Adele -- Many of us understand exactly what you're going through. Hang in there, and please know that what you are experiencing is fairly typical of the ...
hello everyone, I have mentioned the xboyfriend of two years, moved out about 1 month ago, managed to weissel back for a few days, anyway I have been avoiding...
Laurie, Did you read Bill's post of a few days ago talking about the crazy power these people have over us? That might help to re read it and maybe read some ...
Dear Bill, You are very efficient in answering my questions. I thank you for the time and effort that you have taken to communicate your thoughts. Funny thing,...
It's easy for the N to make us question ourselves, even though we know we shouldn't. They are good at that, they have practiced this art to perfection. Don't...
Hello Adele, Thank you for your response, I just wrote to you but lost the whole message some how. Pobably my x. He has access to my computer and I wouldn;t...
Dear Jerry, I can hear how much pain you are in. You need to take care of yourself. If writing a letter to let out your anger is what you need to do then it is...
Hi Jerry, Because my relationship with my N spans over 40 years (he's my brother) I've had plenty of chances to express my anger and rage with him. When we...
Jerry, I understand the pain you are going through...It is a very debilitating situation to any of us who have been through this type of relationship...I too...
Dear T, I hope you don't mind my response, I know you were writing Jerrry, but I recall this same situation in reverse. My N talking to the x wife on the phone...
I just read you post. You get it! It's sad. I learned alot about my husband through studying NPD. I don't think he has the disorder, but has many traits. I...
From - http://www.narcissisticabuse.com/evil.html M.Scott Peck and Sam Vaknin disagree on the whether narcissists are evil. No one wants to talk about it. But...
Dear Jerry, Thank you for the excerpts from the articles online. Wow!!! THye so describe my exN boyfriend very closely and to a lesser extent and my ex...
God, sounds exactly like the so-called "friend" of mine who has completely discarded me. He pushed his way into my life -- my initial impression of him was...
Welcome Irene, I hope that this site provides you with some information and validation for your feelings. I must say I am concerned for you... you say you are...
Wow, Jerry what a blow. I know in Canada it's not easy to get spousal without kids and only been married such a short time. Sorry to hear you have to go...
Hello Irene, I'm no expert but what I have learned especially from this group is trust your intuitions. They are so sneaky that only you will know that things...
Yes, Jerry, you get it. Maybe not completely but you know that it isn't about you, it's about her. Try as hard as we will, we can not make it work. It's not...
Hello, Thank you all for replying to my letter. I am able to see all of your views. I do believe that these persons do not know how to deal with daily life....
It is so familiar to read your post. At the same time for me it is very sad. with all due respect Irene, could anyone change Your way of thinking? The hardest...
... A joke is where two people can laugh and be amused. If one is the "victim" of a joke, then it is not a joke, it is an attack disguised as fun. Who's fun is...
... (((Sometimes I am not sure if I am or not but I am glad you made the distinction between NPD and BPD... my wife strung me along a lot throughout the 13...
After a four year (two being marrried) relationship with an N, I finally got the strength to kick him out of my home. He lied about everything from his age to...
Dear Sandra, I'm sure you are feeling a combination of powerful for calling it over and ending your relationship and fearful for the future and how you'll...
Good for you Sandra! Does it feel empowering to voice that? It takes guts and courage to do what you did. Can I ask what it was that got you to that point?...
I had been suspecting all and even had evidence for a long time. However, through the past 15 months I love both of my parents and had major surgery. He...
