I feel alone when I am sending my energy to former partner. I seem to be working out a balance. If I need to connect with him, at chorus or because of his...
Yesterday my back started to hurt really bad. I chalked it up to a dance piece I am doing which is really hard on my body. The day went on the pain got ...
Kimberly, It sounds like you and he are doing a dance: he's trying to stay in control of you--through the dog, through the car, etc. You are a good dancer and...
Dear Kim, The numbness is like a big weight, like a noxious gas so you can't breathe... I know that feeling, too (from a year ago...) My T said it was PTSD,...
Thanks Suzy-- Yes, the book. There are like 5 people who know my totally bizarre story and know that even if I told anyone else, no one would believe it. The...
Hi Everybody, I need help. badly. Very Scared today. Cuppa already wrote my problem: <<And so now he is trying to get full custody of our beautiful children,...
Dear Lisa, I strongly recommend you join the Aftermath group for help in these custody/divorce issues. The Aftermath moderator, Lynda, is exceptionally gifted...
Lisa Go out and get a blood test for drugs NOW and do so every month till you can bring it up in court when he says all these things about you. I am having a...
I've read the other's advice and agree 100% Now, calm down. Remember, the burden of proof is on him. How can he prove it? By testing...psychological...
hey nicky- just loved loved your post. you're so fabulous, girl. i feel like we are/have been through soooooo many of the same things..... yeah. i feel like...
That's so funny! That's my code name for XH! LMAO, pinnochio... :P When I talk about him and his GF, they are BS, cause I found it really funny how their...
In a message dated 3/2/02 1:13:55 AM, kimberly_houstn@... writes: << I don't know what to do, I am numb. >> hang in there, honey.... we're all listening...
I feel numb too, Kimberly. Today I realized that N hasn't taken me seriously about things being over in the romantic/emotional dept. He has been humoring me,...
Nicky: I think I am allergic to my cats when they really shed. My big bug is dust...especially those little mites that live in dirty houses. All the more...
hannah: I think you are on dangerous ground having continuous contact with the N. I know we become so used to them that it seems like they are not affecting...
Kim: The only way I can deal with N's is to expect nothing from them and hold them at a distance. Even then the impulse to trash and cause havoc is so strong...
Nicky: I really do appreciate your loving concern about my health issues. What has changed in my outlook on my health is that at long last I am willing to...
So sorry Maresie...that you were beaten around the head. I was too, very badly, do you have any lasting strange effects? My mother would beat me with a large...
Hello all.....Just stumbled on the fact that I live with an N and didnt realize that I have been a victim of verbal abuse until a few wks ago.....unfortunatly,...
donnaaviles
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Mar 2, 2002 3:28 am
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Hi, I'm new here, but I recently divorced an NH. We have kids so I still have to deal with him and am dealing with some visitation and custody issues. I tried...
noelk00
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Mar 2, 2002 4:04 am
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... Hi Donna, boy does your situation sound familiar. My recent ex was a police officer, actually as he CONTINUALLY tells people he is a "Federal Police...
noelk00
noelk00@...
Mar 2, 2002 4:12 am
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I just got back from an activity, on my own, with a group of friends. I'm feeling better because of these people, who I share music with. I know I was suicidal...
Hi Angels! Thank you for the support and resources, which i will of course access right away! Voni, how do I get to the CP site? I have so much dirt on him,...
So sad, confusing and horrible for you. So like many of our N husband's. The jealousy, it is just projection. Stand firm, do the things you love as much as...
EEEEWWWWW is right Lisa!! I bet that rotten N just found out the divorce wasn't final too, and figured he still had time to pull some nasty stunts!! I think...
Idn: I still find it hard to deal with doctors, therapists and other people around the physical abuse because it was acknowledged by them. My mother was...
Hannah: As NCo's we sometimes think that caring about others is good therapy when in fact we have to start caring about ourselves first in order to move on to...
Noel: Welcome to this group. I am glad you are here. I do believe the topica list is one that requires the moderator to write to you and it takes a while to...
Welcome to this group. Dealing with an n is an incredible journey isn't it. I too have been in the place when an N showed me his new supply and that triggered...
