I never realized until this week how demanding my N boyfriend is of my time. I've thought the issue was the verbal abuse or the drinking or the control, but I...
I am new to this group. I need some support and i am hoping to get it here, If not for me, for my children. He is so convincing, that I am all the blame, for...
' Dear Snow Angel, I'm so sorry for the abuse that you and your family are being victimzed with. YOu are not to blame! Your kids are not to blame! Here is a...
Hi all I've just joined this group after discovering NPD recently. I wish I knew about NPD years ago, but now that I know, and I see my mother's behaviour so...
A quote I discovered recently (wish I could remember the source!) is "Family is merely the idolatry of duty". Had I not started on my own journey of discovery...
two words. get out. get out get out get out. document everything about who takes care of the children. keep receipts. take pictures of what you do with the...
Hi Suzanna and all Thanks so much for your comforting words. I know exactly what you mean about being terrified that you're going to end up the same.. I have...
Fiona, You are the age of my daughter, and like my daughter you are SO much wiser than women my age. Your experience has made you strong and determined,...
Hi there, My name is Monique and I'm pretty new on this list too, and reading lately about N-mothers, since I've got one myself, has really been helpful and...
Monique-- Be very careful of your own health. Anxiety and stress can cause serious gastric problems (my guess is we actually swallow the poison spewed at...
Hi Monique, It sounds to me like she hasn't wanted to know you! Your presence spoiled a good story for her to use to get sympathy. I'm afraid I'm a bit...
What she said Jenny ... Jenny _________________________________________________________________ Protect your inbox from harmful viruses with new ninemsn...
For those of us who have chosen to deal with these N mothers/parents, I'm wondering if anyone is getting instruction on how to balance that tight-rope between...
Hi Suzanna I don't have any clear-cut solutions for you, because as you know, my solution has been to get out which unfortunately sounds like is not an option...
Hi Fiona, and all, I laughed out loud reading your post about dealing with anger and frustrations because you do exactly what we do!! Whenever we have to...
Suzanna, You ask such an important and difficult question, and I'm certainly a neophyte when it comes to trying to change these long-established patterns and...
I have been reading all the posts about ~N~ mothers. I feel for all of you that are going through this. As you have all seen, I am married to a ~N~ "crazy"...
First, I cannot thank all of you enough for your insight and wisdom. To think I hesitated for a year before getting on this group---what wasted time! I would...
Yes, we must be adults. If you try to follow the N's behavior, it is like paying attention to a 2 year that is on the floor in the supermarket because you...
About 12 months agoI was working with someone who I think is a N. For some reason she hated me. I think because I still breathe was reason enough. She...
Monique-- Hoping you are doing well with this stressful arrangement, and are soaking up all these valuable tools/advice (your own included!) in contending with...
After many years of therapy, I went to a psychic some years ago with very minimal expectations of the experience. The first thing she said to me...and you...
There is a way to honor your parents without giving in to their insanity....I think. Being kind and speaking the truth in love to them is honoring. That...
Oh I think you made the MOST correct descision. The best interest of your children always comes first. I guess I was trying to say that we don't need to have a...
Marilyn, I have recently had the same dialog with my mother. Essentially, I firmly handed the "ball" right back to her. I have absolutely NO delusions that...
9/24/2004 07:22 Hello everyone, how are you all? When you all read this may it find everyone to be in the very best of health and spirits. Sorry I have posted...
... to your ... No, I don't tend to her. I visit her. And it is not that often as I live far away. But by not severing the relationship with her, I can visit...
