Hi Everyone :)

just sharing a feeling a revelation of sorts that hit me at work
last night.  yesterday morning when D was getting ready for work he
made a comment to me, i cant even remember what it was but it was
like telling me i better do something..

so, being the smart ass i am,  i naturally replied "sez who?"

well D stopped looked at me kinda funny and said "i don't know who
said that, it wasn't me but i don't know who it was"

we kinda joked about it and that was that

until it hit me at work,  D was aware that he didnt say something
but someone did,   and i don't know why but it made really sad to
realize that......

i don't understand my reaction at all, i have spent years waiting
for him to know what i know,  Lord knows i dont ever want him to
know everything thats been said or done in the past,  but i am glad
that he is just accepting everything and ready to learn to deal with
it all.....

anyway just wanted to share that....

thanx
beth

Hi all.

Beth is very correct.  It can be a very hard road.  I have known my SO for
almost 3 years.  She was diagnosed with DID almost 4 years ago but knew about
her other "residents" long before that.  Her protector has been there since she
was around 12 I believe.  I knew about them very early on in our friendship. 
Since then I have become very good friends with many of them.  At last count
there were over 40 residents in her head.  I've not met all of them, but most of
them.  My best advice is patience, patience, patience.  It is a long, hard road,
but the rewards I have found are priceless.  Coming this October 12th will be my
SO and my first year anniversary.

Hope this helps,
   Josh



angel <twistedangel64@...> wrote:
Hi Jack,

unfortunately i cant give you much help but i am eagerly waiting to
hear some replies to your questions.

i have been with my husband for more than 6 years now, have known
for 5 that he (or his body???) is multiple......  i suspected
before, especially after finding out the army diagnosed him
with "mpd tendencies"   tendencies my but...... sheesh

but he, my husband,  has been in denial for a long time,  he chose
to think of himself as a "freak" or a "monster" instead of believing
he was multiple..

there hasnt been any therapy for either of us and right now i am
dead set against it but leave it open for the future....

i too feel we came together for a reason,  D is my soulmate and i
love him just the way he is but sometimes its a rough road we travel
its been especially hard for me when he didnt "remember" a
conversation (especially when he was being a jerk or worse) but the
more i have read and learned and become comfortable with i believe
that each are individuals not parts of a whole and right now i feel
attempting to integrate would do more harm than good

i love my man the way he is and accept all of them,  so far i "know"
3 others for sure and have had glimpses of more,  get along great
with the one little,  have an uneasy truce with the "protector" and
the 3rd just seems to be a narrator of sorts...

i have found no evidence of trauma or abuse to indicate this caused
the multiples but rather all of them tell me they just have always
been........ there is nothing that scares any of them except the
fear of being left by the little and spiders terrify D himself, and
the only trigger for the protector so far seems to be arguing with D
or a tremendous stress on him in some way,

but like i said its still really all new because until D was ready
to accept and deal with being multiple i felt there wasnt much i
could do without causing more harm than good......

anway,  i think its awesome that you want to stand strong with the
woman you fell in love with and i offer friendship and support in
anyway i can......


best wishes
beth





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Hi Jack,

unfortunately i cant give you much help but i am eagerly waiting to
hear some replies to your questions.

i have been with my husband for more than 6 years now, have known
for 5 that he (or his body???) is multiple......  i suspected
before, especially after finding out the army diagnosed him
with "mpd tendencies"   tendencies my but...... sheesh

but he, my husband,  has been in denial for a long time,  he chose
to think of himself as a "freak" or a "monster" instead of believing
he was multiple..

there hasnt been any therapy for either of us and right now i am
dead set against it but leave it open for the future....

i too feel we came together for a reason,  D is my soulmate and i
love him just the way he is but sometimes its a rough road we travel
its been especially hard for me when he didnt "remember" a
conversation (especially when he was being a jerk or worse) but the
more i have read and learned and become comfortable with i believe
that each are individuals not parts of a whole and right now i feel
attempting to integrate would do more harm than good

i love my man the way he is and accept all of them,  so far i "know"
3 others for sure and have had glimpses of more,  get along great
with the one little,  have an uneasy truce with the "protector" and
the 3rd just seems to be a narrator of sorts...

i have found no evidence of trauma or abuse to indicate this caused
the multiples but rather all of them tell me they just have always
been........ there is nothing that scares any of them except the
fear of being left by the little and spiders terrify D himself, and
the only trigger for the protector so far seems to be arguing with D
or a tremendous stress on him in some way,

  but like i said its still really all new because until D was ready
to accept and deal with being multiple i felt there wasnt much i
could do without causing more harm than good......

anway,  i think its awesome that you want to stand strong with the
woman you fell in love with and i offer friendship and support in
anyway i can......


best wishes
beth

I am new to this but I need some insights.

