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#5809 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
Date: Wed Jul 8, 2009 12:17 pm
Subject: In Prisoners’ Wake, a Tide of Troubled Kids
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In Prisoners’ Wake, a Tide of Troubled Kids
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Adam Gaines, right, who spent over 13 years in prison, with his sons, Shane, left, and Adam Jr. “I didn’t have a role model,” said Adam Jr., who quit high school.

Published: July 4, 2009

WASHINGTON — Herbert Rashad Scott, whose parents were in and out of prison throughout his childhood, vowed to break his family’s cycle of self-destruction.

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Terrisa Bryant, 20, at a job preparation class in Washington.

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Herbert Rashad Scott, 20, was on supervised release but was arrested on charges of absconding. He is awaiting sentencing.

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Adam Gaines with his son Shane, 14. Mr. Gaines is studying to be a fitness teacher. A son and a daughter dropped out of school.

The circumstances were not promising. Mr. Scott, 20, was awaiting sentencing for drug possession and robbery, but he was allowed supervised release from jail in May to attend a job preparation class — a chance to turn his life around. As he spoke, he wriggled his neck, trying to get used to the necktie required, and he tried to ignore the tracking device on his ankle.

“I had low self-esteem and depression,” Mr. Scott said of his teenage years. Now, his ex-girlfriend was pregnant, and he pondered his child’s prospects.

“I want to be there for this child, and I want the child to know that jail ain’t no place to be,” he said.

The chances of seeing a parent go to prison have never been greater, especially for poor black Americans, and new research is documenting the long-term harm to the children they leave behind. Recent studies indicate that having an incarcerated parent doubles the chance that a child will be at least temporarily homeless and measurably increases the likelihood of physically aggressive behavior, social isolation, depression and problems in school — all portending dimmer prospects in adulthood.

“Parental imprisonment has emerged as a novel, and distinctly American, childhood risk that is concentrated among black children and children of low-education parents,” said Christopher Wildeman, a sociologist at the University of Michigan who is studying what some now call the “incarceration generation.”

Incarceration rates in the United States have multiplied over the last three decades, in part because of stiffer sentencing rules. At any given moment, more than 1.5 million children have a parent, usually their father, in prison, according to federal data. But many more are affected over the course of childhood, especially if they are black, new studies show.

Among those born in 1990, one in four black children, compared with one in 25 white children, had a father in prison by age 14. Risk is concentrated among black children whose parents are high-school dropouts; half of those children had a father in prison, compared with one in 14 white children with dropout parents, according to a report by Dr. Wildeman recently published in the journal Demography.

For both blacks and whites, the chances of parental incarceration were far higher than they were for children born just 12 years earlier, in 1978.

Scholars agree that in some cases children may benefit from a parent’s forced removal, especially when a father is a sexual predator or violent at home. But more often, the harm outweighs any benefits, studies have found.

If a parent’s imprisonment deprives a struggling family of earnings or child support, the practical consequences can be fairly clear-cut. While poor urban children had a 3 percent chance of experiencing a period of homelessness over the previous year, those with an incarcerated parent had a 6 percent chance, one study found.

Quantifying other effects of parental incarceration, like aggressive behavior and depression, is more complex because many children of prisoners are already living in deprived and turbulent environments. But researchers using newly available surveys that follow families over time are starting to home in on the impact.

Among 5-year-old urban boys, 49 percent of those who had a father incarcerated within the previous 30 months exhibited physically aggressive behaviors like hitting others or destroying objects, compared with 38 percent of those in otherwise similar circumstances who did not have a father imprisoned, Dr. Wildeman found.

While most attention has been placed on physical aggression, a study by Sara Wakefield, a sociologist following children in Chicago, found that having a parent imprisoned was a mental-health tipping point for some. Thus, while 28 percent of the children in her study over all experienced feelings of social isolation, depression or anxiety at levels that would warrant clinical evaluation or treatment, about 35 percent of those who had an incarcerated parent did.

Such hidden issues can have lifelong consequences.

Terrisa Bryant, 20, who was in the same jobs class as Mr. Scott, with a group called Strive, said she grew up resenting her father’s absences, including his time spent in prison. With her mother working day and night to put food on the table, Ms. Bryant was the baby sitter for her younger siblings.

“I couldn’t go out,” Ms. Bryant said. “I felt isolated.”

Ms. Bryant said she thought her anger and isolation helped explain why she got pregnant at 14 and had to drop out of school to raise her child. Now, she hopes to get certified for a career in child care.

With financial woes now forcing many states to rethink the relentless expansion of prisons, “this intergenerational transfer of problems should be included as an additional cost of incarceration to society,” said Sarah S. McLanahan, a sociologist at Princeton University and director of a national survey of families that is providing data for many of the new studies.

Heather Mac Donald, a legal expert at the Manhattan Institute, a conservative research group, agreed that everything possible should be done to help the children of people who were incarcerated. But Ms. Mac Donald said that it was hard to distinguish the effects of having a parent in prison from those of having a parent who is a criminal, and that any evaluation of tough sentencing policies, which she supports, had to weigh the benefits for the larger community. “A large portion of fathers were imprisoned on violence or drug-trafficking charges,” she said. “What would be the effects on other children in the neighborhood if those men are out there?”

Adam Gaines, 40, of Owings Mills, Md., has firsthand experience of watching his children flounder. He was freed last year after 13 and a half years in prison for robbery. Now, he is trying to be the father he never was to a son who dropped out of school in the 10th grade, another son who is just starting high school and a teenage daughter who had a baby and dropped out of school.

Mr. Gaines shook his heroin addiction after years in prison, has moved back in with his wife, Tasuha, and is studying to be a fitness teacher.

When his father was behind bars, said Mr. Gaines’s oldest child, Adam Jr., 19, “I didn’t have a role model, and I had to learn on the streets how to carry myself, what it meant to be a man.”

Mr. Scott, too, may not be around for his child. Despite his vow to break the cycle of failure and his job preparation class, he disappeared shortly after talking to a reporter in May, apparently to avoid a mandatory drug test, and did not report to his probation officer.

Mr. Scott was arrested on charges of absconding in the last week of May and is now in a Washington jail awaiting a sentence that could be three years or more — and making it more likely that his child, too, will join the incarceration generation.


#5808 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
Date: Tue Jul 7, 2009 5:35 pm
Subject: Tales of Republicans, Bonobos and Adultery
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Tales of Republicans, Bonobos and Adultery

By EDUARDO PORTER
Published: July 2, 2009

You’d think the family values branch of the Republican Party would have this down pat: Americans disapprove of adultery. They disapprove of it so much that they rank philandering as less morally acceptable than the death penalty, cloning humans or suicide.

A Gallup poll of 1,015 adults nationwide — conducted in May just before we were treated to the saucier details of the lives of South Carolina’s Republican governor and Nevada’s Republican senator — found that 92 percent of Americans think it is morally wrong for a married man or woman to have a fling.

Just as many said it is morally O.K. to condemn criminals to death. And the opprobrium doesn’t merely reflect a fleeting new impulse to protect marriage. In the last decade, adultery’s approval rating has never risen above 9 percent.

Sex between nonmarried straights was considered morally acceptable by 57 percent of those polled. Gay sex had an approval rating of 47 percent. Another poll conducted by the Pew Research Center three years ago found that Americans considered adultery worse than abortion, smoking marijuana or cheating on taxes.

It is hard not to be bemused by the contrast between the straight-and-narrow political persona of Gov. Mark Sanford of South Carolina and his messy, steamy circumstances. Still, I am somewhat perplexed by the surprise and the outrage over a transgression that has been around forever.

We all have heard the Kinsey statistics: half of married men reported having an extramarital affair at some time during their marriage; a quarter of married women had an affair by the time they were 40. Even if we account for men’s propensity to brag, there is still a lot of illicit sex going on.

So it is curious how American society arrived at its current moral positions.

It’s been nearly 40 years since the biologist Robert Trivers posited that the evolutionary imperative to maximize offspring would lead to mostly promiscuous males and nonpromiscuous females. Because males only invest a small amount of sperm in reproduction, philandering increases their reproductive success. Females, who invest much more time and energy in each offspring, would prefer one high-quality mate.

But females could be unfaithful, too, if it improved their chances to pass on their genes. Female bonobo chimpanzees have sex with dozens of males to obscure the paternity of offspring and thus stop males from killing infants to get their mothers to stop breastfeeding and become fertile again.

Human strategies have responded to similar considerations of reproductive success. Polygamy stretches back at least thousands of years to the Babylonian empire, not only because powerful men wanted as many women as they could afford and could impose their will on. Even when women had a choice, it could make more sense for them to be the second wife of a rich man than the first wife of a poor one.

The anthropologist Laura Betzig is quoted as saying, “Which woman would not rather be John Kennedy’s third wife than Bozo the Clown’s first?”

Today, studies have found that men still prefer young, healthy women who can produce healthy babies, while women prefer wealthy men who can contribute resources to rear them. But while polygamy is still practiced in parts of Africa and the Middle East, the industrial West is uniformly monogamous. Philandering remains as a vestigial appendage, a counterproductive urge that can end marriages and political careers.

Some suggest the end of polygamy came through the empowerment of women. Others think it was outlawed by Christianity. But the church condoned the practice among the European nobility for centuries. And the women’s movement was too recent. The waning of polygamy did not spell the end of patriarchal societies. A more plausible explanation is the opposition of less fortunate men that were left out of the mating game. It was not about the sex. It was about the inequality.

I’m not sure that fuels the outrage with philandering politicians. I do know that only one behavior came close to the disapproval of adultery in the Gallup poll. Polygamy — deemed wrong by 91 percent of Americans.

 

Question:

What is the typical profile of a homosexual narcissist?

Answer:

I am a heterosexual and thus deprived of an intimate acquaintance with
certain psychological processes, which allegedly are unique to homosexuals.
I find it hard to believe that there are such processes, to begin with.
Research failed to find any substantive difference between the psychological
make-up of a narcissist who happens to have homosexual preferences – and a
heterosexual narcissist.

Continue to read this article here (click on this link):

http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq18.html

Women narcissists

http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq34.html

Narcissists are people who fail to maintain a stable sense of self-worth.
Very often somatic narcissists (narcissistic who use their bodies and their
sexuality to secure Narcissistic Supply) tend to get involved in
extra-marital affairs. The new "conquests" sustain their grandiose fantasies
and their distorted and unrealistic self-image.

Continue to read this article here (click on this link):

http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq61.html

Question:

Are narcissists mostly hyperactive or hypoactive sexually and to what extent
are they likely to be unfaithful in marriage?

Answer:

Continue to read this article here (click on this link):

http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq29.html

Narcissists are repulsed and intimidated by intimacy

http://samvak.tripod.com/intimacyabuse.html

http://samvak.tripod.com/journal60.html

http://samvak.tripod.com/abuse14.html

Our sexual behavior expresses not only our psychosexual makeup but also the
entirety of our personality. Sex is the one realm of conduct which involves
the full gamut of emotions, cognitions, socialization, traits, heredity, and
learned and acquired behaviors. By observing one's sexual predilections and
acts, the trained psychotherapist and diagnostician can learn a lot about
the patient.

Inevitably, the sexuality of patients with personality disorders is thwarted
and stunted. In the Paranoid Personality Disorder, sex is depersonalized and
the sexual partner is dehumanized. The paranoid is besieged by persecutory
delusions and equates intimacy with life-threatening vulnerability, a
"breach in the defenses" as it were. the paranoid uses sex to reassure
himself that he is still in control and to quell is anxiety.

Continue to read this article here (click on this link):

http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders47.html

Narcissists are either cerebral or somatic. In other words, they either
generate their Narcissistic Supply by applying their bodies or by applying
their minds.

Continue to read this article here (click on this link):

http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/journal21.html

Most patients with the Histrionic Personality Disorder are women. This
immediately raises the question: Is this a real mental health disorder or a
culture-bound syndrome which reflects the values of a patriarchal and
misogynistic society? A man with similar traits is bound to be admired as a
"macho" or, at worst, labeled a "womanizer".

Continue to read this article here (click on this link):

http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders17.html

She shifts uneasily in her seat: "I like to flirt. A little flirting never
hurt nobody is what I say."

Continue to read this article here (click on this link):

http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders52.html


#5807 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
Date: Tue Jul 7, 2009 3:49 pm
Subject: HealthyPlace Mental Health Newsletter, Week of July 7, 2009
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HealthyPlace Narcissistic Personality Disorder Community

http://www.healthyplace.com/personality-disorders/malignant-self-love/narcissism-narcissistic-personality-disorder-npd/menu-id-1469/

Narcissistic PD and abuse by narcissists - FAQs, essays, links, and book excerpts.

Transcript of the CHAT regarding abusive narcissists HERE:

http://www.healthyplace.com/personality-disorders/malignant-self-love/narcissism-narcissistic-personality-disorder-npd/menu-id-218/

Transcript of the CHAT about the Narcissistic Personality Disorder HERE:

http://www.healthyplace.com/personality-disorders/transcripts/narcissistic-personality-disorder/menu-id-652/

Transcript of the CHAT about narcissists in the workplace HERE:

http://www.healthyplace.com/personality-disorders/transcripts/narcissism-in-the-workplace/menu-id-62/

Radio Show regarding Relationships with Abusive Narcissists

http://www.healthyplace.com/Radio/archives/audio_narcissism_02-10-12.htm

Here's what's happening on the HealthyPlace site this week:

When a Child Commits Suicide

For parents, the thought of a child dying for any reason is a tragedy beyond compare. But what happens when your child commits suicide? How do you even begin to deal with that?

HealthyPlace.com Medical Director and Board-Certified Psychiatrist, Dr. Harry Croft, notes that child and teenage suicide can sometimes be prevented by recognizing the symptoms of depression in children and the warning signs that your child is contemplating suicide and then contacting your family doctor and taking immediate and appropriate action. Here are some ways to help a suicidal person.

More articles on depression in adults and children here.

"Surviving the Suicide of a Child" On HealthyPlace TV

Eleven years ago, Elaine's 17- year old son committed suicide. The impact it had on her and how she survived that horrible afternoon is the subject of this Tuesday's HealthyPlace Mental Health TV Show.

Join us Tuesday night, July 7. The show starts at 5:30p PT, 7:30 CT, 8:30 ET and airs live on our website.

In the second half of the show, you get to ask HealthyPlace.com Medical Director, Dr. Harry Croft, your personal mental health questions.

Coming in July on the HealthyPlace TV Show

  • Sexual Addiction
  • Narcissism
  • Suicidality and Psychiatric Medications

If you would like to be a guest on the show or share you personal story in writing or via video, please write us at: producer AT healthyplace.com

Previous HealthyPlace TV archived shows, click the "on-demand" button on the player.

More Information on Child and Teen Suicide

HealthyPlace Suicide Section containing articles on all aspects of suicide, plus suicide hotline phone numbers.

Depression and Anxiety

Many people don't realize it, but depression and anxiety often go hand-in-hand.  For example, Tom writes in to say:

"I've been dealing with panic attacks for two years now with almost no let up. Now, depression is setting in. What can I do?"
- Tom, 32 years old

Seeing a good therapist can help, says Dr. Croft. Therapists who specialize in treating anxiety disorders can also help with the depression. In addition, some of the medications used to treat depression are the same medications used in treating anxiety and panic.

Detailed information on Anxiety Disorders: Signs, Symptoms, Causes, and Treatments
Getting Help for Depression

Tools to Help Improve Your Mental Health

We have many tools on the HealthyPlace website designed to help you analyze and manage your mental health needs. Since we re-launched our site in February, nearly 5,000 people are taking advantage of the HealthyPlace Mediminder - Mental Health Medication Reminder Tool. It will send you an email or text alert when it's time to take your medication, plus a reminder when it's time for a re-fill.

Over 4,000 people are keeping track of their depression, bipolar disorder, and anxiety levels using the HealthyPlace Mood Tracker - Mood Journal. Not only can you track your moods via charts and notes, but you can pre-set an alert to be sent to your doctor, therapist, or caregiver if your mood reaches a serious level.

Our online psychological tests are designed to be instantly scored and saved to your profile. That allows you to initially check out your symptoms and by taking the psychological tests on a regular basis, you can monitor any improvement or deterioration in your condition.

And there's the HealthyPlace Mental Health Support Network, where members gather to blog and discuss their situations, as well as provide support to others.

All HealthyPlace Mental Health Tools are free of charge. To take full advantage of them, simply register on the HealthyPlace site by clicking the "register" tab on the top-right side of any page.

Latest Mental Health News

These stories and more are featured on our mental health news page:

  • Michael Jackson Kids Face Hurdles to Coping with His Death
  • New PTSD Program Answers Need for Comprehensive Treatment
  • Helping Trauma Patients Get Over Their Anxiety
  • FDA: Boxed Warning On Serious Mental Health Events To Be Required For Chantix And Zyban
  • Bipolar Medication Adherence Affected by Patient Attitudes
  • Children of Bipolar Parents Progress Along Pathway to Bipolar Disorder

That's it for now. If you know of anyone who can benefit from this newsletter or the HealthyPlace.com site, I hope you'll pass this onto them. You can also share the newsletter on any social network (like facebook or digg) you belong to by clicking the links below.

Thank you,

Deborah

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#5806 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
Date: Mon Jul 6, 2009 7:05 pm
Subject: Is There Hope for the American Marriage?
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Is There Hope for the American Marriage?

South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford arrives with his wife Jenny at a White House dinner held by President Obama for the National Governors Association on Feb. 22, 2009
South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford arrives with his wife Jenny at a White House dinner held by President Obama for the National Governors Association on Feb. 22, 2009
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New York Governor Eliot Spitzer (R) announces his resignation as his wife Silda Wall Spitzer stands next to him March 12, 2008 in New York City.
New York Governor Eliot Spitzer (R) announces his resignation as his wife Silda Wall Spitzer stands next to him March 12, 2008 in New York City.
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Elizabeth Edwards listens to her husband, Democratic presidential hopeful John Edwards speak at a news conference concerning the return of her cancer March 22, 2007 in Chapel Hill, North Carolina.
Elizabeth Edwards listens to her husband, Democratic presidential hopeful John Edwards speak at a news conference concerning the return of her cancer March 22, 2007 in Chapel Hill, North Carolina.
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Kate Gosselin and Jon Gosselin attend Discovery Upfront at Jazz at Lincoln Center on April 2, 2009 in New York City.
Kate Gosselin and Jon Gosselin attend Discovery Upfront at Jazz at Lincoln Center on April 2, 2009 in New York City.
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Around the time of my parents' 50th wedding anniversary, I turned to my father at the dinner table one night and said, "It's amazing, Dad — 50 years, and you never once had an affair. How do you account for that?"

He replied simply, "I can't drive."

Watching the governor of South Carolina cry like a little girl because his sexy e-mails got forwarded to his local newspaper, the State, made me wonder whether the real secret to a lasting marriage lies in limiting your means of escape. Whether you're putting the Buick Regal in reverse or hitting Send on a love note, you're busting out of your marriage, however temporarily, and soon enough there will be hell to pay. (See pictures of couples married for 50 years.)

During the press conference in which he admitted his affair, Mark Sanford warbled that he had broken "God's law," a sentiment that served only to emphasize the narcissism that had gotten him in trouble. Wrestling with God's law had apparently been the subject of many sessions of his Bible-study group, a seminar that may have spent a little too much time on the Song of Solomon, given Sanford's e-mailed encomium of his lover's physique: "I love the curves of your hips, the erotic beauty of you holding yourself (or two magnificent parts of yourself) in the faded glow of night's light." Finally a bit of prose that makes us long for the clinical precision of the Starr report. Sanford told reporters the affair had begun "very innocently," which reveals that he still hasn't been honest with himself about the willfulness of his actions. When a married man begins a secret, solicitous correspondence with a beautiful and emotionally needy single woman, he has already begun to cheat on his wife.

