Thank you, Nicky, for presenting this excellent, well-thought-out study on Hooks and Detaching. I was reading what you wrote. I remember very well, when you...
Dearest Angie, what you said means a lot to me, thank you! I wrote that hooks and detaching post for a few members in Aftermath because a LOT of them there...
Yes, I have found someone who is very involved in domestic abuse cases, emotional, and economic abuse as well as physical. It is a couple, she is head of the...
Oh Lalaw...I feel SO badly for you. Yes, this always happens. But so not berate yourself....sometimes we need that slap in the face to finally put the last...
Thanks Suzy! idn ... better. ... -- ... the ... scenarios ... be ... are ... and ... and ... is - ... seem ... do ... who ... deposition ... -- ... prior ... ...
Well, friends, I did not sleep well, the kids are moving out today, N is so stony and silent it is like the calm before the storm. In spite of early this...
I am so sorry that you have to feel the way you do this morning.Please keep remembering that the steps you are about to take will be the absoulute best for...
... You are SO right Maresie! abandonment issues, boundary issues, scapegoate issues, caretaking issues...that's heavy duty Velcro to an N. I would SO ove to...
Thanks...I have had the consult...this is scary because I want to start the legal separation business...this is the real thing!!! Today, the kids left, N never...
IDN, Bck from Easter travel, just catching up on posts. I agree with Candi-DON'T tell him! I know it may feel unfair, but, he is the enemy. First, you are not...
I think my recovery from NCoism has been the impetus for much change in my life. I did struggle with deprivation issues before and eating to compensate for my...
I just am scared to come home and say "Hi...I've filed for divorce/legal sep. today" afraid he will go beserk. I already know by the weird way he is acting...
Idn, I am concerned that you feel like he might go around the bend (even further)with the news that it is finally over. Since you have asked him to leave ...
Thanks....scared for you too.They get us in such a state. I am seeing the lawyer, who has done well in abuse cases and understands the syndrome really well. I...
Idn: I would go with your gut feeling, it you feel he is going to react plan accordingly. Have a back up. My exN husband talked about divorce all the time...
Idn, They get us in such a state that we are willing to accept less than we deserve to keep the peace. Listen, he will wear you down if you let him. You were...
IDN, Is Jersey an Equitable Distribution state? Do you have one of those "How to Divorce in NJ" books? Those helped me immensely, mainly to form good questions...
Thanks for advice....I am going to try and stand my ground and take the house. If he refuses to budge I can go to our other house on the same property and not...
Thanks for the pep talk....I will fight. We had next to nothing when we married....each of us had a fledgling business. His did well, I wasn't so lucky, though...
Connie.....I am the original eating machine! I have low blood sugar and need to eat all the time it seems. I have trained myself to love better food. I eat...
They just know that it's hard for sweeties like us to hurt or abandon someone when they are trying to be nice. A**holes!!! idn ... and after all the hateful...
IDN, I got 72% of everything thru ED, was only a meeting, not a court appearance.....then we bargained for what items would make the 72%...I told my lawyer I...
Idn: Me and my exN husband had not too much to speak of..when we divorced..but it still took more than a year. Do you have a strategy to deal with the time it...