I recently met a woman who I have fallen in love with.  She has
admited to me that she has been diagnosed with DID.  She has said
that she is in control and have been though therapy for several
years.  She has also admited that she has had relapses in the past,
the most recent being last July.

I have always believed that patience and love will prevail and heal
almost any wounds.  I am not asking for directions, I just need to
know if a relationship is possible with someone with DID.  Are there
things I should know to do or not to do?  How should I treat her?
What approach do I take?  Should I ask her more details about her
alters?  Should Iadress the alters in any way?

Any help or insights would be gratefully read and used for learning.
I feel that I met this woman for a reason.  I think that it is not so
much that I can help her, but I think that we can help each other in
learning more about ourselves.

Jack

Just a plug for a new support group that I found.

copingwithDID@yahoogroups.com

> Does anyone have experience with this?

Wow. I'm an SO, and my wife, as have 95% of people with DID, suffered
childhood sexual abuse. We have experienced some alters acting against
the interest of the system, but not to the extent to which you have
experienced. I'm not an expert. I'm more or less working at this alone,
and learning how to live with DID rather than "treat" it.

Is your therapist experienced with DID?

-Wayne

I'm afraid to kiss my girlfriend, who has DID, or even make any
sudden movements around her.  She was sexually abused as a child, and
I'm afraid any intimacy on my part will trigger or possibly
retraumatize her.  I'm not afraid of <i>her</i> hurting <i>me</i>;
rather, I'm afraid of her hurting herself.  I've witnessed an alter
chop off her lovely black hair, and I've seen the cuts on her wrists,
the word "DIRT" carved on her beautiful white legs.  I love her so
much, and want to do something, but don't know what.  Does anybody
have any advice for me?

Hi, I have been looking to people to talk to - and found your
board....my partner lives with mpd, and I am trying to get my
feelings in order to keep feelings separate.  Although I have been
dealing with it for quite a while...one of the personalities...named
Jeff...has just come to terms with his feelings for me...and I feel
guilty..for having separate relations with him.  I have talked to my
partner about it, and she is comfortable with sharing me...but I am
not.  Jeff has a history of violence and anger...and in a way I am
afraid to cut ties because of this...but in another way I feel
curious about him, and want to get to know more about his feelings
and thought process.  I am feeling very frustrated with myself...my
partner knows she should probably talk to someone about it...but she
does not want to be put on medication (she has had history with that
and hospitalization as a teenager). Is there anyone else who has felt
the way I have...if so, how have you deal with it?

I talked in a chatroom earlier, and they told me I should not
encourage it...but I dont know how to cut ties off with Jeff...he is
still a part of her.  I don't want to push any part of her away.

I am sorry for the long letter.  Would love to get feedback from
others. Thanks.

**** BEWARE - THIS COULD BE TOO INTENSE FOR SOME ****


I apologize in advance to anyone with an alter family inside who
accidentally reads this. Please be aware that I will be asking a
question that could be traumatic for some to read.

My spouse is once again hospitalized to keep her safe as she is
feeling extremely suicidal. An ongoing challenge has been dealing
with one of her alters, a male one, that is tormeting the others. He
is an imprint of one of the primary abusers and has been threatening
my spouse's therapist with bodily harm to him and his family.
Furthermore, he has "killed" some of the other alters as a way to get
back at the therapist.

I don't know what the implications are of one alter killing another.
When I think of it as a "single", it would seem that my wife
struggling with some of the worst parts of her long-term abuse and
coming to grips with the huge pain that is being unearthed in her
recovery process. Perhaps she is so horrified at the realization that
she is fighting with herself to avoid it.

Does anyone have experience with this?