Just a week before, another blue-blazered elected official — Senator John Ensign of Nevada — was forced to make a similar confession, although he left God out of it, which must have been a nice break for the Almighty. Ensign had done "the worst thing" in his entire life, he confessed: "I violated the vows of my marriage." The mood on both occasions was funereal; it might have been touching to see two such buttoned-up guys welling with tears if the corpses weren't their political careers.

The one thing both men refused to admit was that, back in the heyday of these affairs, they must have been having a blast. These were two middle-aged, conservative Republican men who had said, To hell with being part of the Cialis generation (midlife sexuality depicted as an aging husband and wife reclining in ... side-by-side bathtubs? What is the drugmaker worried about — that randy Pa might jump in Ma's bath and break her hip?). Their actions were so willful and blatantly self-centered that the two of them could have credibly fashioned themselves as rebels, possibly even as heroes, if they could have just stopped crying. They weren't a couple of tools stuck in sexless marriages and making up for it with Internet porn. These guys had embarked on dangerously erotic rampages with real-life, unencumbered women, women who decidedly weren't ... Jenny and Darlene. The long-suffering wives, Fun Busters in Chief.

In the e-mails exchanged between the governor and his girlfriend, they trip over themselves to praise the other's virtues. She was "special and unique," "glorious"; he was a man of emotional generosity who "brought happiness and love to my life." These two humanitarians were engaged not only in worshipping each other's high-mindedness but also in destroying another woman's home, hobbling her children emotionally and setting her up for humiliation of a titanic proportion. The squalor and pain that resulted from the Sanford and Ensign midlife crises make manifest a bleak truth that the late writer Leonard Michaels once observed in his journal: "Adultery is not about sex or romance. Ultimately, it is about how little we mean to one another." (See the top 10 regrettable e-mails.)

And so two more American families discover a truth as old as marriage: a lasting covenant between a man and a woman can be a vehicle for the nurture and protection of each other, the one reliable shelter in an uncaring world — or it can be a matchless tool for the infliction of suffering on the people you supposedly love above all others, most of all on your children.

In the past 40 years, the face of the American family has changed profoundly. As sociologist Andrew J. Cherlin observes in a landmark new book called The Marriage-Go-Round: The State of Marriage and the Family in America Today, what is significant about contemporary American families, compared with those of other nations, is their combination of "frequent marriage, frequent divorce" and the high number of "short-term co-habiting relationships." Taken together, these forces "create a great turbulence in American family life, a family flux, a coming and going of partners on a scale seen nowhere else. There are more partners in the personal lives of Americans than in the lives of people of any other Western country."

An increasingly fragile construct depending less and less on notions of sacrifice and obligation than on the ephemera of romance and happiness as defined by and for its adult principals, the intact, two-parent family remains our cultural ideal, but it exists under constant assault. It is buffeted by affairs and ennui, subject to the eternal American hope for greater happiness, for changing the hand you dealt yourself. Getting married for life, having children and raising them with your partner — this is still the way most Americans are conducting adult life, but the numbers who are moving in a different direction continue to rise. Most notably, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported in May that births to unmarried women have reached an astonishing 39.7%. (See pictures of love in the animal kingdom.)

How much does this matter? More than words can say. There is no other single force causing as much measurable hardship and human misery in this country as the collapse of marriage. It hurts children, it reduces mothers' financial security, and it has landed with particular devastation on those who can bear it least: the nation's underclass.

The Marriage Gap
The poor and the middle class are very different in the ways they have forsaken marriage. The poor are doing it by uncoupling parenthood from marriage, and the financially secure are doing it by blasting apart their unions if the principals aren't having fun anymore.

The growing tendency of the poor to have children before marriage — the vast majority of unmarried women having babies are undereducated and have low incomes — is a catastrophic approach to life, as three Presidents in a row have tried to convince them. Bill Clinton's welfare-to-work program encouraged marriage, George W. Bush spent millions to promote marriage, and Barack Obama has spoken powerfully on the need for men to stay with their children: "We need fathers to step up, to realize that their job does not end at conception; that what makes you a man is not the ability to have a child but the courage to raise one." (See snapshots from a very special wedding.)

The reason for these appeals to lasting unions is simple: on every single significant outcome related to short-term well-being and long-term success, children from intact, two-parent families outperform those from single-parent households. Longevity, drug abuse, school performance and dropout rates, teen pregnancy, criminal behavior and incarceration — if you can measure it, a sociologist has; and in all cases, the kids living with both parents drastically outperform the others.

Few things hamper a child as much as not having a father at home. "As a feminist, I didn't want to believe it," says Maria Kefalas, a sociologist who studies marriage and family issues and co-authored a seminal book on low-income mothers called Promises I Can Keep: Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage. "Women always tell me, 'I can be a mother and a father to a child,' but it's not true." Growing up without a father has a deep psychological effect on a child. "The mom may not need that man," Kefalas says, "but her children still do."

This turns out to be true across the economic spectrum. The groundbreaking research on the effects of divorce on children from middle- and upper-income households comes from a surprising source: a Princeton sociologist and single mother named Sara McLanahan, who decided to study the fates of these children with the tacit assumption that once you control for income, being part of a single-parent household does not adversely affect kids. The results — which she published in the 1994 book Growing Up with a Single Parent: What Hurts, What Helps — were surprising. "Children who grow up in a household with only one biological parent," she found, "are worse off, on average, than children who grow up in a household with both of their biological parents, regardless of the parents' race or educational background."

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The consequences for more-affluent kids tend to be far less devastating than for poor ones; they are less likely to become teenage parents and high school dropouts. But children of divorced middle-class parents do less well in school and at college compared with underprivileged kids from two-parent households. "There's a 'sleeper effect' to divorce that we are just beginning to understand," says David Blankenhorn, president of the Institute for American Values. It is an effect that pioneering scholars like McLanahan and Judith Wallerstein have devoted their careers to studying, revealing truths that many of us may find uncomfortable. It's dismissive of the human experience, says Blankenhorn, to suggest that kids don't suffer, extraordinarily, from divorce: "Children have a primal need to know who they are, to love and be loved by the two people whose physical union brought them here. To lose that connection, that sense of identity, is to experience a wound that no child-support check or fancy school can ever heal."

Put a Ring on It
That prompts the question, Does the father have to actually be married to the mother of his children to have a positive effect on them?

"Not if he behaves exactly like a married man," says Robert Rector, a senior research fellow of domestic policy at the Heritage Foundation. If a man is willing to contribute 70% of his income to the child's upbringing, dedicate himself around the clock to the child's well-being and create a stable home life — a home life that includes his actually living there with mother and child — he might be able to give his child the boon of fatherhood without having to tie the knot. But that rarely happens. When children are born into a co-habiting, unmarried relationship, says Rector, "they arrive in a family in which the principals haven't resolved their most basic issues," including those of sexual fidelity and how to share responsibilities. Let a little stress enter the picture — and what is more stressful than a baby? — and things start to fall apart. The new mother starts to make wifelike demands on the man, and without the commitment of marriage, he is soon out the door. (Read an excerpt from Elizabeth Edwards' book on how she survived her husband John's affair.)

Poignantly, the one thing that unites the poor and the middle class in their hopes for family life is the imperishable dream of being married forever, grabbing hold of the golden ring of lasting partnership. The low-income mothers studied by Kefalas and co-author Kathryn Edin spoke repeatedly of their wish to get married; they "cherish marriage and hold it to an impossibly high standard," the authors found, but too often forgo it as a result. Meanwhile, the middle class has spent the past 2½ decades — during which the divorce culture became a fact of life — turning weddings into overwrought exercises in consumer spending, as if by just plunking down enough cash for the flower girls' dresses and tissue-lined envelopes for the RSVP cards, we can somehow improve our chance of going the distance. Think of the touching moments on Inauguration Night, when at ball after ball, crowds of young people swooned at the sight of Barack and Michelle Obama dancing together, artlessly but sincerely and clearly with great affection. They are an immensely appealing couple, and it was a historic night, but what we saw reflected in the faces of those awed young people — and in the country's insatiable appetite for photographs of the First Family's private life — was wonder at the sight of a middle-aged man and woman still together, still in love.

We want something like that for ourselves; we recognize that it is something of great worth, but we are increasingly less willing to put in the hard work and personal sacrifice to get there. The Obamas, for example, are enjoying their time of family closeness after almost two years of enforced separation, an interlude that would have caused many less committed couples to turn in their cards and give up. A lasting marriage is the reward, usually, of hard work and self-sacrifice.

The Ballad of Jon and Kate

Last summer, I had an opportunity to find out how meaningful the "in sickness and in health" clause of the marriage vows is when I underwent six rounds of chemotherapy, during which my husband treated me with great kindness. I began strong, making it to the dinner table every night and putting up a brave front for our children. But chemo, she will beat you down. I spent the last week on a friend's bedroom floor, heavily drugged, mildly nauseated and watching Jon & Kate Plus 8.

Ideal viewing conditions, as it turns out. I grew fond of the titular characters, in particular Kate, who seemed to stand like a colossus over their Pennsylvania tract home, constantly corralling and cajoling her uncountable — and, to the layperson, indistinguishable — children into doing relatively simple things, each of which became a hellish exercise in the improbable simply because of the logistics. Sixteen little shoes had to be found and tied before the family could even leave the house. That they weren't a pack of barefoot shut-ins was a testament to Kate's indomitable will.

Lying on the floor, drifting in and out of consciousness, I would gaze up at her and feel strangely comforted, the way you do around a certain kind of bossy, sexless power mom. The show approximated family life exactly: it was mostly good-natured and often boring and centered on the most basic transactions of daily existence — getting everybody dressed and fed, cleaning up, keeping quarrels to a simmer, not a boil. Now and then — in moments that genuinely did seem unscripted — Kate would wilt, leaning against the kitchen counter with a cup of coffee and seeming, for the twinkling of an eye, as though she were allowing herself to absorb the shock of it all. But then she would shake it off, plow forward, harass Jon into making himself a lower-calorie lunch and go back to wiping down the counters and giving orders. (See the top 10 skanky reality shows.)

Even though it was gimmick-filled reality television, there seemed to be a bit of actual — even profound — truth in it. The underlying premise was that Jon and Kate Gosselin's marriage was an enterprise dedicated not to making themselves happy but to taking care of the cavalcade of children they had produced, that they were laboring at something more significant than their own pleasure.

I got well, I went home, and I pretty much forgot about Jon and Kate until a few weeks ago, when they catapulted to the forefront of trash culture because they were — according to the tabloids — separated. I assumed it was a rumor, but it turned out to be true. Jon had gotten bored with being bossed around by Kate, he'd had a fling with a 23-year-old teacher, and the couple had filed for divorce. He still loved the kids, he said — with complete guilelessness, as though loving the kids and doing right by them were unrelated events: "I have a new chapter in my life. I'm only 32 years old. I really don't know what's going to happen." And of course, the Gosselins command more attention now that their union is broken than they did when it was intact.

America's obsession with high-profile marriage flameouts — the Gosselins and the Sanfords and the Edwardses — reflects a collective ambivalence toward the institution: our wish that we could land ourselves in a lasting union, mixed with our feeling of vindication, or even relief, when a standard bearer for the "traditional family" fails to pull it off. This is ultimately self-defeating. It is time instead to come to terms with both our unrealistic expectations for a happy marriage and our equally unrealistic beliefs about the consequences of walking away from the families we build. (See pictures of classic weddings on LIFE.com.)

The fundamental question we must ask ourselves at the beginning of the century is this: What is the purpose of marriage? Is it — given the game-changing realities of birth control, female equality and the fact that motherhood outside of marriage is no longer stigmatized — simply an institution that has the capacity to increase the pleasure of the adults who enter into it? If so, we might as well hold the wake now: there probably aren't many people whose idea of 24-hour-a-day good times consists of being yoked to the same romantic partner, through bouts of stomach flu and depression, financial setbacks and emotional upsets, until after many a long decade, one or the other eventually dies in harness.

Or is marriage an institution that still hews to its old intention and function — to raise the next generation, to protect and teach it, to instill in it the habits of conduct and character that will ensure the generation's own safe passage into adulthood? Think of it this way: the current generation of children, the one watching commitments between adults snap like dry twigs and observing parents who simply can't be bothered to marry each other and who hence drift in and out of their children's lives — that's the generation who will be taking care of us when we are old.

Who is left to ensure that these kids grow up into estimable people once the Mark Sanfords and other marital frauds and casual sadists have jumped ship? The good among us, the ones who are willing to sacrifice the thrill of a love letter for the betterment of their children. "His career is not a concern of mine," says Jenny Sanford. "He'll be worrying about that, and I'll be worrying about my family and the character of my children." What we teach about the true meaning of marriage will determine a great deal about our fate.

Flanagan is the author of the forthcoming book Girl Land.


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#5804 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
Date: Sun Jul 5, 2009 12:00 pm
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Stay focused, ladies. Here is The Practical Guide to Help Spurned Political Wives Survive Old Problems in the Era of New Technology.

1. Skip the press conference, especially when your husband is copping to call girls, gay pickups in airport bathrooms or “tragic” and “forbidden” telenovela-style love stories. Stoicism at the skunk’s side is overrated and, as Larry Craig’s wife learned, sunglasses don’t help.

2. When there’s an Associated Press bulletin quoting your husband saying that he has found his soul mate but he’s going to try to fall back in love with you, change the locks. (At your second home, too.)

3. If you can’t maintain a dignified Silda Spitzer silence; if you can’t find a girlfriend, a shrink, a personal trainer, a hairdresser or a yoga teacher to confide in; if you must unburden yourself of your fury about your loser husband, go to Jesse Jackson, Al Sharpton or even Deepak Chopra before crying to The A.P. A news wire is not a spiritual adviser.

4. When your husband turns into a Harlequin romance, babbling to The A.P. — yes, even The A.P. thought it was T.M.I. — about a magical encounter on an open-air dance floor in Uruguay, “a soul that touches yours in a way that no one’s ever has,” and the “left brain and right brain” compartmentalization of “the world of ideas that impact this country and state” and “the pursuit of happiness, whatever that is,” just beat it.

5. If you think the worst is over, it’s probably only beginning. On Tuesday, after you thought Mark Sanford had already emoted and burbled more than any man in history, he volunteered to The A.P. (again!) that he had “crossed lines” with a handful of women on trips out of the country, but only “crossed the ultimate line” with his enchanting Maria. And just when you thought John Edwards could not sink any lower, there is news of a sex tape, in which Rielle Hunter shows off her skills not only in videography but pornography.

6. No matter how revolting your husband’s behavior is, don’t be passive-aggressive in public. Refrain from making any remarks that have a veneer of dignity but derogatory subtexts that sound like: “We’re trying to reconcile but it’s going to be tough because he has irreparably damaged my children” or “He has no integrity and I want my kids to have integrity” and “Sure, I’d like to give him a chance if he weren’t such a sleazeball.”

7. Don’t bring the children into it. They suffer enough being the kids of politicians. In the era of Facebook, texting, Google and iPhones, calling him out as a bad father will just go viral in the kids’ circles. Don’t trot out the family on “Oprah,” as Elizabeth Edwards did, or weepily show The A.P. the report cards of your two oldest sons from their elite private school in Columbia, S.C., as Jenny Sanford did.

8. Even if you’re a clever, competent woman, you risk sounding like a stereotypical harridan if you use the kids as a bludgeon and tell the press, as Jenny did: “You would think that a father who didn’t have contact with his children, if he wanted those children, he would toe the line a little bit.” When kids are involved, it’s best to chill when dishing out revenge.

9. Don’t slam his girlfriend for lying when you know she’s telling the truth. Don’t refer to the baby your rival had with your husband as “it.” Don’t trash a mistress, as Hillary and Elizabeth did, as a wacky stalker. No one — except the wife — blames the girlfriend as much as they blame the husband. Besides, you invite The Other Woman’s retaliation, as when Rielle decided — after watching Elizabeth spill to Oprah — that she might want that DNA test after all.

10. High-powered women like Hillary, Elizabeth and Jenny who give up their careers to focus on their husbands’ ambitions feel doubly betrayed. But it’s not your husband’s fault if you sacrifice more for the relationship than he does. Like an investor in a down market, you took a risk without a guarantee it would pay off. If you make your husband your career and you lose your husband, you lose your career, too.

11. Cut your losses and keep going. Don’t let yourself get dragged into his drama or your reputation may follow his down the well. Hillary refused to let that happen. She salvaged her long investment in Bill Clinton and turned a profit when she became a senator.

12. As you stay out of the spotlight that singes your husband, listen to whatever messages he is sending you through the press. When your husband says that is a world-class love story, ask him what this is. Just don’t do it through The A.P.


#5803 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
Date: Fri Jul 3, 2009 6:20 pm
Subject: On reflection, it's a Me pandemic
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On reflection, it's a Me pandemic

OPINION: Ruth Ostrow | June 27, 2009

Article from:  The Australian

"IF I had to distil my quotidian existence ... I would say: I love to be hated."

So writes Sam Vaknin in Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited, which I was reading because I was curious to understand this disorder after the recent slanging match between TV host Tracy Grimshaw and Gordon Ramsay ended with Grimshaw branding the celebrity chef a "narcissist".

Self-confessed narcissist Vaknin writes: "Hate is the complement of fear and I like being feared. It imbues me with an intoxicating sensation of omnipotence. I am veritably inebriated by the looks of horror or repulsion on people's faces. They know that I am capable of anything. Godlike, I am ruthless and devoid of scruples, capricious and unfathomable …

"It is all about narcissistic supply (attention, adoration, notoriety), the drug which we, the narcissists, consume and which consumes us in return. So, I attack sadistically authority figures, institutions, my hosts, and I make sure they know about my eruptions. In tactless breaching of every etiquette … I hector and harangue from my many self-made pulpits."

With so many corporate leaders, politicians and celebrities being labelled narcissists nowadays, the personality disorder has almost become an official pandemic. The culture of materialism breeds it, from self-absorbed famous twits such as Paris Hilton to the "me, me, me" of our computer-addicted youths who are no longer learning empathy and body language but instead indulge in one-dimensional negotiations on Facebook or through Twittering ("It's all about ME!").

The narcissist is always looking for attention, good or bad. Lacking empathy, the narcissist sees human beings as no more valuable than the cow is to a customer before he bites into his hamburger. Narcissists mimic real feelings and can be quite tender at times, but they are always driven by self-interest. If it's charm that gets them their "supply" of attention, then charm they will give you. If it's rudeness, then that's their arsenal. The point is, their victims - at work, play, in relationships or as an audience - always have an uneasy sense of being consumed rather than really cared for.

There is a line. Vaknin is at one extreme, branding himself a "malignant narcissist". "I derive my grandiose superiority from being right," he confesses. At the other end are the more benign members - our kids, growing up in the age of electronic self-aggrandisement and a culture filled with the exhibitionist antics of their infamous idols like Britney, Lindsay, Amy.

Seems to me the only way to stop the spread of this pandemic is to isolate narcissists by putting them in social quarantine. No more media attention for the outrageous, the deviant, the vain, the promiscuous, the power-hungry, the addicted, the damaged, or the self-inflated boofhead. But would there be anyone left?

#5802 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
Date: Thu Jul 2, 2009 2:57 pm
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Michael Jackson and the 'extreme' price of fame

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  • Expert says Jackson's extreme celebrity exaggerated personal troubles
  • Jackson: Fame 'exacts a very heavy price'
  • Jackson was rare combination of childhood and adult superstar
  • Columnist calls celebrity-obsessed culture lethal and brutal
 By Doug Gross
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(CNN) -- The celebrity flameout is a Hollywood cliché -- a mantel worn tragically by the likes of Lenny Bruce and John Belushi and handed down through the years to tabloid-populating stars such as Lindsay Lohan and Britney Spears.

