to snuggle up and kiss
> me ... is it normal for me to go numb and then cry and then go numb
> again ??
>
> thank you so much for listerning
>
> ash
>
> --- In northpetloss@ <mailto:northpetloss%40yahoogroups.com>
> yahoogroups.com, Aisling Mere <myzen66@> wrote:
> >
> > Hello Ashley
> > I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know what you
> > must be going through right now.
> > I would say that there was nothing you could have
> > done....but actually that is not true because you did
> > everything you could - that is, provide Mischief with
> > a loving home for 5 years, and that is huge! The fact
> > that he died suddenly is something that you could have
> > done absolutely nothing about, sometimes these things
> > just happen.
> > There are only a few members here yet but I think they
> > will all tell you that they have had the same thoughts
> > about the passing of their loved animal; is there
> > something more I could have done? Did I do enough?
> > Fact is, you will come to realize that you did
> > everything you could do and more, and that it wasn't
> > your fault.
> > If you would like to put a picture of Mischief in the
> > memorial album, please do so, and check out the links
> > section for some very helpful places to visit on the
> > web. And of course, post here whenever you need to
> > get your thoughts out or to connect with someone who
> > understands your grief. That is what we are here for!
> > Take care, my dear, and again, we all know how you
> > feel, allow me again to express my deepest sympathy in
> > your time of loss.
> > Lynne
> >
> >
> > --- rainow14 <rainow14@> wrote:
> >
> > > Hi...
> > >
> > > My name is Ashley and my cat mischief died today
> > > suddenly ...i am not
> > > sure how he died but i heard a bang in the washroom
> > > i thought he
> > > knocked some shampoo bottles in the tub so i didn't
> > > go look to see what
> > > it was cause he was always doing stuff like that ...
> > > about 20 minutes
> > > later i went in to use the washroom ... and he was
> > > in the tub just
> > > laying there and he was not moving so i called his
> > > name and he wouldn't
> > > rsepond so i picked him up and he still was not
> > > responding and he was
> > > cold so i ran next door to my nebours and they said
> > > he had passed
> > > on ... i am taking this very hard and blaming myself
> > > wonderinf if there
> > > was nayhting i coulda done to save him ... everyone
> > > telling me there
> > > nothin i coulda done even teh vet .... but he was
> > > only 5 years old and
> > > he was a gray tabby ... has anyone else had issues
> > > like this and how
> > > did u deal with your grief... i am finding it very
> > > hard to sleep
> > > tonight and all i been doing is crying ...
> > >
> > > ashley
> > >
> > >
> >
> >
> > "Life's tough, but I'm tougher!"
> > -Marion Ryan
> >
> >
> >
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rought night ... i dericed that i would cloean the washroom where his
litter box was .... and as i am cleaning i remembered lil things he use
to do like sitting on the toilet while i showered or slept in the
sink ... i remmeber he use to watch me wash teh floors just to walk
across them with his nice fresh cat litter paws ... god i miss him ...
i know that life will be different without him ... but i know that he
is poperly looking down at me and saying why she crying and boy i would
love to bite her cause she crying ...he use to bite me whenever i
cried ... so its been kinda weird to be able to cry without him biting
me ...

does anyone else have the numbness feeling a couple days after the pet
died not happy but u do feel sad but there not as many tears ... there
still tears but they are not total bawling now ...

ash

I'm glad too, and I'm happy that we're here to do what
we can to help you through this difficult time.
Please drop in and post whenever you need to.
Take care,
Lynne

--- rainow14 <rainow14@...> wrote:

> Lynne i am so glad u did .. i really need it at this
> time and i am sure
> there will be others in the future who will need it
> ... thank you so
> much
>
> Ash
>
> --- In northpetloss@yahoogroups.com, "Saffronmane"
> <myzen66@...> wrote:
> >
> > Boy this is such an active cyberplace to spend
> time....
> > It appears that Pet Loss Support is not a needed
> resource in this
> > area.  However I plan to leave this list in
> existance at least for
> > awhile, perhaps eventually there will be someone
> out there who could
> > use it.
> > Lynne
> >
>
>
>


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Lynne i am so glad u did .. i really need it at this time and i am sure
there will be others in the future who will need it ... thank you so
much

Ash

--- In northpetloss@yahoogroups.com, "Saffronmane" <myzen66@...> wrote:
>
> Boy this is such an active cyberplace to spend time....
> It appears that Pet Loss Support is not a needed resource in this
> area.  However I plan to leave this list in existance at least for
> awhile, perhaps eventually there will be someone out there who could
> use it.
> Lynne
>

one thing i can say is nothni was to good for him ... i spent more
money on him most months then i did myself ... he was on the best cat
food i could buy him ... he had all the toys he could ever wanted which
he never played with it seemed but i kept buying him new ones ... he
woulda rather played with my scrappbooking ribbon over this toys or
stuck his paws into my food or what not ... ty so much

ash

--- In northpetloss@yahoogroups.com, "Saffronmane" <myzen66@...> wrote:
>
> What great pictures!  He was a gorgeous cat, and you can tell he
> enjoyed a wonderful life.
> Lynne
>
> -- In northpetloss@yahoogroups.com, "rainow14" <rainow14@> wrote:
> >
> > hey everyone ...
> >
> > i added pictures of mischief ... it will show u what his personatly
> was
> > really like ... he loved to play and get into mischief ...
> >
> > Ashley
> >
>

