Lori Hon? 0 Contact....0 contact.....0 contact....0 contact. Enough said... Connie ;-) nwgirlintx <nwgirlintx@...> wrote: Thank you so much for taking...
... This statement is foolish and above all dangerous. It also really doesn't make much sense. Not too long ago you were contemplating suicide because of the...
Hi Suzy, Angie and Hannah It's so good to hear from you all. Suzy, you sound strong and positive: Angie, your calm wisdom is still shining through and Hannah,...
Suzanne, My N is sooooo pissed off right now, because the best revenge is to make a good life. That is all I have done, and he rages....totally worth it, tho!...
Hi Lisa: You're right of course!! My best revenge is moving on, and yes, I'm in a far better place than when I was with him at any time for 5 1/2 yrs. I'm...
Yes, if an N is an N it is good to know that. My mother is an N, but I excluded her from my life for 3 years and have no illusions about her. My exhusband is a...
... Good to know that is getting better for you. I've found that the obsessive thoughts come in waves. They're always in the back of my mind but sometimes...
A thought came to me yesterday that I've been thinking about all night. Maybe I didn't love my ex-N. When I think about "Love", I think about trust, respect,...
No, his affairs are none of my business. I've thought of this often and realize this is my boundary issue. So I guess the truth is, I just want to make him...
Ive had those same conversations with myself and others. I think relationships with Ns are very complicated and occur on many different levels of our psyche....
My goodness!!!!! I am just beginning to process this also. I don’t think I really did love him. I have concluded that it was what I was use to. Being...
Yes it is good she stuck up for herself, but even in doing this, it is still contact and more info that he will use later against her. It's still contact and...
Dear Star, I have it on pretty good authority that religious N's have God all wrong. They are either cured of their N or all of them go to a special hell...
My sister-in-law and I talked on Monday and she remarked I wasn't fun anymore since I had dropped the hostility towards the 'ex N. (She was kidding) In...
Wanting to believe ain't going to make it so. Did they seem like N's when we fell in love with them, or did we even know what a Narcissist was? So, maybe he's...
Dear Kiddo, Mine did the tax evasion thing too, and I was tempted to turn him in until I remembered I don't work for the IRS and I don't want anything to do...
Dear Susanne: I am glad to read that you have been able to work thru the need for vengeance. Once you cut yourself off from him, it must be done completely....
Susanne, Not only are the kids and I kicking butt, but he is crashing and burning......all of his own accord. It took so long but the wait was worth it. ...
Thanks Ladies!! Slimeball, bottomfeeder, scumbag--how appropriate. Initially, it was hard for me to post my thoughts of vengeance but I knew I needed to get...
0 contact is definately a sanity saver.. Any contact with a N is showing them that we give a flip about them. They hate to be ignored, and this gives us our...
Hannah, Thinking that your ex is not an N and re-evaluating your relationship is fine, and the group has always listened with kindness and patience to anyone...
Suzanne: Feeling for the others he may have or is hurting or scamming in some way, is normal. It's also normal to desire the sweet taste of revenge. But with...
Dear Angie, I think differences are important. I am a depressive. I am not an N. My exhusband was a pedophile and an N. He was an evil and cruel man. I ended...
Dear Hannah: I came back to delete my earlier message to you because it was harsh and insensitive. Your one-liner struck a sensitive nerve in me. I am sorry...
Somebody wrote, "Did you forget what 'normal' is"? I've had normal relationships that ended for one reason or another but nothing like this. I went from...
Dear Angie, Thanks so much for your understanding and concern. My exhusband sexually abused both my children. He abused me emotionally. I have nothing to do...
I had a great therapist who asked me if I'd ever met the only non-dysfunctional family in the world. Then he warned me that both their kids were screwed up. ...
Dear Hannah, Kids can be awful, I know. My eldest was verbally abusive, addicted, and violent. He suffered blackouts, dropped out of school, refused to work....