Patrick Wanis is a therapist and counselor who counts celebrities among his clients.

Jackson arrives at his child molestation trial in 2005. A jury later acquitted him of the charges.

But Michael Jackson, dead at 50 after a life marked by unrivaled heights of pop brilliance and bizarre behavior that threatened to overshadow it, stood at the pinnacle of celebrity and embodied all the turmoil it can entail.

It's a perch experts say played a major role in his troubles in life and, perhaps, his untimely death.

"He sums up every aspect of it, having the ultimate fame, the ultimate power, the ultimate influence," said Patrick Wanis, a therapist and counselor who counts celebrities among his clients. "He also sums it up in every extreme aspect of the word."

Jackson, who died Thursday in Los Angeles, California, spoke repeatedly about the toll that a life spent in the public eye took on him emotionally, particularly as a child star singing with his brothers in the group Jackson 5. Compare Jackson's career to other major singers' »

"The public at large has yet to really understand the pressures of childhood celebrity, which, while exciting, always exacts a very heavy price," Jackson wrote in 2000 in a column for the religious Web site beliefnet. "More than anything, I wished to be a normal little boy. I wanted to build tree houses and go to roller-skating parties. But very early on, this became impossible."

Wanis said Jackson's experience is rare in its longevity. While a child star may shine brightly then disappear, or an actor or rock star may feel the first glare of the spotlight as a teenager or young adult, Jackson lived both experiences.

His first public performance, at Mr. Lucky's nightclub in Gary, Indiana, came at age 6; at 50 he was rehearsing for a comeback tour. iReport.com: Fans in Gary remember Jackson

"The average life of a band or performer is five years. There's only a handful that break that rule," Wanis said. "Michael Jackson is the enigma. He started as a child and he was able to keep it going all the way because of his almost supernatural talent.

"The problem with that is he never really had a personal life. He never had a chance to live."

For Jackson, the pressures of celebrity "exaggerated and exacerbated" what likely already were some deep emotional and mental wounds, according to Wanis.

Multiple reports from the Jackson family, including Michael, described severe beatings and emotional abuse by Michael's father, Joseph Jackson, who relentlessly drove his children to become pop superstars.

Michael's actions in later years -- from his serial plastic surgeries, which removed all family resemblance, to his famous crotch-grabbing dance move -- can be seen as lashing out over that abuse, Wanis said.

"He resented his father," he said. "He was in rebellion, almost like a subconscious rebellion, against his father."

The behavior didn't stop with dance moves and surgery. There was the chimpanzee and the tigers and dangling his child briefly from a hotel balcony.

Most notoriously, and damaging, were the charges of sexually abusing the young boys he befriended, charges for which he was found not guilty in court, even as reports of a multimillion-dollar settlement with another boy's family persisted.

The high-profile trial, and its lurid testimony, drove Jackson further down the path of antisocial behavior, turning him into a hermit almost on par with famed billionaire Howard Hughes.

In the end, Wanis said, it may have been the desire to perform again that led to his death. He was training hard for a tour that was hoped to spark a musical comeback, as well as one more chance to bask in the glory of his fame.

"There were a lot of people with a lot of vested interest in making sure he would stay alive at whatever cost," Wanis said. "The people around him were intent on making sure he could get whatever he needed just so he could get through those concerts."

As the world responded to Jackson's death, some observers paused from the accolades to reflect on celebrity's apparent toll.

"It was an unusual relationship yes, where two unusual people who did not live or know a 'normal life' found a connection," Lisa Marie Presley, Jackson's ex-wife and the daughter of Elvis Presley, wrote Friday on her blog. "I wanted to save him. I wanted to save him from the inevitable, which is what has just happened."

Columnist Andrew Sullivan, on his blog for The Nation magazine, wrote that he grieved for Jackson "but I also grieve for the culture that created and destroyed him."

"That culture is ours, and it is a lethal and brutal one: With fame and celebrity as its core values, with money as its sole motive, it chewed this child up and spat him out," Sullivan wrote. "I hope he has the peace now he never had in his life. And I pray that such genius will not be so abused again.

 

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The current issue includes:
  • Editorial: Research that makes a difference by Cary L. Cooper
  • Interview: Creativity as social: The progress of a promising idea. Interview with Dr. Ronald Purser by Vlad Glaveanu
  • Research reports:
    • Work hours, work intensity, satisfactions and psychological well-being among Turkish manufacturing managers by Ronald J. Burke, Mustafa Koyuncu, Lisa Fiksenbaum and Fusun Tekin Acar
    • The efficacy of cognitive behavioral couple’s therapy (CBCT) on marital adjustment of PTSD–diagnosed combat veterans by Khodabakhsh Ahmady, Gholamreza Karami, Sima Noohi, Arastoo Mokhtari, Hamide Gholampour and Ali-Akbar Rahimi
    • Conflict resolution strategies and organisational citizenship behaviour: The moderating role of trait Emotional Intelligence by Samuel O. Salami
    • Expression of Aggressive Tendencies in the drawings of children and youth who survived the Northern Pakistan earthquake by Zainab Fotowwat Zadeh and Sonia Mairaj Malik
    • Age and motives for volunteering: Further evidence by María Celeste Dávila and Juan Francisco Díaz-Morales
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                          • Chôra: creation and pathology. An inquiry into the origins of illness and human response by Nicoletta Isar
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                          • Role of the fuzzy system in psychological research by Govind Singh Kushwaha and Sanjay Kumar
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                                                      narcissism \NAHR-suh-siz-em\, noun:

                                                      excessive love or admiration for oneself; in psychoanalysis, gratification manifested in admiration and love of oneself

                                                      Dr. Marion Solomon, a Los Angeles psychologist and author of "Narcissism and Intimacy," said that true narcissists are startled when their spouses say they are miserable in the relationship.
                                                      -- Jan Hoffman, New York Times, 7/20/2008
                                                      They found that the number of "Friends" on a person's Facebook and the number of "wallposts" they have there correlated with their narcissism. That figures, Buffardi suggests, as narcissists tend to have lots of shallow relationships rather than a few solid ones.
                                                      -- Jennifer Huget, The Washington Post, 9/26/2008

                                                      by 1822, from Greek Narkissos, beautiful youth in mythology (Ovid, "Metamorphosis," iii.370) who fell in love with his own reflection in a spring and was turned to the flower narcissus.

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                                                      "I was desperate for solutions in 1982," recounts James Callner, in his OCD blog post in the HealthyPlace Support Network. Mr. Callner, now an OCD advocate, was 29 years old at the time and seemingly living a pretty good life. When the OCD symptoms took hold, his life collapsed around him, eventually leading to his hospitalization.

                                                      But Mr. Callner learned something during that psychiatric hospitalization which changed his whole life. And no matter which psychological disorder you may be dealing with, it could change your life too.

                                                      "OCD Recovery: Thoughts That Made A Difference" On HealthyPlace TV

                                                      James Callner has recovered from many years of living with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). How he beat the disabling symptoms of OCD is the subject of this Tuesday's HealthyPlace Mental Health TV Show.

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                                                      "I'm 23. I have bipolar disorder. I don't believe in medications. My girlfriend says I've been using liquor to deal with my bipolar symptoms.  I'm not sure that's true but how do you know if you have a drinking problem?"

                                                      Using drugs and alcohol to manage psychiatric symptoms from bipolar disorder, ADHD, depression, anxiety and panic attacks and other psychiatric illnesses isn't unusual. Mental health professionals refer to it as self-medication.  You may have also heard the term dual-diagnosis, where the person is dealing with a mental health condition plus a substance abuse problem.

                                                      Sometimes the psychological problem occurs first. This can lead people to use alcohol or drugs that make them feel better temporarily. Sometimes the substance abuse occurs first. Over time, that can lead to emotional and mental problems.

                                                      So how do you know if you have a drinking problem? Here are the signs of problem drinking. You might also want to take this Alcohol Screening Test for Problem Drinking.  We have many online addiction tests in the HealthyPlace Psychological Tests area.

                                                      If you're concerned about self-medication or dual diagnosis, please talk to your doctor about it. To get better, both conditions, the psychological illness and the substance abuse problem, have to be addressed. Here's some information on treating dual diagnosis.

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                                                      Managing Your ADHD Child

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                                                      If you're in a similar situation:

                                                      We have plenty of helpful articles on ADHD

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                                                      In Political Storm, Governor’s Wife Is Hurt but Unbowed
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                                                      Jenny Sanford, the first lady of South Carolina, at the family’s beachfront home Thursday on Sullivan’s Island, S.C.

                                                      Published: June 26, 2009

                                                      As Jenny Sanford headed off for a boating trip, the day after her husband, Mark Sanford, the governor of South Carolina, told the world he had been unfaithful, she met the throng of reporters waiting outside her South Carolina vacation home, all inquiring about her emotional condition.

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                                                      Jenny Sanford was described by friends as strong willed.

                                                      “Am I O.K.?” Mrs. Sanford repeated, from the driver’s seat of a vehicle. “You know what? I have great faith and I have great friends and great family. We have a good Lord in this world, and I know I’m going to be fine. Not only will I survive, I’ll thrive.”

                                                      It was, friends and former aides say, classic Jenny Sanford — strong willed, steely, anything but a victim. Mrs. Sanford, a former New York investment banker, largely gave up her professional life and turned to helping her husband’s political career, but those who know her well say she was also never one to abandon her sense of identity, her direction, or her own opinions.

                                                      To one reporter who wondered what might come of Mr. Sanford’s political career, Mrs. Sanford answered sharply: “His career is not a concern of mine. He’s going to have to worry about that. I’m worried about my family and the character of my children.” And with that, Mrs. Sanford, who spent much of Thursday with her husband and said she was working on her marriage, pulled away, smilingly telling the assembled cameras, “I wish we had room on the boat for you all, but we do not.”

                                                      Even within the dimensions of her husband’s political life, Mrs. Sanford was not merely a helpmate in a traditional first lady role, but managed her husband’s political campaigns (at first, from their basement) and later acted as a sounding board on matters of policy, a fact that one former aide to Mr. Sanford said regularly irked some members of his staff. She often studied data that was sent to the governor’s office and helped develop positions, one senior legislative staff member said, describing her as “the real brains behind the operation.”

                                                      Mrs. Sanford, 46, was the second of five children born to an prominent, Irish Catholic family in Winnetka, Ill., a lush suburb of Chicago with private drives and palatial homes. She was, as one friend from Winnetka puts it, part of Chicago’s gentry — with a grandfather who helped found the company that made and sold the first portable electric saw, another grandfather and uncle who were leaders at the Winston and Strawn law firm, and even a family tie to Rushton Skakel Sr., the brother of Ethel Kennedy.

                                                      Despite the wealth and prestige Mrs. Sanford brought to her marriage, friends say she was not one to put on airs. Friends in South Carolina described her as a “down-to-earth” mother who insisted that her four sons set the dining room table even once they were living inside the governor’s mansion and had a staff.

                                                      Through a spokeswoman, Mrs. Sanford declined requests to be interviewed for this article, but told The Associated Press she learned of her husband’s affair early this year when she found a letter he had written. She told him to end the relationship, but he repeatedly asked permission to visit the woman in Argentina in the months that followed.

                                                      “I said absolutely not,” Mrs. Sanford told The A.P. “It’s one thing to forgive adultery. It’s another to condone it.”

                                                      Then, last week, when the governor told her he needed time alone to write, she had specifically warned him not to see his mistress. She said she was devastated when he went to meet her in Argentina.

                                                      Many of Mrs. Sanford’s relatives, friends and neighbors in Winnetka and South Carolina declined to be quoted by name or refused to speak of her.

                                                      Mrs. Sanford attended a private, Catholic all-girls school in Lake Forest, Ill. At Georgetown University, where she graduated magna cum laude in 1984 with a finance degree, she was viewed as whip smart and a hard worker. A fellow student recalled her entering an accounting exam she had not prepared well for. The test was not timed, though, so Mrs. Sanford arrived with a six-pack of Tab and worked for eight hours on it. As the classmate recalls it, her grade was among the highest that day.

                                                      “She is one of those people who is always the smartest person in the room,” said Marjory Wentworth, a friend who is also the poet laureate of South Carolina.

                                                      It was during her time working at Lazard Freres & Company, the investment bank, that she met Mr. Sanford at a beach party in the Hamptons. “It wasn’t exactly love at first sight,” she once told The Post and Courier of Charleston, S.C. “It was more like friendship at first sight.”

                                                       

                                                      In 1989, the couple married, but it was not until she had her second child that politics entered their family picture. “It was quite a surprise to me,” she told The Greenville News of South Carolina. “When he told me, I was in the hospital, and we had just delivered our second son. So we had a 15-month-old and a newborn, and he says to me, ‘I’m going to run for Congress.’ ”

                                                      From home, Mrs. Sanford managed that first campaign in 1994, and then his run for governor.

                                                      At times, Mrs. Sanford could be tough, a former aide said. The aide, who declined to be named because he is still in touch with the governor and is not authorized to speak, said four aides to Mr. Sanford had departed his Congressional staff in rapid succession, in part because of her. “She was the No. 1 sounding board for him, and she would give her views to people,” the former aide said. “Clearly it was always an issue — exactly what her role was to be.”

                                                      Friends, however, credit Mrs. Sanford with the ultimate juggling act: happily serving as a first lady who would choose one of her son’s class plays over a presidential dinner anytime, but who was also perfectly comfortable discussing intricacies of the state’s finances.

                                                      “So often when a woman is business minded, they’re not good at being a cookie baking soccer mom, but that’s the thing about Jenny,” said Jennifer Pickens, a friend for over a decade. “You cannot stereotype her that way. She can be either one of those things and do it effortlessly.”

                                                      In recent weeks, and even on Wednesday, as her husband acknowledged his affair, friends said Mrs. Sanford had remained cheerful, gracious and strong. Lalla Lee Campsen, a friend of 20 years, was with Mrs. Sanford that day and described it as a time “when Jenny exuded, perhaps as never before, her great strength of character.”

                                                      Her friends praised the statement she issued that day, saying that she would press to repair her marriage and forgive but that she had also asked her husband to leave — at least for now.

                                                      “That was definitely her, all her,” Ms. Pickens reflected. “It reeks of her. She will survive this beautifully.”

                                                       

                                                      Research and reporting was contributed by Shaila Dewan from Atlanta, Alain Delaquérière from New York, Kitty Bennett from Washington and Karen Ann Cullotta from Winnetka, Ill.

                                                       

                                                      Back at Work, Governor Puts Apology on Agenda

                                                      Mary Ann Chastain/Associated Press

                                                      Gov. Mark Sanford, center, apologized to his cabinet on Friday in a meeting at the Capitol complex in Columbia, S.C.

                                                      Published: June 26, 2009

                                                      COLUMBIA, S.C. — Gov. Mark Sanford publicly apologized to his cabinet on Friday in an effort to return to work and get past his admission of an extramarital affair, which continues to shake the political establishment here.

                                                      “I wanted generally to apologize to every one of you all, for letting you down,” Mr. Sanford said in a wood-paneled meeting room in the historic Capitol complex.

                                                      Suggesting that he plans to remain in office despite calls from within his own Republican Party for his resignation, he said his “soul searching” had brought him to the biblical story of King David and “the way in which he fell mightily — he fell in very, very significant ways — but then picked up the pieces and built from there.”

                                                      Speaking to reporters after the meeting, Mr. Sanford said that his inclination was to “carry on” as governor, but that he had not made a definitive decision.

                                                      “It’s going to be something I am going to think about, pray about,” he said, adding that staying in office would set an example for his four sons about getting back up after a fall.

                                                      He saved personal apologies for the two cabinet secretaries who were most directly drawn into the drama of the last week, which started when his secret trip to visit his mistress in Buenos Aires left his own aides uncertain of his whereabouts for days.

                                                      Turning to Chief Reggie Lloyd, the head of the State Law Enforcement Division, who ordered a frenzied search for the governor last weekend, Mr. Sanford said, “I owed it to you, Reggie, for putting you in a bad place.”

                                                      Then he begged the forgiveness of his commerce secretary, Joe Taylor, whose staff had inadvertently helped arrange an assignation for the governor by following his order to add official stops in Argentina to his scheduled South American trade mission last year. Mr. Sanford admitted on Thursday that he had used the Argentina leg of the trip to visit his mistress and promised to repay its costs.

                                                      Chief Lloyd said he accepted the apology, but Mr. Taylor said he was not satisfied, and thought the governor should personally apologize to his staff.

                                                      “For something that was an honorable mission to be besmirched by something like this is not fair to people who have been working 40 to 50 hours weekly to bring jobs to this state at such a difficult time,” Mr. Taylor said. “Jenny Sanford is a friend, and my thoughts and prayers are with her and their four great sons right now.”

                                                      Mr. Taylor had traveled to South America with Mr. Sanford during last year’s trade mission, and had arranged an Argentinian hunting trip that the governor attended before he went on to meet his mistress in Buenos Aires. Mr. Taylor said he was shocked to learn about the governor’s infidelity, though earlier, before the cabinet meeting, he complimented Mr. Sanford’s hunting abilities, saying, “He’s a hell of a shot.”

                                                      Mr. Sanford’s many apologies did not seem to put the scandal behind him. And the cabinet meeting, which moved on to include a reading of statistics on drunken driving and state revenues, offered only the thinnest veneer of normalcy to the political life of the capital.

                                                      Elsewhere in the same building, in fact, one of Mr. Sanford’s Republican critics, State Senator. John M. Knotts, called on the Law Enforcement Division and the Senate Judiciary Committee to look into Mr. Sanford’s use of state resources to visit his mistress. “Gov. Mark Sanford lied to cover up his lies, and has continued with a string of lies since the moment he stepped off the plane,” Mr. Knotts said.

                                                      He stopped short of calling for the governor to resign, saying he had been persuaded not to do so by other legislators in a meeting on Thursday. “We needed to give the governor ample opportunity to make this decision himself so that he can save face,” Mr. Knotts said, adding, “We’re Southern gentlemen.”

                                                      Henry McMaster, the state attorney general and a Republican candidate for governor in next year’s race, released a statement saying that investigations should not be politically motivated, even if the governor’s actions were unwise. “At this point, none of the facts appear to be in dispute,” the statement read. “The governor has freely admitted everything he has been accused of.”

                                                      No formal investigations are under way, and Chief Lloyd said Friday that as of now he was not planning any investigation into Mr. Sanford’s conduct.

                                                      It was not all bad news Friday for Mr. Sanford. Lt. Gov. André Bauer, a Republican, said he would not call for the governor’s resignation and would stand by him. Senator Lindsey Graham, a fellow South Carolina Republican, issued a statement that read in part, “Second chances in life are not guaranteed or required. But if they are afforded, they can be a real blessing.”

                                                      And Keven Cohen, who has a conservative radio talk show in Columbia, heard from several callers who voiced support for the governor, and said that his personal life did not concern them and that if he was paying the government back for the trip, he should not be forced out of office.

                                                      Robbie Brown contributed reporting from Atlanta.


                                                      #5797 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
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                                                      "His career is not a concern of mine. He's going to have to worry about
                                                      that. I'm worried about my family and the character of my children."
                                                      - JENNY SANFORD,   wife of the governor of South Carolina, who announced
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                                                      #5796 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
                                                      Date: Mon Jun 29, 2009 8:51 am
                                                      Subject: Michael Jackson, a man apart
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                                                      • Michael Jackson was a towering figure in entertainment
                                                      • Singer led the way in establishing music video, revitalizing pop music
                                                      • Songs, including "I Want You Back" and "Billie Jean," are part of enduring legacy
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                                                      (CNN) -- He was lauded and ridiculed. He broke down barriers and built them around himself. He soared to heights unimaginable with his music, and he made the ignominious front page of gutter tabloids worldwide.

