Hi. I'm new to this group, but I am a victim of this disorder. I have just been discarded by my fiance 4 months before my wedding date. I really don't...
Hi Adriana, Sorry to hear about your situation, it is so painful to invest oneself in another only to be discarded, it makes no sense whatsoever and really...
... around me that are in just as much disbelief as I am. I have read a lot of the messages on this board and others and I just get so angry. How are they...
Sounds like he is not willing to be responsible which is so N, they are like 4 year old's (childish, immature, self-centered), wreaking havoc but not wanting...
Thanks again Vic. I hope you had a good time out last night. :) I am really starting to see the abuse and neglect that I have put up with for so many years....
Hi Adriana, I don't think many of us see it coming, most N's are very good chameleons, they camouflage themselves until they get what they want. They are also...
My marriage to an NP/BPD ended two years ago. Over the years I have encountered people who are very difficult to work with. Looking back, I can see some of...
Hi Victor, I am dealing with an nboss and nsupervisor at work. Recently I stepped down as the evening supervisor because my nboss refused to do something about...
Kimbers: I was about to quit when the nsupervisor was transferred. The new supervisor has some n traits too, but not too bad in comparison. When I got rid of...
Adriana, I came across this today and thought of you and your situation, maybe it will help bring some clarity? The subject was on being pushed away or...
You are so right victorlorenzo. These Ns - whether on the domestic scene or the workplace cause a tremendous amount of damage. You may like this site: ...
Thank you, Vic. That was very insightful. It helps to see that this pattern is a pattern. I still have to overcome these feelings of not being attractive or...
Dear Adriana, I'm so sorry that you are going through such a painful time as you try to come to terms with the end of your relationship. It's so hard for us to...
Thank you for making me see that, brat. I am trying to piece my life together, bit by bit. It is still so hard for me to understand, but maybe one day I...
I have spent the last two years of a ten year marriage trying to "understand" this disorder. What has to stop is this wanting to understand to make it all...
I have a 7 yr old feist. She barks and howls... Once upon a time I though if would be cute if I could teach the dog how to meow. Like a foreign language for...
Help! He's torturing me again. My N called me last night and left a message on my voicemail. The message hurt more than the no contact. The message made me...
Can you change your numbers/email addys? ... From: patadge <patadge@...> Sent: May 14, 2005 9:47 AM To: narcissisticpersonalitydisorder@yahoogroups.com ...
Adriana: Let go. It is a lost cause. He does not understand the meaning of LOVE. Change your phone number, or get selective call rejection, or whatever you...
I do such stupid things, like overspend one week and scrap the next. The adult me knows this is wrong but the child part of me feels so comfortable. As a...
Kimbers: Abuse and its trauma can have long lasting effects. I feel for you. However, we don't have to live with the effects of abuse. Have you considered...
Dear Kimbers, I don't understand... how does your mother benefit from this? Do you live together so she knows what is going on or are you telling her and...
Trying to get thru this overwhelming depressed sadness. The adult me is okay but I think its the scared inner child that is having problems. Now that I am...
Can anyone tell me if this is a form of abuse by proxy? A loved one points out your faults by saying "some people think you are..."or "a few of my friends...
Hi, Carol -- In my opinion, while certainly not a pleasant things to say to someone, I wouldn't call this "abuse by proxy". Abuse By Proxy is getting someone...
Bill, I hadn't thought of this as abuse either, until I realized that the major effect such "criticism" has is to lower self-esteem and ISOLATE the victim from...
I know exactly wht you mean about defending someone...this doesn't mean ignoring serious problems, but it does mean being compassionate and supportive.It means...
Hello group, I actually joined this list for my sister.. as she is just coming out of a 15 yr. narcissistic relationship. (almost 2 weeks to the day) Needless...
I NORMALLY JUST READ- DON T POST.I FELT COMPELLED TO SAY I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL. I WAS IN AWE FOR A LONG LONG TIME.MY EX SON IN LAW IS THE BIG N.WHEN I READ...