Hello,

We understand that this support group is your sanctuary from
everyday
life, and we want to be sensitive to that. We are not trying to harm
you in any way or disrupt your community. We are just asking for a
little of your time so we can help the counseling profession
understand more about chat rooms and message/bulletin boards.

We are graduate researchers who are trying to study the satisfaction
of individuals who use chat rooms or message/bulletin boards. We are
in need of participants and would be very greatful for your
participation. We are willing to send an electronic copy of our
results upon request.

If you have visited a chat room or message/bulletin board, and would
be willing to complete a 10-15 minute survey please visit this web
site: http://www.coe.ufl.edu/Counselor/Survey03/ This research has
been approved by the University of Florida Institutional Review
Board. You will need to enter in the password GRADY, it is case
sensitive so it must be all CAPS.

Thank you for your time and attention,

UF researchers

It's not VERY active.... but there are still a few of us around. I'm SO
to my wife with DID.

Here's some links you might find useful, and more active:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sosupport
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mpdspouses
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/livingmultiple
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/abusesurvivorswithmpdordid

They are all active and helpful groups. Good luck!

-Wayne


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I am multiple, my partner would like support or even a sense of not being
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Thanks,
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Hello,

We are graduate researchers who are trying to study if relationships
can be made between a patient and a therapist via the internet.  We
are in need of participants and would be very greatful for your
participation.  We are willing to send an electronic copy of our
results upon request.

If you participated as a client/patient in on line counseling from a
mental health professional, and would be willing to complete a 10-15
minute survey please visit this web site:
http://www.coe.ufl.edu/Counselor/Survey/  This research has been
approved by the University of Florida Institutional Review Board.
You will need to enter in the password GRADY, it is case sensitive so
it must be all CAPS.

Thank you for your time and attention,

UF researchers

Sufia, if you want to see a list of ALL of the yahoo groups concerning
DID/MPD, here it is:

http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/dir/Health___Wellness/Support/Diseases_and_Condition\
s/Mental_Health_Disorders/Dissociative_Identity_Disorder?show_groups=1


1 sosupport <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/sosupport>
This "So List" or Significant Other list is maintained as a resource for
the support of those persons who are in an interpersonal relationship
with someone who has been diagnosed as DID ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/sosupport>
Members: 298 | Archives: Members only
2 Amongst_Ourselves <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Amongst_Ourselves>
Amongst Ourselves is a mailing list for persons with Dissociative
Identity Disorder, formerly known as Multiple Personality Disorder. This
list is only for people who actually have DID ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Amongst_Ourselves>
Members: 204 | Archives: Members only
3 DitchThatClutter <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DitchThatClutter>
Welcome to a great group! Our group offers you a small daily task idea
to help you get your home organized. If you do the daily task and
maintain from the days before, it won't be long ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DitchThatClutter>
Members: 162 | Archives: Members only
4 DID_MPD <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DID_MPD>
This list is for the discussion of DID/MPD and dissociation for the
purposes of support and the sharing of infomation, healing and coping
strategies.
Members: 143 | Archives: Members only
5 DID <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DID>
This is a safe list for those diagnosed with DID, or Dissociative
Identity Disorder (FKA Multiple Personality Disorder), other dx's along
the dissociative continuum, and those who ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DID>
Members: 125 | Archives: No Archive
6 abusesurvivorswithmpdordid
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/abusesurvivorswithmpdordid>
There is a slight change to this group's description. We did not realize
that the fact that this page has the notation "unmoderated" that this
would lead to a miscommunication. New ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/abusesurvivorswithmpdordid>
Members: 117 | Archives: Members only
7 DissociativeDisorder
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DissociativeDisorder>
This support group is being offered to those people who have been
diagnosed with any of the dissociative disorders such as DID,
dissociative amnesia, dissociative fugue, etc. ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DissociativeDisorder>
Members: 111 | Archives: Moderators only
8 shatteredmirrors <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/shatteredmirrors>
This a place for those w/ DID.This is the first club of three. This club
is for hosts and adult alters..Shattered Little Mirrors is for pre-teen
& pre- teen alters.Shattered Tiny Little ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/shatteredmirrors>
Members: 99 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/shatteredmirrors/messages>
9 mpdspouses <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/mpdspouses>
Since my wife was diagnosed with MPD in April, 1997, I have learned a
lot about it. I have met a lot of multiples but not too many spouses. I
would like to talk with other people in my ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/mpdspouses>
Members: 93 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/mpdspouses/messages>
10 MPD-littles-middles
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/MPD-littles-middles>
This is a safe place where inner children(Littles and Middles) of
persons with MPD/DID can write,make friends and discuss things bothering
them.No one over 12 is allowed!!!However older ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/MPD-littles-middles>
Members: 92 | Archives: Members only