                                                      Michael Jackson broke down musical and cultural barriers his entire life.

                                                      Michael Jackson broke down musical and cultural barriers his entire life.

                                                      For Michael Jackson, the spotlight was always present, and the rest of the world followed.

                                                      With "Billie Jean" and "Beat It" -- the latter with Eddie Van Halen's scorching guitar solo -- he was almost single-handedly responsible for getting videos by African-American artists on MTV and helped revitalize the moribund Top 40 format in the early 1980s.

                                                      "Michael Jackson made culture accept a person of color way before Tiger Woods, way before Oprah Winfrey, way before Barack Obama," said the Rev. Al Sharpton, a friend. "Michael did with music what they later did in sports, and in politics and in television. No controversy will erase the historic impact." In Depth: Michael Jackson special report

                                                      "Thriller," a 14-minute video extravaganza directed by John Landis, paved the way for the elaborate music videos to follow -- including Jackson's "Scream," recorded with sister Janet in 1995, which cost a reported $7 million and may be the most expensive video ever. Audio slide show: Michael Jackson and his music »

                                                      His incredible dance talent, a modern twist on the Motown moves he witnessed as a child, led to a heightened focus on choreography in pop music videos and stage shows.

                                                      His 1982 album "Thriller" smashed records. It was No. 1 for 37 weeks and, at its peak, sold a million copies a week. To date, it has sold nearly 50 million copies worldwide. The achievement set a high bar for Jackson; when his 1995 greatest-hits CD, "HIStory," sold 7 million copies, it was considered a relative failure.

                                                      Jackson was also a fashion icon, his heavily zippered leather jackets a de rigueur 1980s fashion accessory, his single, spangled glove beyond compare.

                                                      On the down side, Jackson also led in making pop stars the subject of the paparazzi and tabloids in a way, perhaps, equaled only by such icons as Frank Sinatra, Elvis Presley and the pre-"Sgt. Pepper" Beatles. Rumors abounded, from his pets to his sleeping habits to his cosmetic surgery, all fodder for the press. After stories arose of possible child molestation, he never got back in the media's good graces; he was treated as a traveling circus. Watch reaction to his death

                                                      From the time he was a child, it was obvious Michael Jackson was something special. In 1966, when he was 8, he joined his brothers in the band his father put together and started singing lead with brother Jermaine.

                                                      Though Motown Records was the top label of the 1960s, inventing what it called "the Sound of Young America," by 1969 -- when Jackson and his brothers in the Jackson 5 first hit the charts -- the label was finding itself out of step with the psychedelic and hard-soul sounds of the times. Video Watch reaction from Motown »

                                                      Enter the quintet from Gary, Indiana.

                                                      Motown signed the group in 1968 and poured its all into the Jackson 5's first single, "I Want You Back" -- the writing and production team were credited as "The Corporation" -- and Jackson's imploring, dramatic vocal rocked America. The song hit No. 1 in January 1970, and was followed by three more No. 1s in quick succession.

                                                      Thanks to their squeaky-clean image, the Jackson 5 became teen idols, unusual for a group of African-American youngsters. Michael Jackson's face appeared on the covers of teen magazines; the band even became the subject of an animated Saturday-morning TV show, another first for an African-American group.

                                                      But it was in the 1980s, when Jackson became a worldwide phenomenon, that his impact really began to be felt.

                                                      He was much imitated, from his hair to his clothes to his dance moves. The music was superbly crafted pop, produced by Quincy Jones and often written by Jackson himself. Even rock critics approved; the album "Thriller" earned an A from the picky Robert Christgau, among others. Video Watch a clip from "Thriller" »

                                                      There came a moment, around that time, when pop music went into a Jackson era. "Thriller" had nine songs; seven of them became singles. Jackson teamed with Lionel Richie to write the fundraising song "We Are the World"; it was his presence, as much as that of Richie, Bruce Springsteen and Stevie Wonder, that propelled the song to No. 1.

                                                      Jackson reteamed with his brothers for an album, "Destiny," and accompanying tour. It was the hottest tour of the year, despite complaints about sales practices. (Partly because of the controversy, Jackson announced publicly he was donating all his money from the tour to charity.)

                                                      He was a role model. At the peak of his fame, there were reports of a humbly dressed Jackson ringing doorbells as part of his Jehovah's Witness faith.

                                                      Though Jackson's image eventually became sullied by the molestation allegations and stories of eccentricity, there was never any doubt about his entertainment legacy. "Thriller" and "Bad" are still among the top sellers of all time. His fluid dance moves and stage presence set standards that rising stars -- often compared to Jackson -- struggle to equal.

                                                      "Of all the thousands of entertainers I have worked with, Michael was the most outstanding. Many have tried and will try to copy him, but his talent will never be matched. He was truly one-of-a-kind," said Dick Clark, who would know. Video Watch reaction from another musical legend, Cher »

                                                      And then there's the music, from the early, explosive joy of the Jackson 5 hits to the elegant ballads, down-and-dirty grooves and ecstatic dance hits of his solo years. "The Love You Save," "Billie Jean," "Beat It," "Bad" -- they are pop music boiled down to its best essence, with a good beat, an engrossing melody and even, sometimes, a message of love and fellowship.

                                                      It's enough to take a listener to the moon.


                                                      #5795 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
                                                      Date: Mon Jun 29, 2009 8:48 am
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                                                      Published: June 25, 2009

                                                      Has there ever been a time when there were so many different views of human nature floating around all at once? The economists have their view, in which rational people coolly chase incentives. Traditional Christians have their view, emphasizing original sin, grace and the pilgrim’s progress in a fallen world. And then there are the evolutionary psychologists, who get the most media attention.

                                                      For 99 percent of human history, they observe, our species lived in small hunter-gatherer bands. The people who survived developed certain mental modules, which have been passed down to us through our genes. Some of these traits serve us well in the modern age. Children have the capacity to learn language with astonishing speed. Some of these traits don’t. Humans have an insatiable craving for fatty and sugary foods.

                                                      In 2000, Geoffrey Miller, a leading evolutionary psychologist, published a book called “The Mating Mind,” in which he argued that the process of sexual selection among early human groups hardwired many of the behaviors we see in humans today. Some of the traits are physical. Men generally prefer women with a 0.7 waist-to-hip ratio (that’s a 24-inch waist and 36-inch hips, for those of you reading this at the gym). Women generally prefer men who are taller and slightly older.

                                                      Some of these traits are more subtle. Men, Miller argues, tip better in restaurants, because they’ve been programmed to show how much surplus wealth they have. The average American adult knows 60,000 words, far more than we need. We have all those words because we like to mate with people who caress us with language.

                                                      Now Miller has published another book, “Spent,” in which he takes evolutionary psychology to the mall. The basic argument is that each of us is born with our own individual level of six big traits: intelligence, openness to new things, conscientiousness, agreeableness, emotional stability and extraversion. These modules are built into humans and other animals (apparently squid can be shy).

                                                      We are all narcissists, Miller asserts. We spend much of our lives trying to broadcast our excellence in these traits in order to attract mates. Even if we’re not naturally smart or outgoing, we buy products and brands that give the impression we are.

                                                      According to Miller, driving an Acura, Infiniti, Subaru or Volkswagen is a sign of high intelligence. Driving a Cadillac, Chrysler, Ford or Hummer is a sign of low intelligence. Listening to Bjork is a sign of high intelligence, while listening to Lynyrd Skynyrd is a sign of low intelligence. Watching Quentin Tarantino movies is a sign of high openness. He theorizes that teenage girls may cut themselves as a way to demonstrate their ability to withstand infections.

                                                      Evolutionary psychology has had a good run. But now there is growing pushback. Sharon Begley has a rollicking, if slightly overdrawn, takedown in the current Newsweek. And “Spent” is a sign that the theory is being used to try to explain more than it can bear.

                                                      The first problem is that far from being preprogrammed with a series of hardwired mental modules, as the E.P. types assert, our brains are fluid and plastic. We’re learning that evolution can be a more rapid process than we thought. It doesn’t take hundreds of thousands of years to produce genetic alterations.

                                                      Moreover, we’ve evolved to adapt to diverse environments. Different circumstances can selectively activate different genetic potentials. Individual behavior can vary wildly from one context to another. An arrogant bully on the playground may be meek in math class. People have kaleidoscopic thinking styles and use different cognitive strategies to solve the same sorts of problems.

                                                      Evolutionary psychology leaves the impression that human nature was carved a hundred thousand years ago, and then history sort of stopped. But human nature adapts to the continual flow of information—adjusting to the ancient information contained in genes and the current information contained in today’s news in a continuous, idiosyncratic blend.

                                                      The second problem is one evolutionary psychology shares with economics. It’s too individualistic: individuals are born with certain traits, which they seek to maximize in the struggle for survival.

                                                      But individuals aren’t formed before they enter society. Individuals are created by social interaction. Our identities are formed by the particular rhythms of maternal attunement, by the shared webs of ideas, symbols and actions that vibrate through us second by second. Shopping isn’t merely a way to broadcast permanent, inborn traits. For some people, it’s also an activity of trying things on in the never-ending process of creating and discovering who they are.

                                                      The allure of evolutionary psychology is that it organizes all behavior into one eternal theory, impervious to the serendipity of time and place. But there’s no escaping context. That’s worth remembering next time somebody tells you we are hardwired to do this or that.


                                                      #5794 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
                                                      Date: Mon Jun 29, 2009 8:18 am
                                                      Subject: Farrah Fawcett, a Sex Symbol Who Aimed Higher
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                                                      Farrah Fawcett, a Sex Symbol Who Aimed Higher

                                                      By ALESSANDRA STANLEY
                                                      Published: June 25, 2009

                                                      She really tried. And for a sex symbol that alone can be like an accomplishment.

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                                                      A scrim of sadness covers Farrah Fawcett’s career. Her stardom traced that cautionary Hollywood arc: meteoric fame followed by years spent trying first to overcome it, then, too late, seeking to recapture it.

                                                      Cancer interrupted Ms. Fawcett’s attempted comeback in 2006 and put her on a different, more didactic track — pursued by a careful-what-you-wish-for flurry of publicity. She put the incessant tabloid intrusion to the service of her illness, making a video diary of her struggle with anal cancer that, among other things, allowed her to feel that she had some control over the coverage. NBC, never shy about exploiting a celebrity tragedy, overproduced and overpromoted her film in “Farrah’s Story,” but never made the public service point that, besides abstinence, the HPV vaccine is the most promising form of prevention against this type of cancer, which in most cases is sexually acquired.

                                                      Ms. Fawcett died Thursday at 62. And her last poignant appearances sometimes obscure a smaller, more gratifying story line of a celebrated beauty who worked against type to construct a more dignified second act. Long before Charlize Theron gained weight to make “Monster” and Nicole Kidman put on a fake nose to play Virginia Woolf, Ms. Fawcett scrubbed off her tawny good looks to play battered — and battering — women in “The Burning Bed” and “Extremities.”

                                                      There were many less successful performances as well and cameo roles in B movies, but Ms. Fawcett kept trying, and that’s more than can be said of many of today’s fading stars who coast on surgically preserved looks, cable reality shows and the culture’s insatiable hunger for celebrity abasement.

                                                      Bea Arthur, who died at 86 after a long, varied and joyous career, accomplished many things, perhaps most notably making the case on “Maude” and “The Golden Girls” that an older woman with a large frame, beak nose and stentorian voice could be an object of male desire. Ms. Fawcett was not as talented or as versatile. Still, while at the peak of her career she tried to show skeptics that an object of male desire can hold her own in roles usually reserved for less glamorous, better trained actresses.

                                                      Though, of course, it was her early work that kept her famous. Nobody in recent memory comes close to the giddy heights Farrah Fawcett reached in the mid-’70s with one season on “Charlie’s Angels” and That Poster. The pinup of Ms. Fawcett in a red one-piece bathing suit, tanned, head tossed, body lithe yet curvy, was a revelation. She looked delicious but also a little carnivorous, her gleaming white teeth frozen in a friendly but slightly feral smile. That poster ended up on every teenage boy’s bedroom wall and in the annals of pop culture — Farrah was the face, body and hair of the 1970s

                                                      More recently Ms. Fawcett became almost as well known as fame’s camp follower after a dizzy, incoherent interview on David Letterman in 1997..

                                                      That bad moment was reinforced by an ill-advised 2005 TV Land reality show, “Chasing Farrah,” the kind of doomed career defibrillator that was parodied so brilliantly by Lisa Kudrow in “The Comeback.” A camera crew followed Ms. Fawcett as she giggled and tossed her golden mane at movie openings and on shopping sprees — more Blanche DuBois than “Charlie’s Angels.” In one scene, as Ms. Fawcett strode ahead in a cloud of fans and paparazzi, a stocky, balding man in a T-shirt told the camera with a leer, “I’d do her,” as if that would be doing her a favor.

                                                      Ms. Fawcett left “Charlie’s Angels” after only one season, the queen of “jiggle TV.” She had a dazzling smile underscored by a whispery baby voice, a sweetness that allowed young male fantasists to believe that she would be a forgiving sex goddess. Bo Derek and Pamela Anderson, physical prodigies who took her place on dorm-room walls, seemed less approachable — they were positioned more as parodies of sex symbols than the real thing and seemed perfectly content in that niche.

                                                      Ms. Fawcett was built on a more human scale, a cheerleader from Corpus Christi, Tex., who radiated a healthy athleticism just ahead of the aerobics revolution led by Jane Fonda and Jamie Lee Curtis.

                                                      She made movies like “The Cannonball Run” but also set her sights on Broadway long before it became fashionable and profitable for theaters to boost ticket sales by recruiting television and movie stars to perform onstage. And in 1983 she dared to take over a role originated by Susan Sarandon in “Extremities,” in the grueling role of a rape victim who seeks revenge on her attacker. That performance led to “The Burning Bed,” a 1984 TV movie in which she played a battered wife and which was a television milestone; it helped her secure the lead in the 1985 film version of “Extremities.”

                                                      She took on other ambitious roles, not as persuasively perhaps, but they were brave choices nonetheless: the Nazi hunter Beate Klarsfeld in a 1986 television movie; the heiress Barbara Hutton a year later; and in 1989, the wartime photojournalist Margaret Bourke-White.

                                                      Her career took a detour in 1997 — that was the year of a Playboy spread and her infamous David Letterman interview, but it was also the year she played Robert Duvall’s wife in “The Apostle,” an affecting performance that was well received by critics, if not widely seen. She kept at it, though the offers kept shrinking; her last movie was a small part in “The Cookout,” the 2004 Queen Latifah comedy.

                                                      Toward the end, her private life — her son’s drug problems, her on-and-off relationship with the troubled Ryan O’Neal — eclipsed decades of work. Cancer brought it to an end.

                                                      Not all of her performances will stand the test of time, but what is worth remembering is how hard Farrah Fawcett tried.


                                                      #5793 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
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                                                      CHILDREN OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

                                                       Children, regardless of whether they have experienced abuse directly, are affected by violence in the home. Children who witness abuse display the same emotional responses as children who have been physically and emotionally abused.

                                                      Abusive behavior is learned behavior. At an early age, children raised in an abusive environment may develop patterns in their conduct that mimic the types of behavioral characteristics of batterers and victims. The lessons they learn from experiencing or observing abuse accompany them into adulthood. As adults, females often develop male distrust, negative attitudes toward, and/or accept violence or other forms of abuse as natural. Some males (though many will have intervened on a least one occasion to stop the abuse) identify increasingly with the batterer and adopt many of the same beliefs about women, sex roles, and the use of control tactics.

                                                      Children of domestic violence stand a greater chance of experiencing neglect.

                                                      Depression, fear, frustration, helplessness, and anger may serve as obstacles for some battered women who are trying to foster nurturing relationships with their children. After having had their foundation destroyed by domestic abuse, children from abusive households find it difficult to develop trust, self-confidence, or positive self-images. They often become ambivalent and desensitized to abuse. Many times the children’s initial sympathy for the victims eventually wanes out of disrespect. This occurs especially in cases when defensive measures taken by the victim are not apparent to the children. Children from domestic violent households are at greater risk of becoming the next generation of abusers.

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                                                      #5791 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
                                                      Date: Sat Jun 27, 2009 3:22 pm
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                                                      Marxist/Leninist Psychology


                                                      SUMMARY

                                                      Karl Marx, Frederick Engels, and V. I. Lenin all describe the mind and mental activity as nothing more than reflections of the brain. This conclusion follows logically from their materialist philosophy. Unfortunately, it leaves Marxism with very little to study in psychology–for them, the "study of the mind" is reduced to the "study of the reflections of the brain." Such a position is called psychological or ontological monism.
                                                            Marxist psychology discovered its champion in Ivan P. Pavlov, a Russian physiologist. Pavlov, in his famous experiments with dogs, stressed the primacy of the nervous system in influencing the mental activity of the individual. He believed that two material factors could account for all mental activity: the individual’s physiology and the environmental influence on the individual’s nervous system. He writes that the "behaviour of man or animal is conditioned not only by the inborn properties of the nervous system, but also by the influences which have always acted on the organism during its individual existence."1 This meshes beautifully with the Marxist worldview, in which man is approached from a strictly materialistic standpoint and is described as basically good, with his moral failings caused by oppressive societies.
                                                            Marxism accepts Pavlov’s conclusions and therefore appears to embrace strict behaviorism. However, this is not the case. Marxism cannot accept a completely deterministic explanation of man, because Marxist theory calls for the working class to consciously decide to support the communist revolution. If every man’s actions are determined, how can any individual consciously choose to revolt? "Choosing," according to the behavioristic view, becomes a meaningless activity. Thus, the Marxist must water down his behaviorism to encourage the worker to actively, consciously strive for communism.
                                                            Pavlov provides the escape for the Marxist psychologist. He speaks of a "second stimuli" that only human beings have evolved the capacity to be influenced by: language. That is, Pavlov believes man’s "mind" is shaped by his nervous activity and his environment, an environment that uniquely includes the stimulus of words. This belief allows the Marxist to claim that man’s actions are largely determined but that the individual can obtain a measure of freedom in his use of and response to the stimulus of language. In this way, Marxism is able to cling to its behavioristic assumptions and still claim that the worker may choose to join the revolution.
                                                            Of course, all of Marxism’s psychotherapy reflects its behavioristic, materialistic assumptions. Whereas the Marxist may give lip service to freedom of will, he treats mentally ill patients as automatons that require only a little physical/chemical fine tuning to become model citizens again. One day, according to the Marxist, all mankind can be made mentally healthy simply through manipulation of their environment and nervous activity. K. I. Platonov declares, "We have undoubtedly not yet fully mastered the methods of influencing the higher nervous activity of man by suggestion. This is the task of further research."2 When and if further research grants the Marxist this ability, be assured he will use it in the name of scientifically sculpting the perfect society.
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                                                      1I. P. Pavlov, Twenty Years of Objective Study of the Higher Nervous Activity (Behaviour) of Animals (Medgiz Publishing House, 1951), p. 458.
                                                      2K. I. Platonov, The Word as a Physiological and Therapeutic Factor (Moscow: Foreign Languages Publishing House, 1959), p. 12.

