I'm posting this again because my first message came back as undeliverable. It looks like it was delivered to me, but maybe I'm just seeing things ;=) So...
Hi just wanted to introduce myself to you all. I have both an N mother and N Grandmother. I have 4 children whom i live with by myself, i separated from my...
Hi Joanne, Welcome to the group. I can relate to your post. I too have to distance myself from my nmom. For years I felt guilty for even being alive, see I...
Hi Joanne and All; Welcome to the group. I learned a couple of things about N that really helped me. The first one was to tell myself that they loved me just...
.....and I want to thank Nancy for the comments you just made about handling an N person, as well as the moderator for accepting me here. It's comforting to...
Hi Joanne, I think you've worked out the family dynamics very accurately. Now there's the acceptance of it, followed by the grieving of the family you've lost...
Do any of you find it hard to lighten up and laugh and enjoy all the little things in life that come your way that are pleasant or should make you proud and...
Hi kimbers and nancy Thanks for getting in touch its so uplifting to be able to speak to other people who understand this illness. Nancy your advice was spot...
Absolutely! The first five hours after I got engaged I barely said a word...looking back it was because I was so happy I was sure someone was going to take...
Hi Budhra, nice to "meet" you here. It seems like the "unwritten rules" of an N mother are: Don't be happy, Don't have friends, Don't be successful. If...
Hi Joanne and welcome to the group. Wow, I hadn't thought about how NPD my step-grandma is. She and Grandpa divorced many years ago, but I SOOOO remember all...
howdy, yep sounds very familiar and it can be overcome. i suggest finding a different method than i used though, i was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer [its a...
hi rachel that was a really interesting story i can see alot of similarities between us too especially the part about dear old mom coming over to do your...
I am about to divorce my NPD husband and as we go through the court process on everything it keeps getting worse. I knew he was NPD, but all of this is fueling...
Hi Jack. I'm a cancer survivor too. Blessings to you! Glad you're still around also! 12 years for me! What helped me emotionally during my treatments - I...
Kathy, one thing I can tell you that will help you very much through the divorce is to find a lawyer who doesn't buy into the emotional tactics your...
Wow Diane, this is so clearly summarized by you. I have to agree. Haven't spoken to my dad (and mom) for over a year now and although devastating, it's hard to...
Hi I'm also new, and I dont know what can I say in this matter, because I think everyone knows most of the members have experience about NPD. My partner he's...
Diane, I know exactly what you mean about not being able to be yourself. My husband throws tantrums if I dare to say no to something he wants or if I disagree...
Don't get sucked into his drama. You have no control over what he says, what he does, or what he thinks. But you have complete control over how you respond and...
Congratulations to you both on your survival! May you live long, healthy and YES - HAPPY - lives!! Pam Diane <ipaintallday@...> wrote: Hi Jack. I'm a...
Pam, That's one of the hardest things, to not be who you are and be accepted for it in spite of differences of opinion, etc. I think it's part of their...
budhra, So true! Don't get sucked into the drama! Very important to remember this when dealing with any N person, family, friend, business associate. Keep...
hi diane like your ideas on the origins of this narcissism!! its a fascinating subject isnt it?? I dont feel we learn narcissism i reckon its the way are born...
Hi, was someone talking to me, too in one of these situations. My spouse is narcissistic and is honestly about kill me. He knows I am sick and I just can't...
Oh Joanne, that's always been THE question: nature or nurture? I guess if we could figure out if it's just genes or just upbringing or both what a help it...
In a perfect world, everyone would be kind and caring. But it isn't perfect is it. What was that great idea that was going around a few years ago - Random...
Just wanted to briefly chime in on the subject of the causes of pathological narcissism. Here's what I've observed: There has been much research on this the...
