Trying to get thru this overwhelming depressed sadness. The adult me is okay but I think its the scared inner child that is having problems. Now that I am...
Can anyone tell me if this is a form of abuse by proxy? A loved one points out your faults by saying "some people think you are..."or "a few of my friends...
Hi, Carol -- In my opinion, while certainly not a pleasant things to say to someone, I wouldn't call this "abuse by proxy". Abuse By Proxy is getting someone...
Bill, I hadn't thought of this as abuse either, until I realized that the major effect such "criticism" has is to lower self-esteem and ISOLATE the victim from...
I know exactly wht you mean about defending someone...this doesn't mean ignoring serious problems, but it does mean being compassionate and supportive.It means...
Hello group, I actually joined this list for my sister.. as she is just coming out of a 15 yr. narcissistic relationship. (almost 2 weeks to the day) Needless...
I NORMALLY JUST READ- DON T POST.I FELT COMPELLED TO SAY I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL. I WAS IN AWE FOR A LONG LONG TIME.MY EX SON IN LAW IS THE BIG N.WHEN I READ...
AMY WEBB
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Jun 5, 2005 11:24 pm
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Hello there! I'm not sure if my ex-husband would be considered narcissistic or not, but here is my story. I was married to Jeff for three years. The first...
You are right, it will take a long time to heal...she is suffering from Post Tramatic Stress Disorder. There are some things that will help...the very first...
Hi , I am cari from california. Ijust read your email and I wanted to speak from my heart if i may. I too have been through a very abusive marriage and i...
You may be dealing with more than narcissism...look in to borderline personality disorder also if you haven't...sometimes Borderlines also have narcissism. ...
I totally agree with Pamela, this is much more than narcissism. It sounds like your gut instincts are very good, you know that your child isn't safe with this...
I have custody of our 10year old daughter, but my N ex-husband has visitation and is infiltrating every aspect of her life to try and control her and get back...
How awful. You've been through the ringer, got rid of your N, and now he's back for your daughter. Oh boy. Moving away (far, probably) is a last resort, but...
Dear recovery friends, Hi! I've missed you and hope this post finds you all working on your recovery and achieving greater happiness as you awaken and heal. In...
Hi, my name is Wendy. I am not sure where to start but I have an idea so here goes. First of all, the email address for me is my exN’s name NOT mine. It was...
Hello Wendy, I had an N mother that seemed to be Borderline also. I have married two Ns...my present husband is major N and very serious Borderline. First of...
your story made me cry because i have been there and know what it feels like, in fact all i can offer is the knowledge that you are not alone ,the feelings...
I wish I could find a support group in or near Chicago. I have no insurance right now so a doc is not in the near future, Thanks though for your help. So you...
But I feel like I could have done something differently. Every woman in his life pointed out that I was somehow different from the rest, he changed for me,...
But I feel like I could have done something differently. Every woman in his life pointed out that I was somehow different from the rest, he changed for me,...
Hi, Wendy -- Welcome to the group. You did a great job of describing your situation, and your past relationship. Many of us here had had similar experiences,...
there was nothing you could have done ,nothing at all ,he won't change and your life would have been miserable ,trust me when i look back on my experience i...
Thanks so much for taking the time to help me. I had a rough day so far, I can't help watching the doory hoping he will come and save me, even though my head...
Thanks for your help. I thik I know the answer to this question but I can't help but ask it: If he didn't want me back why does he keep me stringing along? Why...
... In short: because he can. To him you are a toy, a plaything, and inanimate object. He doesn't see a real person the same way a healthy person does. He...
Your advice has been trully amazing. I know what you say is true, and when I begin to heal I know I need to look further into why I kept taking him back, why I...
I went thru this when I was young, only 26. He abandoned me quite a few
times and then would always come back saying he loved me and missed me. I
was afraid to...
I had parents with NPD also and was very abandoned and abused by them. They
didn't even get a clue when my younger sister committed suicide. In fact
they made...