                                                      Marxist/Leninist Sociology


                                                      SUMMARY

                                                      Marxist/Leninist economic determinism shapes Marxist sociology. Marxists believe that social consciousness is determined by the mode of production extant in a society, so that capitalism is responsible for society’s present failings.
                                                            This concept of economic determinism is central to the Marxist worldview. Capitalism allegedly has produced a society rife with oppression and crime; therefore, an economic system must be adopted that changes social consciousness for the better. If, as L. P. Bueva claims, "classes form the basis of social structure: their traits and the relations among them determine all social and socio-psychological processes in society and the laws governing them,"1 then a classless society (communism) is far superior to a society that encourages one class to oppress another (capitalism). Thus, the Marxist sociologist calls for a socialistic system to replace capitalism, believing that this will guarantee the creation of advanced social consciousness.
                                                            The Marxist is especially anxious to usher in a communist society because only then will mankind achieve a truly moral social consciousness. "Right," Karl Marx declares, "can never be higher than the economic structure of society and its cultural development conditioned thereby."2 According to this view, mankind has been living with a stunted notion of morality throughout history, and a society that encourages proper values is long overdue. These "proper values," however, will not be manifest until the proper society is put into place.
                                                            Marxist sociology believes that the advent of such a society is inevitable. Man is guaranteed by biological evolution and the laws of the dialectic to progress socially and culturally. Even now, the proletariat and the bourgeoisie are clashing according to the immutable laws of the dialectic. Man can soon expect world socialism, followed by a new social consciousness. This new society, as it gradually leaves behind the contagion of capitalism, will evolve into a new world order—communism. At that point, society will be so radically altered that the individual will be influenced to act responsibly at all times. For example, Marxists believe that the sins of greed, selfishness, and envy will disappear completely once private property is abolished. From the ashes, new communist man will emerge.
                                                            Modern capitalist society, according to Marxist theory, is contributing to its own demise. By oppressing individuals, it encourages each man to revolt and establish a new mode of production and, consequently, a new society that will respect the individual. Karl Marx and Frederick Engels declare,

                                                      In the present epoch, the domination of material relations over individuals, and the suppression of individuality by fortuitous circumstances, has assumed its sharpest and most universal form, thereby setting existing individuals a very definite task. It has set them the task of replacing the domination of circumstances and of chance over individuals by the domination of individuals over chance and circumstances.3

                                                      In this way, Marxists grant man free will, rather than a determined consciousness, long enough to help evolution and the dialectic usher in world communism.
                                                            And what will this perfect society be like? Marxists tell us that world communism will abandon traditional bourgeois morality with all its religious connotations. The church will be consigned to the scrap heap, and the community will assume responsibility for childrearing, thereby effectively disbanding the family. Indeed, even the state will wither away, leaving every individual to govern his own life. Society will become a collection of perfectible individuals with no institutions to hinder their development or lead them astray. Marxist sociologists insist that this type of society will usher in the golden age of humanity. The coming world order will become a reality in which every human being can claim his manhood and womanhood without exploitation or alienation.
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                                                      1L. P. Bueva, Man: His Behaviour and Social Relations (Moscow: Progress, 1981), p. 112.
                                                      2Karl Marx, On Historical Materialism (New York: International, 1974), p. 165.
                                                      3Karl Marx and Frederick Engels, The Individual and Society (Moscow: Progress,1984), p. 162.


                                                      #5790 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
                                                      Date: Sat Jun 27, 2009 3:11 pm
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                                                      The evolutionary origin of depression

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                                                      Jun 25th 2009
                                                      From The Economist print edition

                                                      Depression may be linked to how willing someone is to give up his goals


                                                      CLINICAL depression is a serious ailment, but almost everyone gets mildly depressed from time to time. Randolph Nesse, a psychologist and researcher in evolutionary medicine at the University of Michigan, likens the relationship between mild and clinical depression to the one between normal and chronic pain. He sees both pain and low mood as warning mechanisms and thinks that, just as understanding chronic pain means first understanding normal pain, so understanding clinical depression means understanding mild depression.

                                                      Dr Nesse’s hypothesis is that, as pain stops you doing damaging physical things, so low mood stops you doing damaging mental ones—in particular, pursuing unreachable goals. Pursuing such goals is a waste of energy and resources. Therefore, he argues, there is likely to be an evolved mechanism that identifies certain goals as unattainable and inhibits their pursuit—and he believes that low mood is at least part of that mechanism.

                                                      It is a neat hypothesis, but is it true? A study published in this month’s issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology suggests it might be. Carsten Wrosch from Concordia University in Montreal and Gregory Miller of the University of British Columbia studied depression in teenage girls. They measured the “goal adjustment capacities” of 97 girls aged 15-19 over the course of 19 months. They asked the participants questions about their ability to disengage from unattainable goals and to re-engage with new goals. They also asked about a range of symptoms associated with depression, and tracked how these changed over the course of the study.

                                                      Their conclusion was that those who experienced mild depressive symptoms could, indeed, disengage more easily from unreachable goals. That supports Dr Nesse’s hypothesis. But the new study also found a remarkable corollary: those women who could disengage from the unattainable proved less likely to suffer more serious depression in the long run.

                                                      Mild depressive symptoms can therefore be seen as a natural part of dealing with failure in young adulthood. They set in when a goal is identified as unreachable and lead to a decline in motivation. In this period of low motivation, energy is saved and new goals can be found. If this mechanism does not function properly, though, severe depression can be the consequence.

                                                      The importance of giving up inappropriate goals has already been demonstrated by Dr Wrosch. Two years ago he and his colleagues published a study in which they showed that those teenagers who were better at doing so had a lower concentration of C-reactive protein, a substance made in response to inflammation and associated with an elevated risk of diabetes and cardiovascular disease. Dr Wrosch thus concludes that it is healthy to give up overly ambitious goals. Persistence, though necessary for success and considered a virtue by many, can also have a negative impact on health.

                                                      Dr Nesse believes that persistence is a reason for the exceptional level of clinical depression in America—the country that has the highest depression rate in the world. “Persistence is part of the American way of life,” he says. “People here are often driven to pursue overly ambitious goals, which then can lead to depression.” He admits that this is still an unproven hypothesis, but it is one worth considering. Depression may turn out to be an inevitable price of living in a dynamic society.

                                                       

                                                      The Depressive has pervasive and continuous depressive cognitions (thoughts) and behaviors. They manifest themselves in every area of life and never abate. The patient is gloomy, dejected, pessimistic, overly serious, lacks a sense of humor, cheerless, joyless, and constantly unhappy. This dark mood is not influenced by changing circumstances.
                                                       
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                                                      Many scholars consider pathological narcissism to be a form of depressive illness. This is the position of the authoritative magazine "Psychology Today". The life of the typical narcissist is, indeed, punctuated with recurrent bouts of dysphoria (ubiquitous sadness and hopelessness), anhedonia (loss of the ability to feel pleasure), and clinical forms of depression (cyclothymic, dysthymic, or other). This picture is further obfuscated by the frequent presence of mood disorders, such as Bipolar I (co-morbidity).
                                                       
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                                                      Bipolar patients in the manic phase exhibit many of the signs and symptoms of pathological narcissism - hyperactivity, self-centeredness, lack of empathy, and control freakery. During this recurring chapter of the disease, the patient is euphoric, has grandiose fantasies, spins unrealistic schemes, and has frequent rage attacks (is irritable) if her or his wishes and plans are (inevitably) frustrated.
                                                       
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                                                      I know a narcissist intimately. Sometimes he is hyperactive, full of ideas, optimism, plans. At other times, he is hypoactive, almost zombie-like.
                                                       
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                                                      Doesn't the narcissist ever feel sorry for his "victims"?
                                                       
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                                                      The narcissist always feels "bad". He experiences all manner of depressive episodes and lesser dysphoric moods. He goes through a full panoply of mood disorders and anxiety disorders. He experiences panic from time to time. It is not pleasant to be a narcissist.
                                                       
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                                                      The Bipolar Disorder got its name because the mania is followed by - usually protracted - depressive attacks. A similar pattern of mood shifts and dysphorias occurs in many personality disorders such as the Borderline, Narcissistic, Paranoid, and Masochistic.
                                                       
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                                                      Date: Thu Jun 25, 2009 1:48 pm
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                                                      Television Review | 'In Treatment'

                                                      Patients in Therapy, Therapist in Trouble

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                                                      Gabriel Byrne as a psychotherapist and Aaron Shaw as a patient whose parents are going through a divorce, in the second season of "In Treatment," beginning on Sunday on HBO.

                                                      Published: April 2, 2009

                                                      People go into therapy to learn from their mistakes, then make mistakes about what they’ve learned. And if viewers have learned anything from the HBO series “In Treatment,” it’s that therapists can also get tangled in half-truths.

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                                                      Gabriel Byrne and Hope Davis in the new season of “In Treatment,” set in New York.

                                                      The show’s second season doesn’t pick up exactly where the first left off; Paul Weston, the psychotherapist played by Gabriel Byrne, has divorced and set up a practice in Brooklyn with new furnishings and a new roster of patients. But the issues he left behind seep into his fresh start: a malpractice suit on top of marital discord on top of childhood grievances.

                                                      If it is possible to find pleasure in other people’s psychic pain — and obviously it is — there is no better place for it than in the therapy sessions that begin on Sunday night. This season of “In Treatment” in particular seems uncannily suited to the times: Paul’s patients include an unfulfilled litigator at a fancy Manhattan law firm and the anxious chief executive of a scandal-ridden corporation.

                                                      When first introduced, “In Treatment” looked like an unlikely bet. The scripts were taken, nearly word for word, from a successful Israeli series, “Be’ Tipul.” Almost every scene was set in a therapy session — Paul’s with a patient, and Paul’s session with his confidant and former supervisor Gina (Dianne Wiest) — essentially a chain of two-person, one-act plays without action, sets or pop-music cues.

                                                      Despite a few awkward cultural adjustments, the transposition from Tel Aviv to suburban Maryland worked, partly thanks to the seductive power of the therapeutic process — psychotherapy: the home game. Classic theories of repression, transference and countertransference were artfully compressed into verbal jousts between doctor and patient. Characters’ inner workings were signaled with an ill-chosen word, an offhand gesture or a prolonged silence. And when Paul went to Gina with his own troubles (and ethical transgressions), he left his benevolent authority behind and morphed into a typical patient — defensive, self-pitying and blinkered. And Gina, in turn, proved to have baggage of her own.

                                                      The first season was riveting partly because it was so flattering; the viewer was the real supervisor in the room.

                                                      In many ways the second season is richer. The stories are again lifted from “Be’ Tipul,” but set in New York, the epicenter of post-Freudian civilization and its discontents. Paul was in crisis in the first season; now he’s also in legal trouble. The premiere begins, as mornings in the Big Apple so often do, with a rude awakening. Alex Prince Sr. (Glynn Turman), the father of Paul’s former patient Alex (Blair Underwood), a Navy pilot who at the end of last season crashed his plane, is at the therapist’s door to hand-deliver his revenge. The father is suing Paul for failing to alert the Navy that his patient was not yet fit to fly. Paul is shocked but invites him to come in and talk. “That’s what killed Alex in the first place,” Prince says. “Talking with you.”

                                                      Paul, dazed and distressed, hires a lawyer and finds himself in the hands of Mia (Hope Davis), a 40-something single woman who 20 years earlier had been his patient. That Mia has her own motives for grabbing Paul’s case goes without saying, but Ms. Davis is unnervingly convincing in the role and brings resonance to her character’s every word.

                                                      Paul doesn’t want to believe he is responsible for Alex’s death, or that it really was a suicide. But he has reason to feel guilty, and that remorse bleeds into his other cases as he tries to take a more interventionist role in his patients’ lives. He oversteps in his first meeting with April (Alison Pill), a fiercely independent architecture student with a problem that is literally unspeakable: she can’t describe it to Paul in words, and writes it on a scrap of paper.

                                                      John Mahoney, who played the father of a shrink for laughs on “Frasier,” is now on the couch in deadly earnest as Walter, an embattled chief executive who comes to Paul for help with panic attacks. Walter wants a quick fix to his problems and is contemptuous of anything that smacks of psychobabble, and Paul, less passive than in the past, occasionally loses patience with Walter’s resistance.

                                                      Oliver (Aaron Shaw) is an overweight teenager whose parents are getting a divorce, and their recriminations, which they air in the middle of their child’s sessions, oppress Oliver — and Paul. He hears echoes of his own broken marriage in their squabbling, which makes him all the gloomier — and combative — when he travels back to Maryland to talk to Gina.

                                                      Nobody’s perfect, and even shows that explore human imperfection have flaws. Some of the patients’ underlying problems seem too pat for a series that traffics in ambiguity and nuance, while Paul’s personal history crosses over into Lifetime movie territory. But nimble, powerful acting and well-wrought dialogue outweigh the weaknesses.

                                                      The first season was shown for nine weeks, with one session per half-hour episode nearly every weeknight. This one unfolds in back-to-back episodes, two on Sunday and three on Monday, over seven weeks. It may seem like a daunting commitment. But the spectacle of other people unraveling moves quickly, particularly when it’s the viewer who gets to look at a watch and say, “I think our time is up.”

                                                      IN TREATMENT

                                                      HBO, Sunday nights at 9 and 9:25, Eastern and Pacific times; 8 and 8:25, Central time; Monday nights at 9, 9:25 and 9:55, Eastern and Pacific times; 8, 8:25 and 8:55, Central time.

                                                      Directed by Paris Barclay (“Mia,” “April,” and “Walter”), Ryan Fleck (“Oliver”) and Terry George (“Gina”); written by Warren Leight and Jacquelyn Reingold (“Mia”), Sarah Treem (“April”), Keith Bunin (“Oliver”), Pat Healy (“Walter”) and Marsha Norman (“Gina”); Stephen Levinson, Mr. Leight, Ms. Barclay, Hagai Levi, Rodrigo Garcia and Mark Wahlberg, executive producers; Noa Tishby, co-executive producer; Sarah Lum, Leonard Torgan, Alysse Bezahler and Ms. Treem, producers. Produced by HBO Entertainment.

                                                      WITH: Gabriel Byrne (Dr. Paul Weston), Dianne Wiest (Dr. Gina Toll), Hope Davis (Mia), Russell Hornsby (Luke), John Mahoney (Walter), Alison Pill (April), Sherri Saum (Bess) and Aaron Shaw (Oliver).

                                                       
                                                       

                                                      #5788 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
                                                      Date: Wed Jun 24, 2009 10:32 am
                                                      Subject: HealthyPlace Mental Health Newsletter, Week of June 23, 2009
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                                                      Here's what's happening on the HealthyPlace site this week:

                                                      Your Child's Mental Health

                                                      Do you ever wonder: "Is there something wrong with my child?"  Maybe your child acts out and you contemplate whether these are symptoms of ADHD or signs of Bipolar Disorder in children.

                                                      A recent study indicates that many parents can tell if their child has a mental illness. However, unlike cold symptoms or a case of the measles, a child's mental health problem may not be as easy to recognize.  Here are the signs of mental health disorders in children that signal it's time for professional help.

                                                      Your child's teacher can also be a resource in determining if your child has a psychological disorder or learning disability.

                                                      Sharing your observations with your child's pediatrician or family doctor is an important first step in getting a diagnosis and appropriate treatment for children with mental health needs.

                                                      We'll be exploring that more on tonight's HealthyPlace TV show.

                                                      "Parenting a Child with a Mental Illness" On HealthyPlace TV

                                                      Cheryl Murphy understands the stress, strain and heartbreak that sometimes comes with parenting a mentally ill child. Cheryl's children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren have all battled mood disorders and it's taken a toll on her and other members of her family.

                                                      Watch Cheryl's story unfold this Tuesday night, June 23. The show starts at 5:30p PT, 7:30 CT, 8:30 ET and airs live on our website.

                                                      In the second half of the show, you get to ask Dr. Harry Croft, your personal mental health questions.

                                                      Next week, on HealthyPlace TV, we'll be discussing OCD.

                                                      Coming in July on the HealthyPlace TV Show

                                                      • Surviving the Suicide of Your Child
                                                      • Sexual Addiction
                                                      • Narcissism
                                                      • Suicidality and Psychiatric Medications

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                                                      Coaching The Argumentative Child

                                                      Speaking of "wearing," do you have a child who argues about everything and anything? Dr. Steven Richfield, "The Parent Coach," says it can drive you and other family members absolutely bonkers. Luckily, he has a solution for dealing with the argumentative child.

                                                      Following Up on Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships

                                                      In last week's newsletter, we defined healthy relationships and unhealthy relationships. Afterwards, Amber wrote in to say:

                                                      "My problem is abusive relationships. I date a guy and think finally I found a nice one and a month or two later, the screaming, yelling and shoving starts. What's wrong with me?"

                                                      If you're in a similar situation:

                                                      Jealousy is another problem

                                                      Latest Mental Health News

                                                      These stories and more are featured on our mental health news page:

                                                      • Psychologists Converge to Study Happiness
                                                      • Parents Soothing OCD Child May Not Help
                                                      • It's the Pettiest Problems That Tear Couples Apart
                                                      • ECT Response Quicker in Bipolar Versus Unipolar Depression
                                                      • Mood and Sleep Symptoms Differentiate Bipolar Disorder from ADHD in Young Children
                                                      • His Malaise Behind Him, Mets’ Evans Gets Another Shot

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                                                      #5787 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
                                                      Date: Fri Jun 19, 2009 7:08 pm
                                                      Subject: ONLINE BOOK "Trivial Complaints": The Role of Privacy in Domestic Violence Law And activism in the U.S.
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                                                         The courts have been loth [sic] to take cognizance of trivial complaints
                                                      arising out of domestic relations-such as . . . husband and wife. . . .
                                                      [B]ecause the evil of publicity would be greater than the evil involved in
                                                      the trifles complained of; and because they ought to be left to family
                                                      government. . . . For, however great are the evils of ill temper, quarrels,
                                                      and even personal conflicts inflicting only temporary pain, they are not
                                                      comparable with the evils which would result from raising the curtain, and
                                                      exposing to public curiosity and criticism the nursery and the bed chamber.1
                                                      1The problem of domestic violence2 is one that has persisted in the United
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                                                      domestic violence in the United States has been inextricably linked with the
                                                      concept of privacy: legal and cultural understandings of privacy have long
                                                      influenced the ways in which judges, legislators, activists, victims,
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                                                      issue. This book examines the history of domestic violence law and activism
                                                      in the United States from the late nineteenth century to the present day,
                                                      particularly as they have been affected by various conceptions of privacy.
                                                      Specifically, it seeks to understand the complex relationship between
                                                      privacy and domestic violence through a historically situated and
                                                      contextualized analysis of domestic violence litigation.
                                                      
                                                      
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                                                      #5786 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
                                                      Date: Fri Jun 19, 2009 3:05 pm
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                                                      Healthcare Reform Checklist
                                                      By Sam Vaknin
                                                      Author of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"
                                                       

                                                       

                                                      GENERAL

                                                      Healthcare legislation in countries in transition, emerging economic, and developing countries should permit - and use economic incentives to encourage - a structural reform of the sector, including its partial privatization.

                                                      KEY ISSUES

                                                      ·        Universal healthcare vs. selective provision, coverage, and delivery (for instance, means-tested, or demographically-adjusted)

                                                      ·        Health Insurance Fund: Internal, streamlined market vs. external market competition

                                                      ·        Centralized system – or devolved? The role of local government in healthcare.

                                                      ·        Ministry of Health: Stewardship or Micromanagement?

                                                      ·        Customer (Patient) as Stakeholder

                                                      ·        Imbalances: overstaffing (MDs), understaffing (nurses), geographical distribution (rural vs. urban), service type (overuse of secondary and tertiary healthcare vs. primary healthcare)

                                                      AIMS

                                                      ·        To amend existing laws and introduce new legislation to allow for changes to take place.

                                                      ·        To effect a transition from individualized medicine to population medicine, with an emphasis on the overall welfare and needs of the community

                                                      Hopefully, the new legal environment will:

                                                      ·        Foster entrepreneurship;

                                                      ·        Alter patterns of purchasing, provision, and contracting;

                                                      ·        Introduce constructive competition into the marketplace;

                                                      ·        Prevent market failures;

                                                      ·        Transform healthcare from an under-financed and under-invested public good into a thriving sector with (more) satisfied customers and (more) profitable providers.