What great pictures!  He was a gorgeous cat, and you can tell he
enjoyed a wonderful life.
Lynne

-- In northpetloss@yahoogroups.com, "rainow14" <rainow14@...> wrote:
>
> hey everyone ...
>
> i added pictures of mischief ... it will show u what his personatly
was
> really like ... he loved to play and get into mischief ...
>
> Ashley
>

hey everyone ...

i added pictures of mischief ... it will show u what his personatly was
really like ... he loved to play and get into mischief ...

Ashley

hi sarah

i love the quote that u put at the bottom of the message... it so
true with the amount of tears i have cried and the amount of memories
i have of him ... the pain so real ... and i loved him very dearly ..

Ash

--- In northpetloss@yahoogroups.com, "S. Lennox"
<bikini_bottom_7@...> wrote:
>
>
> Hi Ashley
>
> I wanted to let you know how sorry I am that you had to lose your
cat at 5 years of age. Losing a pet an any age is quite tough, but
losing one so young must makes it even harder.
> It sounds like his death was so sudden that there was absolutely
nothing you could have done to prevent it.
>
> I too just lost one of my cats (Toady) in September of 2007; she
was 12 years and had been diagnosed with liver failure.
> Every year in June I do the animal wellness testing for geriatric
pets. This is a special blood test that screens for certain
conditions that older cats are more susceptible to get. Everything
came back a-okay. But somewhere between the end of June and the
beginning of July, Toady started getting sick and losing weight.
(Toady was a big-boned kitty so for her to lose weight was bizarre).
Could I have done anything more to prevent her from getting liver
disease? I asked myself this question over and over again, but
finally came to the conclusion that there was nothing else
preventitive-wise that I could have done.
> As far as treatment of this condition, I know that I did as much as
I could to give her a better quality of life. There were other
treatments that we could have done to possibly extend her life, but
the vet could make no guarantees of any of them.
> It was just her time I guess, so to make the long story short, we
said our last goodbye to her on September 7th, 2007.
> I cried and cried all weekend long. I wrote a poem about her and
posted it on my facebook wall as well as included it in one of the
Northumberland Humane Society newsletters.  I found the poem really
let me get out my bottled-up feelings for her, and I felt somewhat
better for writing the poem. Losing her really hurt and still hurts a
lot to this day. The pain has subsided a bit, but is not entirely
gone and I am not sure that it will ever entirely disppear. She was a
special kitty who will always have a special place in my heart as I
know that your kitty will too.
>
> I found that talking about Toady really helped me understand her
passing, so please feel free to use this resource as often as needed.
>
> "If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane,
> I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again"
>     Sarah LennoxCommunity Awareness and Special Events
CoordinatorNorthumberland Humane Society371 Ward StreetPort Hope,
ONL1A 4A4north1@...
>
>
> To: northpetloss@...: rainow14@...: Thu, 31 Jan 2008 06:16:39
+0000Subject: [northpetloss] hello new member
>
>
>
>
> Hi...My name is Ashley and my cat mischief died today suddenly ...i
am not sure how he died but i heard a bang in the washroom i thought
he knocked some shampoo bottles in the tub so i didn't go look to see
what it was cause he was always doing stuff like that ... about 20
minutes later i went in to use the washroom ... and he was in the tub
just laying there and he was not moving so i called his name and he
wouldn't rsepond so i picked him up and he still was not responding
and he was cold so i ran next door to my nebours and they said he had
passed on ... i am taking this very hard and blaming myself wonderinf
if there was nayhting i coulda done to save him ... everyone telling
me there nothin i coulda done even teh vet .... but he was only 5
years old and he was a gray tabby ... has anyone else had issues like
this and how did u deal with your grief... i am finding it very hard
to sleep tonight and all i been doing is crying ... ashley
>
>
>
>
>
>
> _________________________________________________________________
>

I wanted to add that if you go to youtube and type in
'Pet Loss' into the search box, some lovely videos
will come up, made by people who have recently lost
their pets.  They are very emotional and sad but serve
to show how widespead mourning the loss of a beloved
animal is.
Lynne

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"In Loving Memory"

Your name to start with at first was "Toad"
Until later on down the road
You turned into a Toady, Tubby Toads and Toadstools
But it didn't matter your name; because you were a jewel

A treasured cat you always were
A single touch and you would purr
A distinct "Meeer-rroooow!" could be heard,
What? An empty food bowl, how absurd!

