Hi, all;

I've had an interesting time with my Orphan Child. Over the past few years it
has really made itself known because the OC believes that, because it is alone,
it has to be responsible for everything. And so often that belief is projected
and then laid before you over and over again. The shadow side can also be that
we are too grown up and in charge and don't let others take the lead or help.
My greatest lesson has been to ask for help -- which is difficult for the orphan
child to do. I often preface my prayers/meditations/affirmations as requests
for the right person/situation to come along to help me in whatever I'm doing.

Another thing I've learned is that, as adults, we have to give our child
whatever we feel like we didn't get as a child -- security, comfort,
encouragement, self-praise, personal acknowledgement, self-love, whatever. When
our journey is perceived as alone and lonely, become your own best friend. I
now find that, when friends are not around, I actually like my own company.
Also, having and raising my daughter taught me how to become a parent to myself.

Pat

Kristy Swift <klswift@...> wrote:
Hi all,

I was wondering if I could ask anyone who has an Orphan archetype and who
has made their peace with it to share how they managed to 'grow up' and if
anything positive can come of the Orphan archetype, or if I am being too
'Pollyanna' and looking at it in too simplistic a way. I have a strong
Orphan, and have recognised the shadow side of it in me too, which is to
become clingy, put people on pedestals or seek to be adopted by surrogate
parent figures. It's painful and lonely not to have a close, trusting
relationship with any older, parental individual, but I am determined to
work through this. I would really appreciate your insights.

xx
Kristy.

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