11 otherkind-hosts <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/otherkind-hosts>
Disscussions between and about people who have more than one mind per
body, of which one or more is not entirely human. Whilst the list is
open to multiples of all varieties, be aware ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/otherkind-hosts>
Members: 78 | Archives: Members only
12 Amongst_Others <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Amongst_Others>
Amongst Others is a mailing list for significant others, family, and
friends of persons with Dissociative Identity Disorder, formerly known
as Multiple Personality Disorder, or another ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Amongst_Others>
Members: 74 | Archives: Members only
13 middleoftheroad <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/middleoftheroad>
This is a list for those people who identify as mid continuum, part way
between multiple personality (mpd did, multiple personality
disorder/dissociative identity disorder) and ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/middleoftheroad>
Members: 74 | Archives: Members only
14 MPD-DID <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/MPD-DID>
Anyone thats been diagnosised MPD/DID a place to share thoughts feelings.
Members: 73 | Archives: Members only
15 WeRMany <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/WeRMany>
Email support for members of WeRMany and other people coping with
MPD/DID and their supporters. Topics include general peer support and
sensitive topics preceeded by trigger warnings so ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/WeRMany>
Members: 72 | Archives: Members only
16 ED_and_DID <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/ED_and_DID>
This list is for people with Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly
Multiple Personality Disorder), and an Eating Disorder such as bulimia,
anorexia, or compulsive overeating. ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/ED_and_DID>
Members: 54 | Archives: Members only
17 dissociation <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/dissociation>
Welcome to the Dissociation Support Group! This mailing list is for
people with dissociative disorders who want to discuss current or past
problems/issues and receive feedback and ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/dissociation>
Members: 48 | Archives: Members only
18 Breaking-Free <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Breaking-Free>
Breaking Free is a DID and SRA survivor's list dedicated to those who
have been abused ritually by any group or organization. While many lists
I have belonged to make me feel very ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Breaking-Free>
Members: 44 | Archives: Members only
19 shatteredtinylittlemirrors
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/shatteredtinylittlemirrors>
THIS CLUB IS FOR DID/MPD LITTLE ALTERS, THERE WILL BE NO ONE CAUSING ANY
PAIN TO OUR LITTLES, THOSE MEMBERS WILL BE DELETED, THERE WILL A GROUP
TO HELP MONITOR THIS CLUB.THIS PLACE WILL ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/shatteredtinylittlemirrors>
Members: 43 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/shatteredtinylittlemirrors/messages>
20 ChristianHelpers-Dissociation
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/ChristianHelpers-Dissociation>
This purpose of this list is to connect clergy, mental health
professionals and lay people who help people with dissociative
disorders.  The audience of this list is any Christian ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/ChristianHelpers-Dissociation>
Members: 31 | Archives: Members only