Everything was fine until that fateful day
When we took you to the vet, "Is Toady okay?"
Liver disease was the bad news
A happy life, I was about to lose

What it boiled down to was, you had to eat
This time around, this was no small feat
Your body lost weight, you became thin
This was a battle no one could win

Now I lay you down to sleep
I mourn your loss so much, I weep
It hurts so much this pain I feel
It hurts so much it can't be real

For this I'm not sure what I'd give
To hold you in my arms, to have you live
Perhaps one day down the road,
I'll see you in heaven, my Tubby Toad.


May 15, 1995 - September 7, 2007

Hi again-
If you don't feel ready for another cat, then you are
most likely not ready.  You maybe need to resolve your
feeling of grief for Mischief and have a period of
mourning for him before you get a new kitten.....of
course it's different for everyone but I do know it
can be a mistake to get another pet too soon
afterwards.
As you can see by some of the other posts, the
feelings of wondering if you could have done more are
very common.  Because we love our pets so much and
because they depend on us we always feel as though we
could have done more.  But Mischief's death seems to
have been very sudden, and even if you had checked
right away, upon hearing the bang it wouldn't have
made a difference.
Mischief sounds as though he was such a wonderful,
unique being, and I know soon you will be able to take
comfort from the fact that you were able to share his
life with him, and your memories of him will bring you
comfort as well.
Take care!  And keep posting, we are listening!
Lynne


--- rainow14 <rainow14@...> wrote:

> hey everyone ...
>
> due to the storm i stuck home today ... so that
> making it hard ... i
> threw away his litter box and lifted up his food
> dishes today ... i
> can't seem to find it in myself to fluff up th couch
> where he alway
> laid and his body indented the couch on that area
> ... mischief was
> really special he was mean to eveyone but special
> ... he use to beat
> hte living crap outta my sister dog ... he would
> climb on to it cause
> they were the same size ... now her dog is terrified
> of cats and
> refuses to enter my apartment .... i think mischief
> had siamese in
> him ...  i bought him from a pet store five years
> ago in march ... i
> went back to that pet store yesterday to ask if they
> screen their
> cats and there answer was no ... but i know no
> matter how angry i get
> at them its not going bring him back .... he not
> going come back and
> i relize this even through i wish he would ... i
> been crying again
> today ... i go through lil times of it ... everyone
> keeps offering me
> kittens ... they want me to be happy ...but i am not
> ready to have a
> kitten yet ... i don't know if i will EVER be ready
> ... i miss him so
> much and i am afaird of getting another one and
> him/her dying .... i
> know all pets die but this one was a shock to my
> system...  he was
> such a good boy but such a trouble maker ... i guess
> he lived alot of
> life in five years ... this past christmas he ate
> the plastic
> chrismtas tree .... i had to take it down cause he
> refused to stop
> sucking on it ... i feel so guilty still ... i feel
> like i coulda
> done more ... what if i hadda gone and check when i
> heard the
> bang ... what then coudl i have saved him ?? sorry
> for writing so
> much ... i am just feeling really down ...
>
> Ash
>
> --- In northpetloss@yahoogroups.com, "S. Lennox"
> <bikini_bottom_7@...> wrote:
> >
> >
> > Hi Ashley
> >
> > I wanted to let you know how sorry I am that you
> had to lose your
> cat at 5 years of age. Losing a pet an any age is
> quite tough, but
> losing one so young must makes it even harder.
> > It sounds like his death was so sudden that there
> was absolutely
> nothing you could have done to prevent it.
> >
> > I too just lost one of my cats (Toady) in
> September of 2007; she
> was 12 years and had been diagnosed with liver
> failure.
> > Every year in June I do the animal wellness
> testing for geriatric
> pets. This is a special blood test that screens for
> certain
> conditions that older cats are more susceptible to
> get. Everything
> came back a-okay. But somewhere between the end of
> June and the
> beginning of July, Toady started getting sick and
> losing weight.
> (Toady was a big-boned kitty so for her to lose
> weight was bizarre).
> Could I have done anything more to prevent her from
> getting liver
> disease? I asked myself this question over and over
> again, but
> finally came to the conclusion that there was
> nothing else
> preventitive-wise that I could have done.
> > As far as treatment of this condition, I know that
> I did as much as
> I could to give her a better quality of life. There
> were other
> treatments that we could have done to possibly
> extend her life, but
> the vet could make no guarantees of any of them.
> > It was just her time I guess, so to make the long
> story short, we
> said our last goodbye to her on September 7th, 2007.
>
> > I cried and cried all weekend long. I wrote a poem
> about her and
> posted it on my facebook wall as well as included it
> in one of the
> Northumberland Humane Society newsletters.  I found
> the poem really
> let me get out my bottled-up feelings for her, and I
> felt somewhat
> better for writing the poem. Losing her really hurt
> and still hurts a
> lot to this day. The pain has subsided a bit, but is
> not entirely
> gone and I am not sure that it will ever entirely
> disppear. She was a
> special kitty who will always have a special place
> in my heart as I
> know that your kitty will too.
> >
> > I found that talking about Toady really helped me
> understand her
> passing, so please feel free to use this resource as
> often as needed.
> >
> > "If tears could build a stairway and memories a
> lane,
> > I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home
> again"
> >     Sarah LennoxCommunity Awareness and Special
> Events
> CoordinatorNorthumberland Humane Society371 Ward
> StreetPort Hope,
> ONL1A 4A4north1@...
> >
> >
> > To: northpetloss@...: rainow14@...: Thu, 31 Jan
> 2008 06:16:39
> +0000Subject: [northpetloss] hello new member
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Hi...My name is Ashley and my cat mischief died
> today suddenly ...i
> am not sure how he died but i heard a bang in the
> washroom i thought
> he knocked some shampoo bottles in the tub so i
> didn't go look to see
> what it was cause he was always doing stuff like
> that ... about 20
> minutes later i went in to use the washroom ... and
> he was in the tub
> just laying there and he was not moving so i called
> his name and he
> wouldn't rsepond so i picked him up and he still was
> not responding
> and he was cold so i ran next door to my nebours and
> they said he had
> passed on ... i am taking this very hard and blaming
> myself wonderinf
> if there was nayhting i coulda done to save him ...
> everyone telling
> me there nothin i coulda done even teh vet .... but
> he was only 5
> years old and he was a gray tabby ... has anyone
> else had issues like
> this and how did u deal with your grief... i am
> finding it very hard
> to sleep tonight and all i been doing is crying ...
> ashley
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
>
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> >
>
>
>