                                                      ·        Transition to Patient-centred care: respect for patients’ values, preferences, and expressed needs in regard to coordination and integration of care, information, communication and education, physical comfort, emotional support and alleviation of fear and anxiety, involvement of family and friends, transition and continuity.

                                                      The Law and regulatory framework should explicitly allow for the following:

                                                      I. PURCHASING and PURCHASERS

                                                      (I1) Private health insurance plans (Germany, Czech Republic, Netherlands), including franchises of overseas insurance plans, subject to rigorous procedures of inspection and to satisfying financial and governance requirements. Insured/beneficiaries will have the right to apply contributions to chosen purchaser and to switch insurers annually.

                                                      Private healthcare plans can be established by large firms; guilds (chambers of commerce and other professional or sectoral associations); and regions (see the subchapter on devolution under VI. Stewardship).

                                                      Private insurers: must provide universal coverage; offer similar care packages; apply the same rate of premium, unrelated to the risk of the subscriber; cannot turn applicants down; must adhere to national-level rules about packages and co-payments; compete on equality and efficiency standards.

                                                      (I11) Breakup of statutory Health Insurance Fund to 2-3 competing insurance plans (possibly on a regional basis, as is the case in France) on equal footing with private entrants.

                                                      Regional funds will be responsible for purchasing health services (including from hospitals) and making payments to providers. They will be not-for-profit organizations with their own boards and managerial autonomy.

                                                      (I12) Board of directors and supervisory boards of health insurance funds to include:

                                                      -         Two non-executive, lay (not from the medical professions and not politicians) members of the public. These will represent the patients and will be elected by a Council of the Insured, (as is the practice in the Netherlands)

                                                      -         Municipal representatives;

                                                      -         Representatives of stakeholders (doctors, nurses, employees of the funds, etc.).

                                                      (I13) The funds will be granted autonomy regarding matters of human resources (personnel hiring and firing); budgeting; financial incentives (bonuses and penalties); and contracting.

                                                      The funds will be bound by rules of public disclosure about what services were purchased from which providers and at what cost.

                                                      Citizen juries and citizen panels will be used to assist with rationing and priority-setting decisions (United Kingdom).

                                                      (I2) Procurement of medicines to be done by an autonomous central purchasing agency, supervised by a public committee (drug regulatory authority) aided by outside auditors.

                                                      All procurement of drugs and medications will be done via international tenders.

                                                      The agency will submit its reimbursement rates for drugs on the PLD to external audit in order to accurately reflect pharmacists’ overhead costs. At the same time, the profit margins on all drugs, whether on the PLD or not, will be regulated.

                                                      This agency should be separate from the Health Insurance Fund and the Ministry of Health. This agency will also maintain national drug registries. It will secure volume discounts for bulk purchasing and transparent, arm’s-length pricing.

                                                      (I21) Use of reference prices for medicines. If the actual price exceeds the reference price, the price difference has to be met by the patient.

                                                      (I3) The Approved (Positive) List of Medicines will be recomposed to include generic drugs whenever possible and to exclude expensive brands where generics exist. This should be a requirement in the law. Separately, an Essential Drug List will be drawn up.

                                                      (I31) Encourage rational drug prescribing by instituting a mixture of GP and PHC incentives and penalties, or a fundholding system: budgets will be allocated to each GP for the purchase of drugs and medications. If the GP exceeds his/her budget, s/he is penalized. The GP gets to keep a percentage of budget savings. Prescription decisions will be medically reviewed to avoid under-provision.

                                                      (I4) Payments and Contracting

                                                      Payment to providers should combine, in a mixed formula:

                                                      BLOCK CONTRACTS

                                                      Capitation - A fixed fee for a list of services to be provided to a single patient in a given period, payable even if the services were not consumed, adjusted for the patients' demographic data and reimbursement for fee-for-service items.

                                                      Inflation-adjusted Global budgeting (hospitals) and block (lump sum) grants (municipalities)


                                                      COST and VOLUME CONTRACTS

                                                      Provide incentives and reward marketing efforts which result in an increase in
                                                      demand/referral beyond the limit set in a block contract.

                                                      COST PER CASE CONTRACTS

                                                      Apply Diagnosis Related Group (DRG)/ Resource-based Relative Value (RBRV) / Patient Management Categories (PMCs) / Disease Staging/Clinical Pathways

                                                      Levels of reimbursement, case-mix adjusted to be decided by external auditors.

                                                      Contracts with providers should include:

                                                      ·        Waiting Times Guarantee

                                                      ·        Single Contact Person (“Case Officer”) for the duration of a stay at the hospital

                                                      ·        Hospital benchmarking (individual-level data on costs, diagnoses, and procedures during entire case episodes: inpatient admissions and outpatient visits; cost-effectiveness of services.

                                                      ·        Performance targets in performance agreements with all healthcare facilities, both public and private.

                                                      ·        All payments - wages included - will be tied to these targets and their attainment as well as to healthcare quality as determined by objective measures (internal, external, and functional benchmarking), clinical audits (sampling), as well as customer satisfaction surveys and interviews and discussions with patients.

                                                      ·        Provider and Staff Bonuses and penalties tied to exceeding/under-performing targets and contract variance

                                                      ·        Patients’ rights, including their rights to litigate

                                                      Selective contracting will be allowed on all levels (including specialist ambulatory care and hospitals), although all providers, private and public, will be permitted to apply for contracts with health funds and insurers. The funds will choose from among private providers either following a process of deliberation, or via an auction, or public tender (United Kingdom).

                                                      (I5) Commissioning preference will be given to the purchase of Primary Healthcare over secondary, or tertiary Healthcare.


                                                      II. PROVIDERS

                                                      The Law and regulatory framework should explicitly allow for the following:

                                                       (II1) Hospital Management

                                                      (See separate document)

                                                      The law should allow:

                                                      I. Co-location of a private wing within or beside a public hospital

                                                      II. Outsourcing of non-clinical support services

                                                      III. Outsourcing of clinical support services

                                                      IV. Outsourcing of specialized clinical services

                                                      V. Private management of public hospitals

                                                      VI. Private financing, construction, and leaseback of new public hospitals

                                                      VII. Private financing, construction, and operation of new public hospitals

                                                      VIII. Sale of public hospitals as going concerns

                                                      IX. Sale of public hospitals for alternative use

                                                      X. Consolidation of redundant public healthcare facilities by merging them or closing down some of them

                                                      XI. Privatization of Primary Healthcare (PHC) clinics within medical centers

                                                      XII. Healthcare institutions will be granted autonomy regarding matters of human resources (personnel hiring and firing); administering financial incentives or penalties, budgeting; and contracting.

                                                      XIII. Privatization pharmacies inside medical centers and hospitals.

                                                      (II2) Primary, Ambulatory, and Secondary Care and General Practitioners (GP)

                                                      (II21) Limit the number of patients per GP


                                                      (II22) Stimulate and financially incentivize the following activities, which should be declared national priorities within a National Needs Assessment:

                                                      ·        Group practices and networks (for continued, around-the-clock services)

                                                      ·        Day and minimally invasive surgery

                                                      ·        Dispensaries

                                                      ·        Home and day care services

                                                      ·        Long-term care (nursing homes, visiting nurses, home I.V. and other services provided to chronically ill or disabled persons)

                                                      ·        Patient hotels

                                                      ·        Rehabilitation facilities and programs

                                                      ·        Provision of merit goods (also through mass campaigns)

                                                      ·        Conversion of hospital units to outpatient services, and day-care centers

                                                      Example of such financial incentives:

                                                      ·        Physicians will be entitled to see patients who receive services free-of-cost
                                                      in the public sector in the morning, and private patients who pay the full
                                                      cost of the medical consultation in the afternoon.

                                                      ·        Allow private beds in public hospitals and private financing of hospital stays (NHS, UK)

                                                      ·        Subsidize or fully cover transaction costs (legal fees of contracting, compliance, accounting, etc.)

                                                      (II23) Allow hospitals to administer packages of outpatient services and be reimbursed by the Health Insurance Fund (or funds).

                                                      (II24) Impose an admission quota on medical schools; reduce the obligatory number of doctors per 1000 population; and make GP a medical specialty.

                                                      (II25) Strengthen the gatekeeper function of GPs and healthcare provision in outpatient settings.

                                                      Encourage gatekeeping  by instituting a mixture of GP and PHC incentives and penalties, or a fundholding system (United Kingdom, Estonia, Spain):

                                                      Budgets will be allocated to each GP for the purchase of secondary and tertiary healthcare (as well as to cover salaries, premises, diagnostic tests). If the GP exceeds his/her budget, s/he is penalized. The GP gets to keep a percentage of budget savings.

                                                      Referrals will be medically reviewed to avoid under-provision.

                                                      (II26) Introduce GP target income and adjust services and fees to reach it (perhaps by using tax credits).

                                                      (II27) Provide GPs and other types of primary and secondary healthcare providers with financial incentives to relocate to remote and rural areas

                                                      (II28) Render clinical and best practice guidelines mandatory (not merely recommended)

                                                      (II29) Encourage managed care (peer review panels, pre-approval procedures for surgery, case management for the chronically ill, formularies limiting pharmacy reimbursement to an approved list, and other contractual provisions).

                                                      III. PRIVATE SECTOR

                                                      Risks of privatization and private non-managed, imperfect competition: market failure, as patients received too many unnecessary services, due to fee-for-service reimbursement and information asymmetry.

                                                      The Law and regulatory framework should explicitly allow for the following:

                                                       (III0) Allow private primary healthcare physicians to offer preventive care, treatments and interventions after office hours, emergency dental and medical care, emergency home treatment, preventive checkups for preschool and school children, patronage and polyvalent patronage services, and all other elements of comprehensive healthcare.

                                                       (III1) Arrangements with the private sector and Private-Public Partnerships (PPP) for the provision of healthcare:

                                                      (III11) Service Contract (Dominican Republic), or Contracting-out

                                                      The government pays private entities - including doctors - to perform specific healthcare tasks, or to provide specific healthcare services under a contract. The private service providers can make use of state-owned facilities, if they wish, or operate from their own premises.

                                                      Payments by the government are usually based on capitation (a fixed fee for a list of services to be provided to a single patient in a given period, payable even if the services were not consumed) adjusted for the patients' demographic data and reimbursement for fee-for-service items.

                                                      (III12) Management Contract Outsourcing (Cambodia)

                                                      The government pays private entities to manage and operate public health care facilities, like clinics, or hospitals.



                                                      (III13) Lease (Romania since 1994)

                                                      Private entities - including doctors - pay the government a lump sum or monthly fees to use specific state-owned equipment, state-employed manpower, clinics, or complete public health care facilities.

                                                      The private entity is entitled to all revenues from its operations but also bears all commercial risks, is responsible for management and operations and liable for malpractice and accidents.  

                                                      The state is still responsible to make capital investments in the leased facility or equipment, but maintenance costs are borne by the private entity.

                                                      (III14) Concession and Build-Operate-Transfer (BOT) (Costa Rica)

                                                      Concession is exactly like a lease arrangement (see above) with one exception: the private entity is responsible for capital investment. In return, the contract period is extended and can be voided only with a considerable pre-advice.

                                                      In BOT (Build-Operate-Transfer) and ROT (Rehabilitate-Operate-Transfer) the capital investment involves the construction or renovation/upgrade of new healthcare facilities. The private entity uses the constructed facility to provide services. After a prescribed period of time has elapsed, ownership is transferred to the government.

                                                      (III15) Divestiture and Build-Own-Operate (BOO) (Texas, USA)

                                                      The law should permit the outright sale of state- owned health care facilities to a qualified private entity, including physician groups who band together to purchase previously state-run facilities.

                                                      Another possibility is a BOO scheme, in which the private entity contractually undertakes to add facilities, improve services, purchase equipment, or all three. 

                                                      (III16) Free entry

                                                      The law should allow qualified private providers to operate freely. Though regulated, these private firms will have no other relationship with the state.

                                                      Such entities would have to be licensed, certified, overseen, and accredited for expertise, safety, hygiene, maintenance, track record, liability insurance, and so on.

                                                      The state may choose to encourage such providers to locate in specific regions, to cater to poor clients, or to provide specific healthcare tasks or services by offering tax incentives, free training, access to public facilities, etc.


                                                      (III17) Franchising (Kenya, Pakistan, Philippines)

                                                      A private firm (franchisee) acquires a license from and shares profits with the franchisor (a domestic, or, more often, foreign firm). The franchisee uses the brand name, trademarks, marketing materials, management techniques, designs, media access, access to approved suppliers at bulk (discounted) prices, and training offered by the franchisor. The franchisor monitors the performance and quality of service of the franchisee.

                                                      This model works mainly in preventive care, family planning, and reproductive health.

                                                      The World Bank ("Public Policy for the Private Sector", Note number 263, dated June 2003):

                                                      "Franchisers in the health sector, often supported by international donors and nongovernmental organizations (NGOs), establish protocols, provide training for health workers, certify those who qualify, monitor the performance of franchisees, and provide bulk procurement and brand marketing."

                                                      (III18) Allow Charities and Not-for-profit organizations to run health insurance funds and a variety of providers (including full-scale secondary and tertiary healthcare institutions).

                                                      (III9) Voluntary Health Insurance (substitutive; complementary; and complementary), subject to open enrollment periods and mandatory coverage of dependants (to prevent cream-skimming and adverse selection).

                                                      IV. FINANCING

                                                      The Law and regulatory framework should explicitly allow for the following:

                                                       (IV0) Institute co-payments for examination by a GP, emergency medical care, and certain preventive programs.

                                                      (IV01) Introduce negative co-payments: rebates or credits (to be deducted from future contributions) to insured persons who, in the preceding year, did not use services and did not consume interventions or drugs from the positive list above a level determined by the Ministry of Health.

                                                      (IV02) Introduce provider co-payments for hospital stays above the European Union average. Whenever the length of stay exceeds the EU average, the provider (hospital) will make a co-payment to the Health Insurance Fund or to the insurer.


                                                      (IV1) Voucher System (Nicaragua)

                                                      The law should allow for experimenting with novel payment and resource allocation techniques, such as vouchers or prepaid health cards distributed to needy populations and guaranteeing free basic service packages provided by a limited list of clinics or other healthcare facilities. Such schemes can also be managed by the private sector.

                                                      (IV2) Medical Savings Accounts (Singapore)

                                                      Allows or mandates people to place money in (tax-free) savings accounts to be used only for medical expenses, usually in conjunction with the purchase of a catastrophic stop-loss health insurance plan.

                                                      Contributions by employers and employees accumulate over time and are used, tax-free, to pay for hospital expenses in public and private hospitals, national supplementary health insurance premiums, special procedures (including abroad), and expensive outpatient treatment and drugs for the saver and his immediate family.

                                                      (IV3) Consumer Organizations and Community Healthcare Financing

                                                      Consumer organizations in the healthcare field (such as buyers' clubs or Health Maintenance Organizations-HMOs owned by cooperatives, NGOs, municipalities).

                                                      These groups will shop and tender for the best, most reasonably priced, and most efficient healthcare services for their members (Switzerland).

                                                      Example: HMO in USA – Integrated Model of Healthcare

                                                      (Source: WHO)

                                                      Health maintenance organization (HMO) is US health care sector term. It is an organization that contracts to provide comprehensive medical services (not patient
                                                      reimbursement) for a specified fee each month.

                                                      The term health maintenance organization arose because doctors under this arrangement have a financial incentive to keep their patience healthy, since they are not paid more for providing more services.

                                                      Health maintenance organizations, which focus on providing patients comprehensive medical care and pay doctors a specified monthly fee, have become increasingly popular in the United States, prompted by high costs from the previous fee-for-service, traditional indemnity health insurance plans.

                                                      In this model, doctors are typically paid by salary and hospitals are typically funded by global budgets. Benefits are supplied to patients in-kind, often free of charge. The public version of this model involves government financing and provision of health care and is often funded mainly out of general taxation. In the US, the voluntary form of this model is better known as the staff model of the health maintenance organisation. “Integration” as such is not only used for integrated model, but also for types of care provisions in which providers offering differing services (e.g., ambulatory care, inpatient care, rehabilitative care) provide them in an integrated way.

                                                      (IV4) Voluntary Health Insurance (substitutive; complementary; and complementary) with the right to apply one’s contributions to pay the premium and the right to switch insurers annually.

                                                      (IV51) Earmark a percentage of vice (sin) taxes, customs duties, VAT, and excise (on alcohol and tobacco; drugs and medications) for healthcare purposes.

                                                      (IV52) Reform healthcare budgeting. All healthcare budgets (including the budgets of the Ministry of Health; of hospitals, clinics, and primary healthcare facilities) will include amortization (and capital investments), goodwill and intellectual property, and intangibles (such as environmental externalities).

                                                      (IV6) Allow providers to retain a percentage of the user-fees they collect.

                                                      (IV7) Means-tested system: affluent and certain constituencies will be excluded from coverage (Netherlands, Germany) or pay much higher co-payments, co-insurance, or deductible (cost-sharing).

                                                      In such a system, private insurers administer compulsory insurance for the excluded groups (e.g., civil servants in Netherlands).

                                                      (IV8) Introduce VAT on hospitals to encourage investment, the purchase of medications, the retention of external services (e.g. training, skilling, continued education, management consultancy, auditing, etc.), where the hospitals can deduct VAT and retain it as an addition to their own budget.

                                                      (IV9) Community rating system vs. Demographically-adjusted or experience-rated premiums (e.g., the old and sick pay more than the young and healthy or vice versa; people with dependants pay more than insured or subscribers without dependants, etc.)

                                                      (IV10) Blind Fundholding: Financial resources for health care are allocated on a per capita basis; financial resources are held in a fund; and the general practitioner is usually the decision-maker for allocating the funds to purchase hospital and community services (with the patient choosing the providers, not the GP as was the case in the United Kingdom).
                                                      V. E-HEALTH

                                                      The Law and regulatory framework should explicitly allow for the following:

                                                      (V1) Citizen-centered and Mobile Healthcare

                                                      (V12) Provide a legal framework for health data transfer

                                                      (V13) Harmonize confidentiality and privacy laws

                                                      (V14) Establish legal liability or waiver thereof for e-treatment

                                                      (V15) Settle issues of entitlement and reimbursement

                                                      (V16) Encourage Medical e-Tourism (inbound telemedicine)

                                                      (V17) Provide for infrastructure and interoperability

                                                      (V18) Permit and licence Web Health and (outbound) Telemedicine (laws, regulations, forms)

                                                      (V19) Establish early warning systems

                                                      (V110) Foster patient-driven comparative indicators (e.g., online rating of professionals and providers) and empower patient organizations

                                                      (V111) Electronic European Health Insurance Card

                                                      (V112) Each citizen (or his/her custodian) will have full access to a personal Health Home Page with his EMR (Electronic Medical Records)/EPR (Electronic Patient Record)/EHR (Electronic Health Record)


                                                      VI. STEWARDSHIP

                                                      The Law and regulatory framework should explicitly allow for the following:

                                                       (VI0) The Benefits Packages (basic and supplementary) to be decided by a conference of all stakeholders: Ministry of Health, patient groups and advocacy groups, and medical doctors associations, assisted by healthcare economists and experts.

                                                      (VI01) Consider the introduction of a Negative Benefits Package, listing only the interventions and services that are excluded from coverage. The interventions and services not on the Negative List are automatically covered.

                                                      (VI02) Consider exclusion of dental and oral care from the Benefits Package.

                                                      (VI03) Make preventive occupational health and safety measures, equipment, and training in the workplace mandatory. Re-establish occupational dispensaries in all workplaces with more than 100 workers.

                                                      (VI04) Generate annual National Needs Assessment reports (including technological needs assessment), including prioritized allocation of funding and foreign aid.

                                                      (VI05) Transform teaching hospitals into publicly-owned independent trusts (Italy, United Kingdom): the corporate type of hospital (hard budget; autonomous managers accountable to board; board accountable to government).

