I think that most of us who deal with narcissistic family members or are trying to recover from the experience of being involved with narcissists tend to get...
Dear Bill, I agree with you when you talk about being an empath. I have always been the type of person that people go to for advice and a nonjudgemental ear....
... My N-dad started taking Lexipro (an anti-depressant) about 6 months ago, at age 76. After about a month we noticed that the edge was gone, that he wasn't...
Do all n's suffer from depression? What about addictions? The one I know has a problem with alcohol and pain killers. When he drinks, he becomes a needy little...
... or ... is ... inability ... as ... my "pleasure" ... and ... Hi Mark, I never thought of n's in terms of "fragility." You said accepting this helped to...
What you wrote is beautiful, uplifting and so true! Those of us involved with n's share very similar personality characteristics. We have the ability to be...
Hi, Mark and Autumn -- Enjoyed your posts on the thread of Ns being very fragile. I agree that many of them are -- their "house of cards" ego can be very ...
I have finally asked the director where I work If I could have a meeting with him. It might blow up in my face. I have a manager that is an N and the morning...
Dear Heather -- I appreciate the feedback. Great post you had. You and I are definitely on the same page, in almost every respect, actually. Our experiences...
... Most, but not all. But those that keep it at bay typically do so because they have a great deal of charm, prestige, power, or a ready source of NS. ... ...
I looked after other peoples children in my home for about 9 years, and the majority of them cry and whinge about Mum leaving, ...well ... at least until she...
Jenny, I tend to agree with you on the point you made. I think a lot of us have to examine ourselves and see why we are susceptible to that kind of guilt trap...
Dear Vicki, IF you were to ask me what you should do about this relationship and you are not with him now I would say don't go back to him for the sake of your...
Dear Bill, Very well put and really insightful especially the part about losing yourself and your dreams with a romantic partner. Your remark about constantly...
Kimbers. , In your case I would ahve lots of documentation of examples of alleged abuse at the meeting. It's harfer to refute a paper trail. Is there anyone...
Dear Autumn and Bill, Read your questions/comments about addictions. My exN boyfriend was a recovering alcoholic, dry for 10 years. His drug of choice was...
... advise ... Well, said, Bill. This is another reason why many of us get sucked into the N world: we don't trust our instincts. Why? In my case, I came from...
Dear Autumn, You are exactly what I'm talking about. I would describe myself as happy, outgoing, easy going, generous and willing people to accept people as...
Well said about empathy. I guess I'm so empathatic that it was just too hard to understand that some one could have NONE. I know it now.... but I still look...
Hi Cindy, I am so thankful that sharing with you worked out. I sent you a note offlist, but I didn't hear back so I am not sure if you got it. Billy and I...
This has been my experience also with my N. He will come right out and tell me that just because he is calmer on the meds doesn't mean that his thinking has...
Lexapro has helped my N...we have tried other things, but didn't get as good a results as this. I think my N may also be ADD or ADHD...that is a separate...
Telling my N that he is not telling the truth is like standing in front of a fast moving freight train...but, I am learning to do it. When caught in a lie, he...
Heather, Thank you for the encouraging reply. I especially appreciate being reminded of the control issue. It's funny (strange) how one can get so used to...
Boy isn't that the truth! I've seen both though, those who do carry on the entire time mum is gone and those who put on the show just when she leaves and ...
I agree with your statement about love and nurturing...it is sad that the lack of this love and nurturing is at the root of their illness and yet it is too...
Hi Sara, My experience with my N husband has run from one extreme to the other. He is finally seeing and admitting he is seeing that his family were all Ns....
Hi Angel, Your advice about the medications changed a whole lot of lives at this end of the country, that's for sure. I never got an off-list note from you or...
Hi Sara, I do think that most of the women here are from the US. My experience with BPD and N was first with my own mother. She appeared to be loving when I...