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Hey Sarah-
Would you feel comfortable posting your poem in the
files section of the Pet Memorial Garden?  Or allow me
to post it?
Thanks so much for sharing.
L.

--- "S. Lennox" <bikini_bottom_7@...> wrote:

>
> Hi Ashley
>
> I wanted to let you know how sorry I am that you had
> to lose your cat at 5 years of age. Losing a pet an
> any age is quite tough, but losing one so young must
> makes it even harder.
> It sounds like his death was so sudden that there
> was absolutely nothing you could have done to
> prevent it.
>
> I too just lost one of my cats (Toady) in September
> of 2007; she was 12 years and had been diagnosed
> with liver failure.
> Every year in June I do the animal wellness testing
> for geriatric pets. This is a special blood test
> that screens for certain conditions that older cats
> are more susceptible to get. Everything came back
> a-okay. But somewhere between the end of June and
> the beginning of July, Toady started getting sick
> and losing weight. (Toady was a big-boned kitty so
> for her to lose weight was bizarre). Could I have
> done anything more to prevent her from getting liver
> disease? I asked myself this question over and over
> again, but finally came to the conclusion that there
> was nothing else preventitive-wise that I could have
> done.
> As far as treatment of this condition, I know that I
> did as much as I could to give her a better quality
> of life. There were other treatments that we could
> have done to possibly extend her life, but the vet
> could make no guarantees of any of them.
> It was just her time I guess, so to make the long
> story short, we said our last goodbye to her on
> September 7th, 2007.
> I cried and cried all weekend long. I wrote a poem
> about her and posted it on my facebook wall as well
> as included it in one of the Northumberland Humane
> Society newsletters.  I found the poem really let me
> get out my bottled-up feelings for her, and I felt
> somewhat better for writing the poem. Losing her
> really hurt and still hurts a lot to this day. The
> pain has subsided a bit, but is not entirely gone
> and I am not sure that it will ever entirely
> disppear. She was a special kitty who will always
> have a special place in my heart as I know that your
> kitty will too.
>
> I found that talking about Toady really helped me
> understand her passing, so please feel free to use
> this resource as often as needed.
>
> "If tears could build a stairway and memories a
> lane,
> I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home
> again"
>     Sarah LennoxCommunity Awareness and Special
> Events CoordinatorNorthumberland Humane Society371
> Ward StreetPort Hope, ONL1A
> 4A4north1@...
>
>
> To: northpetloss@...:
> rainow14@...: Thu, 31 Jan 2008 06:16:39
> +0000Subject: [northpetloss] hello new member
>
>
>
>
> Hi...My name is Ashley and my cat mischief died
> today suddenly ...i am not sure how he died but i
> heard a bang in the washroom i thought he knocked
> some shampoo bottles in the tub so i didn't go look
> to see what it was cause he was always doing stuff
> like that ... about 20 minutes later i went in to
> use the washroom ... and he was in the tub just
> laying there and he was not moving so i called his
> name and he wouldn't rsepond so i picked him up and
> he still was not responding and he was cold so i ran
> next door to my nebours and they said he had passed
> on ... i am taking this very hard and blaming myself
> wonderinf if there was nayhting i coulda done to
> save him ... everyone telling me there nothin i
> coulda done even teh vet .... but he was only 5
> years old and he was a gray tabby ... has anyone
> else had issues like this and how did u deal with
> your grief... i am finding it very hard to sleep
> tonight and all i been doing is crying ... ashley
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
_________________________________________________________________
>
>