                                                      (VI1) Licencing and accreditation (including periodical renewal and relicencing by the doctors, dentists, and pharmacists chambers) will depend on continuing medical education (CME) and on education in management and finance for certain jobs (such as ward, clinic, and hospital directors).

                                                      All positions from ward doctor upwards will be subject to periodic review and open, public tenders.

                                                      (VI2) Private Sector Healthcare Monitoring and Regulatory Agency

                                                      The law should provide for the establishment of an agency to monitor and regulate private sector healthcare provision: compliance with contracts, servicing the indigent and the uninsured, imposing sanctions or "step-in" rights, and dispute resolution.

                                                      This agency will also maintain and supervise the operation of internal open-markets in the public sector; the outsourcing of primary care functions; and the purchase of primary care packages from private providers.


                                                      (VI3) Devolution (Finland)

                                                      Responsibility for the provision of some types of healthcare services (health promotion; preventive care; occupational health; mental health) and the allocation of inputs should be devolved to local authorities (municipalities), which will be required to produce budgets of needs vs. costs.

                                                      Consider possibility of turning municipalities to purchasers of secondary and tertiary healthcare from providers of their choice.

                                                      Local government will cover primary healthcare capital expenditures out of municipal taxes and fees and weighted capitation-based transfers from the central budget

                                                      The MoH will maintain a Fiscal Equalization Fund to ensure consistent quality and availability of healthcare provision across regions and localities.

                                                      (VI4) Health Academy

                                                      The Ministry should establish an Academy to train healthcare administrators with emphasis on systems administration and reform. The Academy will invite foreign experts as guest lecturers and teachers.

                                                      In conjunction with the Republic Institute for Health Protection, the Academy will co-maintain databases of case studies and evidence-based practices (feeding into the Cochrane Network) and the Medical Map of Macedonia.

                                                      (VI5) Campaign to encourage the public to consume generic drugs will be launched.

                                                      (VI6) External audit and cartel (antitrust) investigation regarding tertiary healthcare facilities.

                                                      (VI7) Wait Time Reduction Fund (Canada, 2004)

                                                      (VI8) National Waiting Times Guarantee

                                                      (VI9) Minister of Health Award of Excellence, presented annually to individuals and institutions of outstanding merit and excellence among healthcare professionals, purchasers, and providers of all types.

                                                       

                                                      (VI10) Appoint a Health Ombudsman and consumer advocates in each major healthcare facility. Strengthen patients’ rights and the Patients’ Charter. Provide all patients (Or their custodians) with full access to their medical records; compensation for iatrogenic diseases; a statutory role for patients’ associations; and the establishments of commissions with patient representatives in all hospitals (France).

                                                       


                                                      (VI11) SPECIFIC PROJECTS

                                                       

                                                      Uniform Emergency Number

                                                       

                                                      Neonatal Emergency Ambulance

                                                       

                                                      Health cabinets in schools

                                                       

                                                      Health Tourism

                                                       

                                                      (VI12) National Inventory of Medical Assets

                                                       

                                                      Extend the current central registry of all medical equipment in publicly-owned healthcare facilities to include private healthcare facilities.

                                                       

                                                      The Inventory should also profile medical personnel, real estate, fixtures, infrastructure, and other capital assets.

                                                       

                                                      (VI13) Coordinative Council for Social and Health Services: to plan and guarantee inter-sectoral action (together with the ministry of Social Welfare and Labor).

                                                       

                                                      (VI14) Publish standardized contracts, forms, and performance criteria (including qualitative clinical pathways and benchmarks) to reduce transaction costs.

                                                       

                                                      Example: the National Health Service Frameworks in the United Kingdom provide a health strategy; list priority interventions, treatment guidelines and performance targets; and proffer model contracts.

                                                      (VI15) Medical and Health Technology Assessment Board (examples: NICE in United Kingdom or SBU is Sweden) to decide all purchases of technology in secondary and tertiary facilities;  to publish “Positive Lists” of technology for GPs and PHC facilities; and to obtain discounts on bulk purchases.

                                                      The WHO defines Health Technology Assessment as:

                                                      “Comprehensive evaluation and assessment of existing and emerging medical technologies including pharmaceuticals, procedures, services, devices and equipment in regard to their medical, economic, social and ethical effects.

                                                      The systematic evaluation of properties, effects and/or impacts of health care technology. Health Technology Assessment defines a multidisciplinary activity that systematically examines technical performance, safety, clinical efficacy and effectiveness, cost, cost-effectiveness, organisational impact, social consequences, legal and ethical aspects of the application of a health technology (European Commission, 1999, from EUR-ASSESS 1997).”

                                                      (VI16) National Health Accounts Institute

                                                      (Sources: WHO, OECD, USAID)

                                                      Will publish the Healthcare PPP (Purchasing Power Parity), taking into account prices of imported healthcare inputs. Indicators may include total health expenditure, public
                                                      expenditure, private expenditure, out-of-pocket expenditure, tax-funded and other public expenditure, social security expenditure, public expenditure on health.

                                                      The National Health Accounts will also provide the following annual data, analyses, and indicators:

                                                      Sectoral opportunity costs, the value of benefits foregone by failure to apply the
                                                      resources to the most productive alternative cost;

                                                      Sectoral marginal costs, the extra cost of increasing output by one unit;

                                                      Sectoral variable costs: costs that vary with changes in output volume, such as the material required to provide a service versus

                                                      Sectoral fixed costs: costs which do not vary with quantity or volume of output provided, at least in the short run (e.g. rent for space).

                                                      Sectoral direct costs: all the goods, services and other resources that are consumed in the provision of a particular service or area (e.g. hospital supplies), including medical costs (e.g. payments to providers, material) and non-medical costs (e.g. transportation to hospital);

                                                      Sectoral indirect costs: total sum of morbidity costs (goods and services not produced by the patient because of the illness), mortality costs (goods and services the person could have produced had the illness not been incurred and the person not died prematurely), and productivity cost (related to lost productivity incurred by an employee who leaves work to provide care for the patient);

                                                      Sectoral intangible costs: usually used in economic evaluation, to indicate features like pain, anxiety or grief, which cannot be directly quantified in monetary terms.

                                                      Sectoral resource costs are the resources used in the production of goods and services; user cost: cost to the user of purchasing or making use of a product.

                                                      Sectoral cost-effectiveness analysis (CEA), a type of analysis that compares interventions or programmes having a common measurement of health outcome in a situation where, for a given level of resources, the decision maker wishes to maximise the health benefits conferred to the population of concern;

                                                      Sectoral cost-utility analysis (CUA), a type of analysis that measures benefits in utility-weighted life-years (QALYs) and which computes a cost per utility-measure ratio for comparison between programmes;

                                                      Sectoral cost-benefit analysis (CBA), a type of analysis that measures costs and benefits in monetary units and computes a net monetary gain/loss or a cost-benefit ratio.

                                                      Outcomes research: the Institute will evaluate the impact of health care on the health
                                                      outcomes of patients and populations, including an evaluation of economic impacts linked to health outcomes, such as cost effectiveness and cost utility. Outcomes research emphasises health problem- (or disease-) oriented evaluations of care delivered in general, real world settings; multidisciplinary teams; and a wide range of outcomes, including mortality, morbidity, functional status, mental well-being, and other aspects of health related quality of life.

                                                      Total expenditure on health: Total (or national) expenditure on health based on: Personal
                                                      health care services + Medical goods dispensed to outpatients = Total personal expenditure on health + Services of prevention and public health + Health administration and health insurance = Total current expenditure on health + Investment into medical facilities = Total expenditure on health.

                                                       

                                                      Another formula is: total expenditure on health = * private health care expenditure + * public health care expenditure.

                                                       

                                                      (VI17) Hospital League Table and star ranking (like with hotels and restaurants) to include information made publicly-available in various media: number of patients treated; complication rates; waiting times; data about procedures; food and amenities; other quality measures.

                                                       

                                                      (VI18) Annual National Health Survey: will measure attitudes; customer satisfaction; emerging trends among purchasers and providers; and the increase or decrease in quality and performance standards as well as in capital investments.

                                                       



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                                                      Love - Narcissism Revisited and After the Rain - How the West Lost the East.
                                                      He served as a columnist for Global Politician, Central Europe Review,
                                                      PopMatters, Bellaonline, and eBookWeb, a United Press International (UPI)
                                                      Senior Business Correspondent, and the editor of mental health and Central
                                                      East Europe categories in The Open Directory and Suite101.

                                                      Visit Sam's Web site at http://samvak.tripod.com

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                                                      Date: Thu Jun 18, 2009 7:55 pm
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                                                      Ensuring a Sustainable Future for Generations to Come

                                                      By Sam Vaknin
                                                      Author of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"
                                                       

                                                      What can we do to ensure that generations to come have a sustainable future?

                                                      Nothing much. The question, as it is posed, caters to our narcissistic presumptuousness and grandiosity in that it implies that we can predict the future with a modicum of certainty and act to subvert it or change its course. This, of course, amounts to delusional thinking. There is very little we know about complex systems such as the weather or human societies, let alone about the confluence of both. Remember how Malthus's dire scenarios were refuted (hitherto) by the advent of the green (agricultural) revolution?

                                                      As the White House Science Advisor said (in a 200-pages report released in June 2009), there is "unequivocal and primarily human-induced" rise in global temperatures. This, to quote the CNN, "threatens to stress water resources, challenge crops and livestock, raise sea levels and adversely affect human health ... Longer and more intense heat waves; increased heavy downpours likely to cause widespread complications such as flooding and waterborne diseases; reduced summer runoff, creating greater competition for water, especially in the West; rising ocean water temperatures that will threaten coral reefs; an increase in wildfires and insect infestations; and more frequent coastal flooding caused by rising seas."

                                                      There is also no doubt that we need to act to reduce emissions and ameliorate localized adverse reactions to and outcomes of climate change. But our reactions should and can amount merely to damage control in the here and now. Any future-oriented intervention (based on considerations of inter-generational equity) may do more harm than good because of a basic information asymmetry: we know a lot more about the past and the present than we could ever hope to learn about the future.

                                                      There is also the implicit assumption that future generations are going to share the same values, preferences, and priorities as we do and, therefore, will be appreciative of our efforts on their behalf. This is "generational centrism". If history is any lesson, nothing can be farther from the truth. Each generation develops its own mindset and adapts to its physical environment (in the long run, our descendants may even relocate to other planets.) Our forefathers, for example, would have been horrified by our penchant for inhabiting polluted, congested, crowded, filthy, and crime-ridden cities. There was no way they could have predicted urbanization, what with their rustic and pastoral predilections.

                                                      Finally, sustainability implies a preference for plenitude over scarcity. Yet, abundant natural resources and endowments are rarely conducive to creative and disruptive innovation. The accomplishments and assets our civilization prides itself on are all the outcomes of hardship and dearth.

                                                      There remains the ethical question of whether we owe anything (for instance, a sustainable environment) to persons who have yet to be born. Even if we assume that such persons will surely exist, what is the contract that binds us together? What obligations - moral or otherwise- do we have towards future generations? That we wish to do something does not mean that we ought to do it (in the moral sense).

                                                      Rights - whether moral or legal - impose obligations or duties on third parties towards the right-holder. One has a right against other people and thus can prescribe to them certain obligatory behaviors and proscribe certain acts or omissions. Rights and duties are two sides of the same Janus-like ethical coin.

                                                      This duality confuses people. They often erroneously identify rights with their attendant duties or obligations, with the morally decent, or even with the morally permissible. One's rights inform other people how they must behave towards one - not how they should or ought to act morally. Moral behaviour is not dependent on the existence of a right. Obligations are.

                                                      The potential of future generations to become alive is not the ontological equivalent of actually being alive. A potential life cannot give rise to rights and obligations. The transition from potential to being is not trivial, nor is it automatic, or inevitable, or independent of context. Atoms of various elements have the potential to become an egg (or, for that matter, a human  being) - yet no one would claim that they ARE an egg (or a human being), or that they should be treated as such (i.e., with the same rights and obligations).

                                                      Future generations, in other words, have no rights and we have no obligations towards them.

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                                                      Sam Vaknin ( http://samvak.tripod.com ) is the author of Malignant Self
                                                      Love - Narcissism Revisited and After the Rain - How the West Lost the East.
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                                                      PopMatters, Bellaonline, and eBookWeb, a United Press International (UPI)
                                                      Senior Business Correspondent, and the editor of mental health and Central
                                                      East Europe categories in The Open Directory and Suite101.

                                                      Visit Sam's Web site at http://samvak.tripod.com

                                                      #5784 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
                                                      Date: Thu Jun 18, 2009 5:45 pm
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                                                      Complex PTSD from Wikipedia
                                                      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Complex_Post_Traumatic_Stress_Disorder

                                                      quote:
                                                      Complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD) is a clinically recognized
                                                      condition that results from extended exposure to extremes of social and/or
                                                      interpersonal trauma, including sexual abuse (especially child sexual
                                                      abuse), physical abuse, emotional abuse, domestic violence, and torture. A
                                                      differentiation between the diagnostic categorizations of C-PTSD and that of
                                                      Post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) has been suggested, as C-PTSD better
                                                      describes the pervasive negative impact of chronic trauma than does PTSD
                                                      alone.[1][2]
                                                      As a descriptor, PTSD fails to capture some of the core characteristics of
                                                      C-PTSD. These elements include psychological fragmentation, the loss of a
                                                      sense of safety, trust, and self-worth, as well as the tendency to be
                                                      revictimized, and, most importantly, the loss of a coherent sense of self.
                                                      It is this loss of a coherent sense of self, and the ensuing symptom
                                                      profile, that most pointedly differentiates C-PTSD from PTSD.[3]



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                                                      Complex PTSD from the Dept of Veteran's Affairs
                                                      http://www.ncptsd.va.gov/ncmain/ncdocs/fact_shts/fs_complex_ptsd.html

                                                      quote:
                                                      Clinicians and researchers have found that the current PTSD diagnosis often
                                                      does not capture the severe psychological harm that occurs with such
                                                      prolonged, repeated trauma. For example, ordinary, healthy people who
                                                      experience chronic trauma can experience changes in their self-concept and
                                                      the way they adapt to stressful events. Dr. Judith Herman of Harvard
                                                      University suggests that a new diagnosis, called Complex PTSD, is needed to
                                                      describe the symptoms of long-term trauma.



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                                                      From Trauma and Recovery by Judith Hermann

                                                      Excerpt found at : http://www.refocus.org/trauma.html

                                                      quote:
                                                      Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

                                                      1. A history of subjection to totalitarian control over a prolonged period
                                                      (months to years). Examples include hostages, prisoners of war,
                                                      concentration-camp survivors and survivors of some religious cults. Examples
                                                      also include those subjected to totalitarian systems in sexual and domestic
                                                      life, including survivors of domestic battering, childhood physical or
                                                      sexual abuse, and organized sexual exploitation.
                                                      2. Alterations in affect regulation, including
                                                      -persistent dysphoria (a state of anxiety, dissatisfaction, restlessness or
                                                      fidgeting)
                                                      -chronic suicidal preoccupation
                                                      -self-injury
                                                      -explosive or extremely inhibited anger (may alternate)
                                                      -compulsive or extremely inhibited sexuality (may alternate)
                                                      3. Alterations in consciousness, including
                                                      -amnesia or hyperamnesia for traumatic events
                                                      -transient dissociative episodes
                                                      -depersonalization/derealization (depersonalization - an alteration in the
                                                      perception or experience of the self so that the usual sense of one's own
                                                      reality is temporarily lost or changed; derealization - an alteration in the
                                                      perception of one's surroundings so that a sense of the reality of the
                                                      external world is lost)
                                                      -reliving experiences, either in the form of intrusive
                                                      post-traumatic -stress disorder symptoms or in the form of ruminative
                                                      preoccupation
                                                      4. Alterations in self-perception, including
                                                      -sense of helplessness or paralysis of initiative
                                                      -shame, guilt, and self-blame
                                                      -sense of defilement or stigma
                                                      -sense of complete difference from others (may include sense of specialness,
                                                      utter aloneness, belief no other person can understand, or nonhuman
                                                      identity)
                                                      5. Alterations in perception of perpetrator, including
                                                      -preoccupations with relationship with perpetrator (includes preoccupation
                                                      with revenge)
                                                      -unrealistic attribution of total power to perpetrator (caution: victim’s
                                                      assessment of power realities may be more realistic than clinician’s)
                                                      -idealization or paradoxical gratitude
                                                      -sense of special or supernatural relationship
                                                      -acceptance of belief system or rationalizations of perpetrator
                                                      6. Alterations in relations with others, including
                                                      -isolation and withdrawal
                                                      -disruption in intimate relationships
                                                      -repeated search for rescuer (may alternate with isolation and withdrawal)
                                                      -persistent distrust
                                                      -repeated failures of self-protection
                                                      7. Alterations in systems of meaning, including
                                                      -loss of sustaining faith
                                                      -sense of hopelessness and despair



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                                                      Common Features of PTSD from Bullying
                                                      http://www.bullyonline.org/stress/ptsd.htm#Stress

                                                      quote:
                                                      People suffering Complex PTSD as a result of bullying report consistent
                                                      symptoms which further help to characterise psychiatric injury and
                                                      differentiate it from mental illness. These include:

                                                      Fatigue with symptoms of or similar to Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (formerly
                                                      ME)
                                                      An anger of injustice stimulated to an excessive degree (sometimes but
                                                      improperly attracting the words "manic" instead of motivated, "obsessive"
                                                      instead of focused, and "angry" instead of "passionate", especially from
                                                      those with something to fear)
                                                      An overwhelming desire for acknowledgement, understanding, recognition and
                                                      validation of their experience
                                                      A simultaneous and paradoxical unwillingness to talk about the bullying
                                                      (click here to see why) or abuse (click here to see why)
                                                      A lack of desire for revenge, but a strong motivation for justice
                                                      A tendency to oscillate between conciliation (forgiveness) and anger
                                                      (revenge) with objectivity being the main casualty
                                                      Extreme fragility, where formerly the person was of a strong, stable
                                                      character
                                                      Numbness, both physical (toes, fingertips, and lips) and emotional
                                                      (inability to feel love and joy)
                                                      Clumsiness
                                                      Forgetfulness
                                                      Hyperawareness and an acute sense of time passing, seasons changing, and
                                                      distances travelled
                                                      An enhanced environmental awareness, often on a planetary scale
                                                      An appreciation of the need to adopt a healthier diet, possibly reducing or
                                                      eliminating meat - especially red meat
                                                      Willingness to try complementary medicine and alternative, holistic
                                                      therapies, etc
                                                      A constant feeling that one has to justify everything one says and does
                                                      A constant need to prove oneself, even when surrounded by good, positive
                                                      people
                                                      An unusually strong sense of vulnerability, victimisation or possible
                                                      victimisation, often wrongly diagnosed as "persecution"
                                                      Occasional violent intrusive visualisations
                                                      Feelings of worthlessness, rejection, a sense of being unwanted, unlikeable
                                                      and unlovable
                                                      A feeling of being small, insignificant, and invisible
                                                      An overwhelming sense of betrayal, and a consequent inability and
                                                      unwillingness to trust anyone, even those close to you
                                                      In contrast to the chronic fatigue, depression etc, occasional false dawns
                                                      with sudden bursts of energy accompanied by a feeling of "I'm better!", only
                                                      to be followed by a full resurgence of symptoms a day or two later
                                                      Excessive guilt - when the cause of PTSD is bullying, the guilt expresses
                                                      itself in forms distinct from "survivor guilt"

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                                                      Date: Wed Jun 17, 2009 7:03 pm
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                                                      Facebook and Divorce: Airing the Dirty Laundry

                                                      facebook divorce
                                                      Not long after Patrick told his wife Tammie he wanted a divorce, she posted an angry, hurt note on "the wall," or public-comments section, of his Facebook page. Embarrassed that his colleagues, clients, church friends and family could see evidence of his marital woes, he deleted it and blocked his wife from seeing his page. A couple of days later, the IT worker in Florida--who asked that his last name not be used in this story — found alarmed messages from two Facebook friends in his inbox. Tammie had used a mutual friend's account to view Patrick's wall and e-mailed several women he had had exchanges with. He says her e-mails were borderline defamatory. She says they merely noted that he was married with children, a fact he had left off his Facebook profile. Either way: Ouch.