11 otherkind-hosts <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/otherkind-hosts>
Disscussions between and about people who have more than one mind per
body, of which one or more is not entirely human. Whilst the list is
open to multiples of all varieties, be aware ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/otherkind-hosts>
Members: 78 | Archives: Members only
12 Amongst_Others <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Amongst_Others>
Amongst Others is a mailing list for significant others, family, and
friends of persons with Dissociative Identity Disorder, formerly known
as Multiple Personality Disorder, or another ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Amongst_Others>
Members: 74 | Archives: Members only
13 middleoftheroad <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/middleoftheroad>
This is a list for those people who identify as mid continuum, part way
between multiple personality (mpd did, multiple personality
disorder/dissociative identity disorder) and ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/middleoftheroad>
Members: 74 | Archives: Members only
14 MPD-DID <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/MPD-DID>
Anyone thats been diagnosised MPD/DID a place to share thoughts feelings.
Members: 73 | Archives: Members only
15 WeRMany <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/WeRMany>
Email support for members of WeRMany and other people coping with
MPD/DID and their supporters. Topics include general peer support and
sensitive topics preceeded by trigger warnings so ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/WeRMany>
Members: 72 | Archives: Members only
16 ED_and_DID <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/ED_and_DID>
This list is for people with Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly
Multiple Personality Disorder), and an Eating Disorder such as bulimia,
anorexia, or compulsive overeating. ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/ED_and_DID>
Members: 54 | Archives: Members only
17 dissociation <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/dissociation>
Welcome to the Dissociation Support Group! This mailing list is for
people with dissociative disorders who want to discuss current or past
problems/issues and receive feedback and ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/dissociation>
Members: 48 | Archives: Members only
18 Breaking-Free <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Breaking-Free>
Breaking Free is a DID and SRA survivor's list dedicated to those who
have been abused ritually by any group or organization. While many lists
I have belonged to make me feel very ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Breaking-Free>
Members: 44 | Archives: Members only
19 shatteredtinylittlemirrors
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/shatteredtinylittlemirrors>
THIS CLUB IS FOR DID/MPD LITTLE ALTERS, THERE WILL BE NO ONE CAUSING ANY
PAIN TO OUR LITTLES, THOSE MEMBERS WILL BE DELETED, THERE WILL A GROUP
TO HELP MONITOR THIS CLUB.THIS PLACE WILL ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/shatteredtinylittlemirrors>
Members: 43 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/shatteredtinylittlemirrors/messages>
20 ChristianHelpers-Dissociation
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/ChristianHelpers-Dissociation>
This purpose of this list is to connect clergy, mental health
professionals and lay people who help people with dissociative
disorders.  The audience of this list is any Christian ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/ChristianHelpers-Dissociation>
Members: 31 | Archives: Members only

21 VASES-Inners-safety
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/VASES-Inners-safety>
This is a place for inner family members (16 and younger of gender,
older members of VASESUk ritual abuse may reply and write to members
here also. A place where they can be free to ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/VASES-Inners-safety>
Members: 31 | Archives: Moderators only
22 EmpoweredMultiples
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/EmpoweredMultiples>
This list is for Dissociative persons(and friends of) who do not want to
play games about their healing and are looking and willing to deal with
their's and other's journey in a mature ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/EmpoweredMultiples>
Members: 30 | Archives: Members only
23 DIDMPD <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DIDMPD>
Welcome to the DID/MPD SUPPORT mailing list! ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DIDMPD>
Members: 29 | Archives: Members only
24 LMBM <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/LMBM>
List serv support group for inside teens (ages 13-19) of people with
DID. (Dissociative Identity Defense.)
Members: 29 | Archives: Members only
25 multipleLives <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/multipleLives>
This support group is for people with Dissociative Identity Disorder
(DID) formerly known as Multiple Personality Disorder.. DID is brought
... more <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/multipleLives>
Members: 28 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/multipleLives/messages>
26 MPDteens <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/MPDteens>
This is a list for teen alters within the host to meet and socialize
with each other thur group mailings.All are welcome here who have
MPD/DID and are 12-18.
Members: 26 | Archives: Members only
27 Inside_Dudes <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Inside_Dudes>
This is a club for REAL fellas that live in systems that are Multiple
(MPD or DID) (even tho I hate those words). It is mainly for younger
guys but grownup fellas are welcome too. And ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Inside_Dudes>
Members: 26 | Archives: Members only
28 multirainbows <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/multirainbows>
This list is for women who are open minded and dealing with multiplicity
(whether they are multiples themselves or friends/loved ones of
multiples) and lesbian, gay, bi or transgendered ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/multirainbows>
Members: 25 | Archives: Members only
29 aplaceofsafety <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/aplaceofsafety>
The goal of this group is to be a safe group for all survivors of abuse
and childhood trauma as well as people dealing with depression,
self-injury and other issues. Supporters are ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/aplaceofsafety>
Members: 23 | Archives: Members only
30 lichtstrahlen <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/lichtstrahlen>
Lichtstrahlen - die interaktive Mailingliste der Zeitung "Lichtstrahlen"
Auf dieser Mailingliste legen wir Wert darauf, dass alles gesagt werden
kann, was oftmals als "zu schwarz" ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/lichtstrahlen>
Members: 21 | Archives: Members only