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hey everyone ...

due to the storm i stuck home today ... so that making it hard ... i
threw away his litter box and lifted up his food dishes today ... i
can't seem to find it in myself to fluff up th couch where he alway
laid and his body indented the couch on that area ... mischief was
really special he was mean to eveyone but special ... he use to beat
hte living crap outta my sister dog ... he would climb on to it cause
they were the same size ... now her dog is terrified of cats and
refuses to enter my apartment .... i think mischief had siamese in
him ...  i bought him from a pet store five years ago in march ... i
went back to that pet store yesterday to ask if they screen their
cats and there answer was no ... but i know no matter how angry i get
at them its not going bring him back .... he not going come back and
i relize this even through i wish he would ... i been crying again
today ... i go through lil times of it ... everyone keeps offering me
kittens ... they want me to be happy ...but i am not ready to have a
kitten yet ... i don't know if i will EVER be ready ... i miss him so
much and i am afaird of getting another one and him/her dying .... i
know all pets die but this one was a shock to my system...  he was
such a good boy but such a trouble maker ... i guess he lived alot of
life in five years ... this past christmas he ate the plastic
chrismtas tree .... i had to take it down cause he refused to stop
sucking on it ... i feel so guilty still ... i feel like i coulda
done more ... what if i hadda gone and check when i heard the
bang ... what then coudl i have saved him ?? sorry for writing so
much ... i am just feeling really down ...

Ash

--- In northpetloss@yahoogroups.com, "S. Lennox"
<bikini_bottom_7@...> wrote:
>
>
> Hi Ashley
>
> I wanted to let you know how sorry I am that you had to lose your
cat at 5 years of age. Losing a pet an any age is quite tough, but
losing one so young must makes it even harder.
> It sounds like his death was so sudden that there was absolutely
nothing you could have done to prevent it.
>
> I too just lost one of my cats (Toady) in September of 2007; she
was 12 years and had been diagnosed with liver failure.
> Every year in June I do the animal wellness testing for geriatric
pets. This is a special blood test that screens for certain
conditions that older cats are more susceptible to get. Everything
came back a-okay. But somewhere between the end of June and the
beginning of July, Toady started getting sick and losing weight.
(Toady was a big-boned kitty so for her to lose weight was bizarre).
Could I have done anything more to prevent her from getting liver
disease? I asked myself this question over and over again, but
finally came to the conclusion that there was nothing else
preventitive-wise that I could have done.
> As far as treatment of this condition, I know that I did as much as
I could to give her a better quality of life. There were other
treatments that we could have done to possibly extend her life, but
the vet could make no guarantees of any of them.
> It was just her time I guess, so to make the long story short, we
said our last goodbye to her on September 7th, 2007.
> I cried and cried all weekend long. I wrote a poem about her and
posted it on my facebook wall as well as included it in one of the
Northumberland Humane Society newsletters.  I found the poem really
let me get out my bottled-up feelings for her, and I felt somewhat
better for writing the poem. Losing her really hurt and still hurts a
lot to this day. The pain has subsided a bit, but is not entirely
gone and I am not sure that it will ever entirely disppear. She was a
special kitty who will always have a special place in my heart as I
know that your kitty will too.
>
> I found that talking about Toady really helped me understand her
passing, so please feel free to use this resource as often as needed.
>
> "If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane,
> I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again"
>     Sarah LennoxCommunity Awareness and Special Events
CoordinatorNorthumberland Humane Society371 Ward StreetPort Hope,
ONL1A 4A4north1@...
>
>
> To: northpetloss@...: rainow14@...: Thu, 31 Jan 2008 06:16:39
+0000Subject: [northpetloss] hello new member
>
>
>
>
> Hi...My name is Ashley and my cat mischief died today suddenly ...i
am not sure how he died but i heard a bang in the washroom i thought
he knocked some shampoo bottles in the tub so i didn't go look to see
what it was cause he was always doing stuff like that ... about 20
minutes later i went in to use the washroom ... and he was in the tub
just laying there and he was not moving so i called his name and he
wouldn't rsepond so i picked him up and he still was not responding
and he was cold so i ran next door to my nebours and they said he had
passed on ... i am taking this very hard and blaming myself wonderinf
if there was nayhting i coulda done to save him ... everyone telling
me there nothin i coulda done even teh vet .... but he was only 5
years old and he was a gray tabby ... has anyone else had issues like
this and how did u deal with your grief... i am finding it very hard
to sleep tonight and all i been doing is crying ... ashley
>
>
>
>
>
>
> _________________________________________________________________
>

"If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane,

I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again"

    

Sarah Lennox
Community Awareness and Special Events Coordinator
Northumberland Humane Society
371 Ward Street
Port Hope, ON
L1A 4A4
north1@...
905-885-4131

---

To: northpetloss@yahoogroups.com
From: rainow14@...
Date: Thu, 31 Jan 2008 06:16:39 +0000
Subject: [northpetloss] hello new member

Hi...

