I'm sure I have the Orphan, but I still need to get working on it! I
spent a lot of time alone in my room, as my family was always
fighting and I needed to get as far away from that as possible. My
mother was depressed, on anti-depressants, so she was not there
emotionally. I never fit it, as I was artistic, always drawing and
loved singing and dancing. My family was made up of rational business-
people and so therefore my talents were not appreciated, but rather
looked upon as a burden to my parents. I am now in my mid-40s, spent
most of my adult life running away from these relationships which
hurt, but unfortunately I was not looking where I was going. Now
married to a wonderful man, but he is from a foreign country and I
live here with him and the kids. It is lonely for me, I miss America,
so this is really magnifying the Orphan in me. Ginny, I will check
out your link to Wayne Dyer. Thank you.

--- In mysslist@yahoogroups.com, "Kristy Swift" <klswift@...> wrote:
>
> Hi all,
>
> I was wondering if I could ask anyone who has an Orphan archetype
and who
> has made their peace with it to share how they managed to 'grow up'
and if
> anything positive can come of the Orphan archetype, or if I am
being too
> 'Pollyanna' and looking at it in too simplistic a way. I have a
strong
> Orphan, and have recognised the shadow side of it in me too, which
is to
> become clingy, put people on pedestals or seek to be adopted by
surrogate
> parent figures. It's painful and lonely not to have a close,
trusting
> relationship with any older, parental individual, but I am
determined to
> work through this. I would really appreciate your insights.
>
> xx
> Kristy.
>
>
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