"cambellite" <cambellite@...> wrote:

> HOW IMPORTANT IS IT TO ROLE PLAY IN A GROUP SETTING,CHANGING A YOU
> STATEMENT TO AN I STATEMENT

Your question (if it is a question) is a bit vague, but I think I
have a response that could answer your question. Often, when trying
to teach assertiveness, a person is educated to translate "you"
statements into "I" statements. For instance:

I feel X (e.g., upset) when you do Y (e.g., don't call me when
you're coming home late) because of Z (e.g., I get worried that
something might have happened to you). I would like you to do Q
(e.g., call me when you know you're going to be late).

"You" statements that would be unhelpful here would be something
like: "You're inconsiderate because you didn't call. Do you only
think of yourself? I know I should have listened to mother and never
married you!" (O.K., I'm carrying it a bit far, but you get the
idea.)

The "I" statement focuses on the behavior that is bothering the
person and the reasons why, and what you would like the person to do
instead. In contrast, the conflict-laden "you" statements attack the
person's motives and character and does not offer a possible
resolution to the problem.

Hope that helps!

Walter