My name is Ashley and my cat mischief died today suddenly ...i am not
sure how he died but i heard a bang in the washroom i thought he
knocked some shampoo bottles in the tub so i didn't go look to see what
it was cause he was always doing stuff like that ... about 20 minutes
later i went in to use the washroom ... and he was in the tub just
laying there and he was not moving so i called his name and he wouldn't
rsepond so i picked him up and he still was not responding and he was
cold so i ran next door to my nebours and they said he had passed
on ... i am taking this very hard and blaming myself wonderinf if there
was nayhting i coulda done to save him ... everyone telling me there
nothin i coulda done even teh vet .... but he was only 5 years old and
he was a gray tabby ... has anyone else had issues like this and how
did u deal with your grief... i am finding it very hard to sleep
tonight and all i been doing is crying ...

ashley

Hi Ashley-
Absolutely it's normal.  It's like trying to adjust to
the situation.  For me, when our cat Sonya died, I too
experienced those numb periods, almost as though I'd
stopped thinking about it, and then when I remembered
again it felt terrible.
It's normal to experience a range of emotions, from
crying, to restlessness, inability to concentrate to
actual physcial symptoms like nausea or body aches.
Are there some of your friends or family who are
understanding of how you feel and realize your grief
is valid and real?  These are good people to spend
time with right now.
In addtion, some people who have just experienced the
devastation of losing a pet find it helpful to express
their feelings by memorializing their pet in poems,
stories, or a photo collage.  A ceremony to honor the
pet's memory is often helpful too.
It's important during this time to take care of
yourself as well, by getting some fresh air and
exercise, and eating right, even though you may not
feel hungry.
I'm not sure where you are located; are you in
Ontario?  If so you can call the Ontario Veterinary
College's Pet Loss Support Hotline; there are people
there who are trained in grief councelling and they
can be very helpful.  I've recommended them before and
the feedback was positive.  You will find the number
to call in the links section of the Pet Memorial Site.
Of course, post here whenever you need to.  I will
check the site every couple of hours to see if you've
posted and how you're doing.  Remember - YOU ARE NOT
ALONE!  We know how you feel.
It will get easier for you, it will just take some
time.
If anyone else on the site has something they'd like
to share with Ashley, please do post.  I know you have
all experienced a similar loss,or losses, so please
share and help give Ashley support during this
difficult time.
Lynne


--- rainow14 <rainow14@...> wrote:

> Hey Lynne,
>
>  I found yesterday night very hard .... i came home
> from work and i
> relized i was coming home to am empty apartment and
> no one was coming
> here to greet me or give me kisses .... i relized
> that no one was
> going be here to love me or anything ... so i found
> that very
> hard ... i woke up this morning and now i am
> starting to feel a bit
> numb and i am not sure if thats ok or not .... i
> miss him so much ...
> and i miss having his meows in the morning .... its
> very hard ... i
> found going to work yesterday helped a bit until i
> relzied i was
> coming home to an empty house with nothin to snuggle
> up and kiss
> me ...  is it normal for me to go numb and then cry
> and then go numb
> again ??
>
> thank you so much for listerning
>
> ash
>
> --- In northpetloss@yahoogroups.com, Aisling Mere
> <myzen66@...> wrote:
> >
> > Hello Ashley
> > I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  I know what
> you
> > must be going through right now.
> > I would say that there was nothing you could have
> > done....but actually that is not true because you
> did
> > everything you could - that is, provide Mischief
> with
> > a loving home for 5 years, and that is huge!  The
> fact
> > that he died suddenly is something that you could
> have
> > done absolutely nothing about, sometimes these
> things
> > just happen.
> > There are only a few members here yet but I think
> they
> > will all tell you that they have had the same
> thoughts
> > about the passing of their loved animal; is there
> > something more I could have done?  Did I do
> enough?
> > Fact is, you will come to realize that you did
> > everything you could do and more, and that it
> wasn't
> > your fault.
> > If you would like to put a picture of Mischief in
> the
> > memorial album, please do so, and check out the
> links
> > section for some very helpful places to visit on
> the
> > web.  And of course, post here whenever you need
> to
> > get your thoughts out or to connect with someone
> who
> > understands your grief.  That is what we are here
> for!
> > Take care, my dear, and again, we all know how you
> > feel, allow me again to express my deepest
> sympathy in
> > your time of loss.
> > Lynne
> >
> >
> > --- rainow14 <rainow14@...> wrote:
> >
> > > Hi...
> > >
> > > My name is Ashley and my cat mischief died today
> > > suddenly ...i am not
> > > sure how he died but i heard a bang in the
> washroom
> > > i thought he
> > > knocked some shampoo bottles in the tub so i
> didn't
> > > go look to see what
> > > it was cause he was always doing stuff like that
> ...
> > > about 20 minutes
> > > later i went in to use the washroom ... and he
> was
> > > in the tub just
> > > laying there and he was not moving so i called
> his
> > > name and he wouldn't
> > > rsepond so i picked him up and he still was not
> > > responding and he was
> > > cold so i ran next door to my nebours and they
> said
> > > he had passed
> > > on ... i am taking this very hard and blaming
> myself
> > > wonderinf if there
> > > was nayhting i coulda done to save him ...
> everyone
> > > telling me there
> > > nothin i coulda done even teh vet .... but he
> was
> > > only 5 years old and
> > > he was a gray tabby ... has anyone else had
> issues
> > > like this and how
> > > did u deal with your grief... i am finding it
> very
> > > hard to sleep
> > > tonight and all i been doing is crying ...
> > >
> > > ashley
> > >
> > >
> >
> >
> > "Life's tough, but I'm tougher!"
> > -Marion Ryan
> >
> >
> >
>
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Hey Lynne,

