Ok, So I was doing really, really well this week, all happy and not obsessing or anything when I found out some news about my xN. Through the grapevine I heard...
I hear you. Oh I know the feeling. How do the evil prosper? Vent and vent and vent... here. We're the ventilating system. What goes around comes around....
I hear you. Oh I know the feeling. How do the evil prosper? Vent and vent and vent... here. We're the ventilating system. What goes around comes around....
It could be another lie, so don't even worry about it. Even if he is successful right now, it cannot last. They always trip themselves up and then have to...
OK, I'm new here and dying for input so here goes: I met my N over a year ago -- he was a student in a writing class I taught. We got to be what I thought of...
LMazzToops@... wrote:OK, I'm new here and dying for input so here goes: I met my N over a year ago -- he was a student in a writing class I taught. We got...
... have certainly been there several times myself. He would just shut me out and then waltz back like nothing ever happened that I sould be over joyed so to...
Hi all, I am glad to listen to any venting--I do plenty myself. I do find the less I have to do with my exNP the better I am emotionally. He still gets me...
Laura, there is something so incredibly flat-honest in the way you tell this. By golly, all of us recovering suffering idiots in this group may be stupid but...
Hi, Laura -- Sorry to hear about your N experience. He does sound like a classic N, and I feel for you. If you're looking for feedback, here's my take: You...
Hi all thanks for your right-on responses to my N story. I forgot to add that the big revelation my N called to tell me was that he quit drinking. His father...
Hi everyone, Is it true that a somatic narcissist would have sex with a woman without being sexually attracted to her? This is what I suspect could have done...
Dear Laura, Bill and everyone, You both have hit the nail on the head. These NP do not have the capacity to love --it is a long sad story from the emotional...
Dear Adele, Speaking of spooky, in your e-mail he e-mails you and states facts, I separtated with my N of 2 years, he e-mailed me listing the items of his that...
Hi, Laura -- Just a few more quick observations: ... Notice that the reason for the call is something about HIM. It also is something that most would construe...
Hello Laura, Happy Birthday from me too.. Bill seems to have some clear insight into your x's behaviour. It is always push and pull. Tant and tease. I always...
Bill Of COURSE I didn't hear from him on my birthday. Was I surprised? Kind of. Disappointed? Not anymore, I don't care. I had a great time out with my...
I'm not a believer in the victim mentality that a lot of folks adopt when dealing with Ns -- I knew full well what I was getting into. But I can't help but...
Dear Laura, You asked the question whether or not you could be an N. To me, the very fact that you ask is a strong indicator that the answer is no. Ns...
Laura: It takes sanity to question your own sanity. Vic ... adopt when dealing with Ns -- I knew full well what I was getting into. ... myself. I'm definitely...
Hi, Laura -- Most experts tend to think of narcissism as a continuum, and we all have some narcissistic traits. This is considered healthy. On one end of the...
Hi all, and thanks again for the incredible input. I'm learning a lot here, and to be honest, it helps to keep things in perspective about the xN, otherwise...
Dear Laura and all, Yup---it is spooky----especially the way they are all clones of each other. Because of that, we in this group are able to bond. We are not...
Funny you should wonder about 2 NPD together, both my parents where. My mother had a whole multitude of disorder but that one sure stood out. Growing up the...
Laura -- Yeah, it seems almost completely unfathomable, and hurts like the Dickens. And partly because our mind can't comprehend it, we tend to obsess over...
Bill: Well said! I was not able to turn love off instantly, like the light switch. It took much longer, like 4 years, while I went through trying to...
... Dear fiona sorry to here of your struggle right now in this situation i would try to imagine that your n mum is dead right now !!!! what are things you...
Hi, I do remember that you wrote awhile back about your Mom doing poorly. If you see her you will never regret that, I can guarantee it----- after she is ...
Paul: Although the small details were somewhat different, I lived through exactly the same daily torture. It ended only when I left. No material possesions are...