                                                      For those who want to connect or reconnect with others, social-networking sites are a huge, glorious honeypot. But for those who are disconnecting, they can make things quite sticky. And as the age of online-social-network users creeps up, it overlaps more with the age of divorce-lawyer users, resulting in the kind of semipublic laundry-airing that can turn aggrieved spouses into enraged ones and friends into embarrassed spectators. (See five no-nos for divorcing couples.)

                                                      Lawyers, however, love these sites, which can be evidentiary gold mines. Did your husband's new girlfriend Twitter about getting a piece of jewelry? The court might regard that as marital assets being disbursed to a third party. Did your wife tell the court she's incapable of getting a job? Then your lawyer should ask why she's pursuing job interviews through LinkedIn.

                                                      Battles over finances and custody remain the Iwo Jima and Stalingrad of divorce cases. Opposing lawyers will press any advantage they have, and personal information on sites like Facebook, MySpace and LinkedIn is like decoded bulletins from enemy territory. "It's now just routine for us to go over with clients whether they have an active presence on the Web and if they Twitter or have a MySpace page," says Joseph Cordell of Cordell & Cordell, a domestic-relations law firm with offices in 10 states. He advises his mostly male clients to scour their page — and their girlfriend's — for anything that could be used by their ex's legal team. Then Cordell studies the page of the soon-to-be ex-wife.

                                                      "We had a custody case where a mom assured the court that she hadn't been drinking," recalls the Missouri-based attorney. "But her MySpace page had actual dated photos of her drinking — and smoking, which is also of interest." In another case, a mom had listed herself on a dating site as single with no kids, which Cordell's firm used to cast doubt on her truthfulness.

                                                      And that's just the courtroom stuff.

                                                      Half the fun of social-networking sites is the posting of personal news. The other half is the posting of personal opinion, something spurned spouses typically have in spades. MySpace and its ilk offer the giddying cocktail of being able to say something in the privacy of your home that will be publicly accessible, along with a chaser of instant gratification. All this at a time when people are often less than their best selves. On the walls of two Facebook groups — I Hate My Ex-Husband and I Hate My Ex-Wife, which together had been joined by 236 Facebook users as of early June — posts include all manner of (often misspelled) vitriol, including some colorful British slang: "my husband is ... a dirty smelly chavvy theivin alcoholic drug addict selfish scum bag" and "my ex wife is a no good lieing slag," each of which was posted alongside a smiling photograph of the commenter. (Watch TIME's video "Beer Pong Strikes Back.")

                                                      There's little the besmirched can do legally, unless there are children involved. Family-law courts routinely issue restraining orders to prevent one parent from disparaging another to a child. "The question is, If it's on the Internet, can that speech be blocked?" says Stephen Mindel, a managing partner at Feinberg, Mindel, Brandt & Klein in Los Angeles. "The First Amendment is going to come into conflict with the family-law courts." (Read "Your Facebook Relationship Status: It's Complicated.")

                                                      Issuing an order to remove children's access to Facebook is pointless, says Chicago-based lawyer Jennifer Smetters. "The kids just go on a fishing expedition to find out what's so secret. And no child needs to see their parent being publicly humiliated." Smetters has seen cases where messages on a social-networking site were part of a harassment campaign that led to the court's issuing a civil order of protection.

                                                      It seems everybody — except perhaps some lawyers — would be better off if divorcing spouses gave each other some space on MySpace. But when confused, anguished people look for ways to work through their feelings, a social-networking site can be an almost irresistible venue.

                                                      Patrick and Tammie are still active on Facebook. So are decoupled East Coast residents Andrea and Adrian, even after "he told me he didn't have any money and then posted pictures of his new BMW bike," Andrea says. He says Facebook helped her stalk him. "It's had a very negative impact on our communication," he adds.

                                                      But there can be some positives. Tammie's friends post supportive messages on her Facebook page. And Patrick says he understands online social networks better now. "It's like putting everybody you know in the same room. I'm using it, but I'm much more careful."


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                                                      Multiculturalism and Prosperity

                                                      By Sam Vaknin
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                                                      The propensity to extrapolate from past events to future trends is especially unfortunate in the discipline of History. Thus, the existence hitherto of a thriving multicultural polity does not presage the preponderance of a functioning multiculturalism in its future.

                                                      On the very contrary: in an open, tolerant multicultural society, the traits, skills, and capacities of members of different collectives converge. This gives rise to a Narcissism of Small Differences.

                                                      In heterogeneous societies, its components (religious communities; socio-economic classes; ethnic groups) strike implicit deals with each other. These deals adhere to an organizing or regulatory principle, the most common of which, at least since the late 19 century, is the State (most often, the Nation-State).

                                                      These implicit deals revolve around the allocation of resources, mainly of economic nature. They assume that the growth of the economy ought to be translated into individual prosperity, irrespective of the allegiance or affiliation of the individual.

                                                      There are two mechanisms that ensure such transmission of national wealth to the component-collectives and thence to the individuals they are comprised of:

                                                      (i) Allocative prosperity achieved through distributive justice (usually obtained via progressive taxation and transfers). This depends on maintaining overall economic growth. Only when the economy's cake grows bigger can the poor and disenfranchised enjoy social mobility and join the middle-class.

                                                      (ii) Imported prosperity (export proceeds, foreign direct investment (FDI), remittances, mercantilism, colonialism). In contemporary settings, these flows of foreign capital depend upon the country's membership in various geopolitical and economic "clubs".

                                                      When the political elite of the country fails to guarantee and engender individual prosperity either via economic growth (and, thus, allocative prosperity) or via imported prosperity, the organizing principle invariably comes under attack and very often mutates: empires disintegrate; uniform states go federated or confederated, etc. The process can be peaceful or fraught with conflict or bloodshed. It is commonly called: "history".

                                                      TWO CASE STUDIES

                                                      The Case of the Balkans

                                                      I have a Roma (gypsy) cleaning lady. She cleans my house every fortnight. She is nice and well spoken. She values education and good manners. She is spotless, obsessively purgatory, compulsively tidy. And she hates "shiptars" (the derogatory name assigned to Macedonian Albanians). They are dirty, she says, and criminal and they have too many children. They don't respect their women. She is afraid of them. Her eyes glow with the gratification of the underdog turned top dog, if only verbally, if only for a while, if only while cleansing my house. This is the way it is, a chain of abuse, a torrent of prejudice, an iron curtain of malice and stereotyping. Czechs portray "their" gypsies with the same lingual brushstrokes, the same venomous palette, a canvass of derision and atavistic, reflexive hatred.

                                                      In the Balkans reigns supreme the Law of the MinMaj. It is simple and it was invariably manifested throughout history. It is this: "Wars erupt whenever and wherever a country has a minority of the same ethnicity as the majority in its neighbouring country."

                                                      Consider Israel - surrounded by Arab countries, it has an Arab minority of its own, having expelled (ethnically cleansed) hundreds of thousands more. It has fought 6 wars with its neighbours and (good intentions notwithstanding) looks set to fight more. It is subjugated to the Law of the MinMaj, enslaved by its steady and nefarious domination.

                                                      Or take Nazi Germany. World War Two was the ultimate manifestation of the MinMaj Law. German minorities throughout Europe were either used by Germany - or actively collaborated with it - to justify one Anschluss after another. Austria, Czechoslovakia, Poland, France, Russia - a parade of Big Brotherly intervention by Germany on behalf of allegedly suppressed kinfolk. Lebensraum and Volkdeutsch were twin pillars of Nazi ideology.

                                                      And, of course, there is Yugoslavia, its charred remnants agonizingly writhing in a post Kosovo world. Serbia fought Croatia and Bosnia and Kosovo to protect besieged and hysterical local Serbs. Croats fought Serbs and Bosnians to defend dilapidated Croat settlements. Albanians fought the Serbs through the good services of Kosovars in order to protect Kosovars. And the fighting is still on. This dismembered organism, once a flourishing country, dazed and scorched, still attempts to blindly strike its former members, inebriated by its own blood. Such is the power of the MinMaj.

                                                      There are three ways out from the blind alley to which the MinMaj Rule inevitably and invariably leads its adherents. One exit is through ethnic cleansing, the other via self determination, the third is in establishing a community, a majority of minorities.

                                                      Ethnic cleansing is the safest route. It is final, irreversible, just, fast, easy to carry out and preventive as much as curative. It need not be strewn with mass graves and smouldering villages. It can be done peacefully, by consent or with the use of minimal force. It can be part of a unilateral transfer or of a bilateral exchange of population. There are many precedents - Germans in the Ukraine and in Czechoslovakia, Turks in Bulgaria, Jews in the Arab countries. None of them left willingly or voluntarily. All were the victims of pathological nostalgia, deep, disconsolate grieving and the post traumatic shock of being uprooted and objectified. But they emigrated, throngs of millions of people, planeloads, trainloads, cartloads and carloads of them and they reached their destinations alive and able to start all over again - which is more than can be said about thousands of Kosovar Albanians. Ethnic cleansing has many faces, brutality is not its integrated feature.

                                                      The Wilsonian ideal of self determination is rarely feasible or possible - though, when it is, it is far superior to any other resolution of intractable ethnic conflicts. It does tend to produce political and economic stillborns, though. Ultimately, these offspring of noble principle merge again with their erstwhile foes within customs unions, free trade agreements, currency unions. They are subsumed in other economic, political, or military alliances and gladly surrender part of that elusive golden braid, their sovereignty. Thus, becoming an independent political entity is, to most, a rite of passage, an adolescence, heralding the onset of political adulthood and geopolitical and economic maturity.

                                                      The USA and, to a lesser degree, the UK, France and Germany are fine examples of the third way. A majority of minorities united by common rules, beliefs and aspirations. Those are tension filled structures sustained by greed or vision or fear or hope and sometimes by the very tensions that they generate. No longer utopian, it is a realistic model to emulate.

                                                      It is only when ethnic cleansing is combined with self determination that a fracturing of the solutions occurs. Atrocities are the vile daughters of ideals. Armed with stereotypes - those narcissistic defence mechanisms which endow their propagators with a fleeting sense of superiority - an ethnic group defines itself negatively, in opposition to another. Self determination is employed to facilitate ethnic cleansing rather than to prevent it. Actually, it is the very act of ethnic cleansing which validates the common identity, which forms the myth and the ethos that is national history, which perpetrates itself by conferring resilience upon the newly determined and by offering a common cause and the means to feel efficient, functional and victorious in carrying it out.

                                                      There are many variants of this malignant, brutal, condemnable, criminal and inefficient form of ethnic cleansing. Bred by manic and hysterical nationalists, fed by demagogues, nourished by the hitherto deprived and humiliated - this cancerous mix of definition by negation wears many guises. It is often clad in legal attire. Israel has a Law of Return which makes an instant citizen out of every spouse of every Russian Jew while denying this privilege to Arabs born on its soil. South Africa had apartheid. Nazi Germany had the Nuremberg Laws. The Czech Republic had the infamous Benes Decrees. But ethnic cleansing can be economic (ask the Chinese in Asia and the Indians in Africa). It can be physical (Croatia, Kosovo). It has a myriad facets.

                                                      The West is to blame for this confusion. By offering all three solutions as mutually inclusive rather than mutually exclusive - it has been responsible for a lot of strife and misery. But, to its credit, it has learned its lesson. In Kosovo it defended the right of the indigent and (not so indigent but) resident Albanians to live in peace and plough their land in peace and bring forth children in peace and die in peace. But it has not protected their right to self determination. It has not mixed the signals. As a result the message came through loud and clear. And, for the first time in many years, people tuned in and listened. And this, by far, is the most important achievement of Operation Allied Force.

                                                      Minorities or Immigrants? The Kven and Sami Peoples of Norway

                                                      The phrase "minority rights" conjures abhorrent images of Palestinians tortured in Israeli prisons; Aegean Macedonians expelled from Greece or incarcerated on remote islands, there to perish; and Native-Americans confined to wasteland "reservations", having been decimated for decades. But, the sad truth is that minorities are welcome nowhere and that every single nation harbors embarrassing skeletons in its historical closet.

                                                      Consider Norway, by far the least plausible candidate for the role of perpetrators of genocide, physical or cultural. This remote Scandinavian polity has repeatedly won every conceivable prize for upholding and cherishing human rights. Yet, it, too, has a dark chapter that ended only recently.

                                                      During the 18th and 19th centuries, many Finns - destitute farmers and fishermen - emigrated from their homeland and from Sweden and settled in the inhospitable northern reaches of Norway. They joined the original inhabitants of that area, Finns known as Sami. The new arrivals came to be known as Kvener (in Norwegian), Kvenee (in their own Finnish dialect), or simply Kven, by everyone else.

                                                      Fully one quarter of the population in the north identified themselves as Kven in the census of 1875 - yet, it took their adopted country two centuries (and a parliamentary investigative committee) to recognize them a minority (in 1996) and to accept their right to use their language (in 2005) within the framework of the European Charter for Regional or Minority Languages.

                                                      Yet, this may have been too little, too late. In the intervening period, the word "Kven" was used as a pejorative by the Kvens' upstanding "ethnically pure" compatriots. Kven and Sami culture and languages were considered backward and inferior (with racist undertones). Across the border, in Sweden, Samis were compulsorily sterilized.

                                                      In Norway, the Kven and Sami were re-labeled "The Foreign Nations" (non-Nordic, of Mongol roots) and "The Original Immigrants" (a falsification of history, as the Norwegians were the immigrants, not the Sami).

                                                      The mandate of the "Finn Fund", established in the 19th century by the National Assembly, called on it to "civilize" the Kven and the Sami. Even after World War II, as Norway sought to "modernize" itself, Kven and Sami civilizations were cast as outdated and primitive.

                                                      Consequently, many Kvens now claim counterfactually to be Norwegians (or merely Norwegian Finns) and consider the Kven language to be a dialect of Finnish.

                                                      Inevitably, in a nationalistic backlash, some Kven now insist that they are the aborigines of northern Europe and that once, in the 11th century, they ran an empire that covered most of northern Scandinavia. Groups of opportunistic Swedish Finns support these theories in an attempt to leverage the ILO 169 Convention about the Rights of Indigenous People and apply it to Sweden's Kvens.

                                                      Be that as it may, the truth is that Norway had made it exceedingly difficult for Kvens (and other Finns, such as the Sami people) to obtain citizenship or maintain it and literally impossible to buy real estate - unless they agreed to change their names, give up their language and culture and, later, move away from sensitive border areas (they were considered pro-Russian, then pro-German and, therefore, a security risk). Additionally, lands in the public domain (in truth, owned by the Sami and Kven) were declared to be state property and confiscated without compensation.

                                                      This discriminatory policy was known as fornorskningspolitikken (Norwegianization).

                                                      Thus, for instance, well into the 1950s, it was forbidden to teach the Sami language in schools (with a few exceptions in the 1930s and 1940s). The very existence of the Sami nation (as a minority) was acknowledged only in 1989, after massive demonstrations in 1979 (ostensibly against the construction of an environmentally-disruptive dam, but actually to air Sami grievances).

                                                      Only in the 1990s were some of the wrongs righted: the Sami language was declared a "national treasure" (and a second official language in Norway), a Sami parliament was established, and lands appropriated by the state were returned to the Sami people.

                                                      The Kven are envious of the Samis' achievements. Well into the 1990s, they were still being labeled "immigrants" (and not a minority) by the Norwegian state.

                                                      In 1987, they established The Norwegian Kven Organization. Its aims are both political and cultural: the ultimate compilation of a government report about the Kven population; liaising with the Norwegian media; to push for the establishment of a State Secretary for Kven issues; to further the knowledge of the Kven language, from the kindergarten level onwards, using the proceeds of a Kven culture fund and income from museums and culture centers. The Kven also demand bilingual signage and place names.

                                                      Yet, only after Norway ratified, in 1999, the Council of Europe's Framework Convention for the Protection of National Minorities, did it reluctantly alter the Kvens' status and accept that they are a "national minority": a minority with a historical presence (longer than 100 years) in a given territory. Now, only Norway and Canada maintain a three-tiered hierarchy of "nations": indigenous, minority, and immigrants.

                                                      Even so, Norway is light years ahead of countries such as Israel and Greece who completely deny the existence of their minorities. Israel has insisted until quite recently that the Palestinian "nation" is an invention and the Greeks refuse to accept the existence of Macedonians on Greek soil.


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                                                      Love - Narcissism Revisited and After the Rain - How the West Lost the East.
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                                                      #5781 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
                                                      Date: Tue Jun 16, 2009 2:55 pm
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                                                      Narcissistic PD and abuse by narcissists - FAQs, essays, links, and book excerpts.

                                                      Transcript of the CHAT regarding abusive narcissists HERE:

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                                                      Transcript of the CHAT about the Narcissistic Personality Disorder HERE:

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                                                      Transcript of the CHAT about narcissists in the workplace HERE:

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                                                      Here's what's happening on the HealthyPlace site this week:

                                                      The Impact of Child Abuse

                                                      Most people don't talk about it; being an adult survivor of child abuse, that is. There are millions of adults walking around today who are victims of physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional and psychological abuse that started when they were young children.

                                                      Child abuse already is known to increase the risk of suicide. And a new Mayo Clinic study indicates that a history of child abuse not only can lead to depression, substance abuse and personality disorders, but child abuse makes most psychiatric illnesses worse,” according to Magdalena Romanowicz, M.D., lead author of the study.

                                                      We'll be exploring that more on tonight's HealthyPlace TV show.

                                                      "Life After Child Abuse" On HealthyPlace TV

                                                      For 21 years, Diane Champe was isolated by her parents and mentally, physically, emotionally and sexually abused. "I was so brutally traumatized that I was covered from the top of my head to the bottom of my feet with hives and the pupils in my eyes were usually dilated."  Diane is now 58 and has been through 23 years of therapy, 5 psychiatric hospitalizations, a divorce, a lawsuit against the company that fired her and after all that, she says "I'm a winner."  She'll be here to share her story about the impact child abuse had on her and how she came out on top.

                                                      This Tuesday night, June 16. The show starts at 5:30p PT, 7:30 CT, 8:30 ET and airs live on our website.

                                                      In the second half of the show, you get to ask Dr. Harry Croft, your personal mental health questions.

                                                      Also in June on HealthyPlace TV

                                                      • Your Child’s Mental Health: What Every Parent Should Know
                                                      • OCD! I Can't Stop

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                                                      "Being in an unhealthy relationship stinks," writes Suzi, a new visitor to the HealthyPlace.com website. In her email, she discusses her predicament of being stuck with all the household chores, always being put down, yet she says "I find it difficult to leave him."

                                                      Sometimes though, the difference between a healthy and unhealthy relationship isn't as clear cut as Suzi's situation.

                                                      Unhealthy relationships leave us feeling afraid, sad, or just plain uncomfortable about our situation.

                                                      So what can you do to when you're in an unhealthy or abusive relationship?

                                                      And how do you create healthy relationships?

                                                      We have a lot of great articles on relationships. You can also visit the HealthyPlace Relationships Community homepage for information on various relationship problems, tools for building relationships, relationship videos and more.

                                                      Living with a Mental Illness

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                                                      These stories and more are featured on our mental health news page:

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                                                      #5780 From: "Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" <vaksam@...>
                                                      Date: Tue Jun 16, 2009 2:42 pm
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