  I found yesterday night very hard .... i came home from work and i
relized i was coming home to am empty apartment and no one was coming
here to greet me or give me kisses .... i relized that no one was
going be here to love me or anything ... so i found that very
hard ... i woke up this morning and now i am starting to feel a bit
numb and i am not sure if thats ok or not .... i miss him so much ...
and i miss having his meows in the morning .... its very hard ... i
found going to work yesterday helped a bit until i relzied i was
coming home to an empty house with nothin to snuggle up and kiss
me ...  is it normal for me to go numb and then cry and then go numb
again ??

thank you so much for listerning

ash

--- In northpetloss@yahoogroups.com, Aisling Mere <myzen66@...> wrote:
>
> Hello Ashley
> I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  I know what you
> must be going through right now.
> I would say that there was nothing you could have
> done....but actually that is not true because you did
> everything you could - that is, provide Mischief with
> a loving home for 5 years, and that is huge!  The fact
> that he died suddenly is something that you could have
> done absolutely nothing about, sometimes these things
> just happen.
> There are only a few members here yet but I think they
> will all tell you that they have had the same thoughts
> about the passing of their loved animal; is there
> something more I could have done?  Did I do enough?
> Fact is, you will come to realize that you did
> everything you could do and more, and that it wasn't
> your fault.
> If you would like to put a picture of Mischief in the
> memorial album, please do so, and check out the links
> section for some very helpful places to visit on the
> web.  And of course, post here whenever you need to
> get your thoughts out or to connect with someone who
> understands your grief.  That is what we are here for!
> Take care, my dear, and again, we all know how you
> feel, allow me again to express my deepest sympathy in
> your time of loss.
> Lynne
>
>
> --- rainow14 <rainow14@...> wrote:
>
> > Hi...
> >
> > My name is Ashley and my cat mischief died today
> > suddenly ...i am not
> > sure how he died but i heard a bang in the washroom
> > i thought he
> > knocked some shampoo bottles in the tub so i didn't
> > go look to see what
> > it was cause he was always doing stuff like that ...
> > about 20 minutes
> > later i went in to use the washroom ... and he was
> > in the tub just
> > laying there and he was not moving so i called his
> > name and he wouldn't
> > rsepond so i picked him up and he still was not
> > responding and he was
> > cold so i ran next door to my nebours and they said
> > he had passed
> > on ... i am taking this very hard and blaming myself
> > wonderinf if there
> > was nayhting i coulda done to save him ... everyone
> > telling me there
> > nothin i coulda done even teh vet .... but he was
> > only 5 years old and
> > he was a gray tabby ... has anyone else had issues
> > like this and how
> > did u deal with your grief... i am finding it very
> > hard to sleep
> > tonight and all i been doing is crying ...
> >
> > ashley
> >
> >
>
>
> "Life's tough, but I'm tougher!"
> -Marion Ryan
>
>
>
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Hello Ashley
I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  I know what you
must be going through right now.
I would say that there was nothing you could have
done....but actually that is not true because you did
everything you could - that is, provide Mischief with
a loving home for 5 years, and that is huge!  The fact
that he died suddenly is something that you could have
done absolutely nothing about, sometimes these things
just happen.
There are only a few members here yet but I think they
will all tell you that they have had the same thoughts
about the passing of their loved animal; is there
something more I could have done?  Did I do enough?
Fact is, you will come to realize that you did
everything you could do and more, and that it wasn't
your fault.
If you would like to put a picture of Mischief in the
memorial album, please do so, and check out the links
section for some very helpful places to visit on the
web.  And of course, post here whenever you need to
get your thoughts out or to connect with someone who
understands your grief.  That is what we are here for!
Take care, my dear, and again, we all know how you
feel, allow me again to express my deepest sympathy in
your time of loss.
Lynne


--- rainow14 <rainow14@...> wrote:

> Hi...
>
> My name is Ashley and my cat mischief died today
> suddenly ...i am not
> sure how he died but i heard a bang in the washroom
> i thought he
> knocked some shampoo bottles in the tub so i didn't
> go look to see what
> it was cause he was always doing stuff like that ...
> about 20 minutes
> later i went in to use the washroom ... and he was
> in the tub just
> laying there and he was not moving so i called his
> name and he wouldn't
> rsepond so i picked him up and he still was not
> responding and he was
> cold so i ran next door to my nebours and they said
> he had passed
> on ... i am taking this very hard and blaming myself
> wonderinf if there
> was nayhting i coulda done to save him ... everyone
> telling me there
> nothin i coulda done even teh vet .... but he was
> only 5 years old and
> he was a gray tabby ... has anyone else had issues
> like this and how
> did u deal with your grief... i am finding it very
> hard to sleep
> tonight and all i been doing is crying ...
>
> ashley
>
>


"Life's tough, but I'm tougher!"
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Hi...

My name is Ashley and my cat mischief died today suddenly ...i am not
sure how he died but i heard a bang in the washroom i thought he
knocked some shampoo bottles in the tub so i didn't go look to see what
it was cause he was always doing stuff like that ... about 20 minutes
later i went in to use the washroom ... and he was in the tub just
laying there and he was not moving so i called his name and he wouldn't
rsepond so i picked him up and he still was not responding and he was
cold so i ran next door to my nebours and they said he had passed
on ... i am taking this very hard and blaming myself wonderinf if there
was nayhting i coulda done to save him ... everyone telling me there
nothin i coulda done even teh vet .... but he was only 5 years old and
he was a gray tabby ... has anyone else had issues like this and how
did u deal with your grief... i am finding it very hard to sleep
tonight and all i been doing is crying ...

ashley

Hi and welcome!
Feel free to post a picture of Allie-boo in the
memorial album, or a special poem in the files
section.
Incidentally, speaking of messages, the Book Animals
and the Afterlife is full of interesting stories like
that as well.
Lynne


--- Ann <cabright@...> wrote:

> Hi, and thanks for the invite, Lynne. I have been an
> animal lover all
> my life and have had many pets down through the
> years. Losing them can
> be extremely heart-wrenching -- we think when we
> first start out with
> them as puppies and kittens that 10 or 15 years is a
> long time, but it
> sure passes fast! I can't believe our two cats,
> Renny and Robin, are
> now ten years old, and that it's also been nearly
> ten years since my
> dog, Alice, died in early January of 1998. I will
> always remember it as
> it was the same day as the big ice storm in Quebec.
>
> Incidentally, I am Managing Editor of Animal
> Wellness Magazine, and in
> each issue we include a tribute article from someone
> about an animal
> that has passed on. It's often hard to edit these
> stories without
> crying, but it's also inspiring how these people
> deal with their losses
> and grow from the experience. Some pretty amazing
> things occasionally
> happen, too. Some people get messages from their
> animals after they
> have gone (see the Nov-Dec issue for a really cool
> story about that!),
> while others find that their loss opens the path for
> a wonderful new
> animal or other gift to come into their lives. This
> isn't meant to be
> an ad for the magazine, but many people may find it
> comforting to read
> about other people's experiences and how they coped.
>
>
> BTW, I wouldn't worry about the group being so
> quiet. Most Yahoo groups
> are, I've found. I've belonged to a few that were
> completely inactive
> from one month to the next, so it's nothing unusual!
>
>
>
>
>
>


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Hi, and thanks for the invite, Lynne. I have been an animal lover all
my life and have had many pets down through the years. Losing them can
be extremely heart-wrenching -- we think when we first start out with
them as puppies and kittens that 10 or 15 years is a long time, but it
sure passes fast! I can't believe our two cats, Renny and Robin, are
now ten years old, and that it's also been nearly ten years since my
dog, Alice, died in early January of 1998. I will always remember it as
it was the same day as the big ice storm in Quebec.

Incidentally, I am Managing Editor of Animal Wellness Magazine, and in
each issue we include a tribute article from someone about an animal
that has passed on. It's often hard to edit these stories without
crying, but it's also inspiring how these people deal with their losses
and grow from the experience. Some pretty amazing things occasionally
happen, too. Some people get messages from their animals after they
have gone (see the Nov-Dec issue for a really cool story about that!),
while others find that their loss opens the path for a wonderful new
animal or other gift to come into their lives. This isn't meant to be
an ad for the magazine, but many people may find it comforting to read
about other people's experiences and how they coped.

BTW, I wouldn't worry about the group being so quiet. Most Yahoo groups
are, I've found. I've belonged to a few that were completely inactive
from one month to the next, so it's nothing unusual!