31 derealisatie <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/derealisatie>
Alles over derealisatie/ dissociatieve stoornissen en andere psychische
stoornissen, interessante artikelen & publicaties, links, chat en een
forum Everything about derealisation/ ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/derealisatie>
Members: 20 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/derealisatie/messages>
32 DissociativeIdentityDisorder
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DissociativeIdentityDisorder>
Welcome to Dissociative Identity Dissorder message board. This is a
message board that all you alters are welcome and encouraged to come to
and talk about any issue that they have (you ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DissociativeIdentityDisorder>
Members: 20 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DissociativeIdentityDisorder/messages>
33 Multiple4Jesus <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Multiple4Jesus>
This is a place for those diagnosed with D.I.D./M.P.D. who are
Christians and who will support and encourage others with the same.
Those with SRA backgrounds are more than welcome...
Members: 20 | Archives: Members only
34 MultipleWe <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/MultipleWe>
Asterisks in subject lines are the only spoilers used in this open
forum, high-volume multiple list. List activity also takes place in
other locations online. ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/MultipleWe>
Members: 19 | Archives: Members only
35 weeoneswayswithimagination
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/weeoneswayswithimagination>
For Littles age 0-14. We want this to be a safe place to share pictures,
poems, and stories. Please provide a short description in your profile.
Members with blank profiles or offensive ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/weeoneswayswithimagination>
Members: 19 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/weeoneswayswithimagination/messages>
36 multiplesforchrist
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/multiplesforchrist>
Hi, I am pieceofapuzzle aka The Butterfly Gang. My online name is
Esther. I wish to welcome you in the Name of Jesus. Come on in and join
our group. Here we can talk, laugh and cry. We ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/multiplesforchrist>
Members: 18 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/multiplesforchrist/messages>
37 shatteredlittlemirrors
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/shatteredlittlemirrors>
This is a teen DID club.........All are welcome here.................
Members: 18 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/shatteredlittlemirrors/messages>
38 dissociationlittles
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/dissociationlittles>
This is a safe place for the Littles of DID/MPD's. Be free here, and
make some friends!
Members: 17 | Archives: Members only
39 creativesideofdid <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/creativesideofdid>
I created this club to allow a place for the creative side of our DID.
People with DID are very creative and intelligent people and I feel that
we need a place to share our creative ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/creativesideofdid>
Members: 17 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/creativesideofdid/messages>
40 MPD_Healing_Corner
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/MPD_Healing_Corner>
This is a support group for those who coping with the daily issues and
stress that being DID/MPD cause.(Dissociative Identity Disorder formerly
known as Multiple Personality Disorder) ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/MPD_Healing_Corner>
Members: 17 | Archives: Members only

41 mor2_love <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/mor2_love>
This group is for anyone that deals with MPD/DID. It is support for
SO's, Friend's and Family of multiples. As well as survivors. I feel
that the need to vent anger and frustration is ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/mor2_love>
Members: 17 | Archives: Members only
42 prayerinhealing <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/prayerinhealing>
Have you been physically, emotionally wounded and are struggling with
DID, eating disorders, depression or just hurting? Those who support and
care are welcome too. Come and pray to our ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/prayerinhealing>
Members: 17 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/prayerinhealing/messages>
43 intrepidhearts <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/intrepidhearts>
Feel free to express yourselves in a safe environment. All emotions are
allowed and accepted here. Anger is also an acceptable and valid
emotion. Please use 'I' words and messages when ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/intrepidhearts>
Members: 16 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/intrepidhearts/messages>
44 rainbowmousehouse <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/rainbowmousehouse>
Are You MPD/DID and desire to be understood and have support? Do you
wish there were others who you could talk to and ask questions without
the fear of being shunned or looked down ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/rainbowmousehouse>
Members: 16 | Archives: Members only
45 Mpd-Seattle <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Mpd-Seattle>
Description Category: Dissociative Identity Disorder This group is
intended to bring together those who have MPD/DID and their significant
others, who live in or around Seattle. This is ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Mpd-Seattle>
Members: 16 | Archives: Members only
46 TeenScene-DID-MPD <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/TeenScene-DID-MPD>
This is a group for DID/MPD teen-insiders (middles and older littles are
welcome too), especially those who are having a hard time fitting into
any other group. We have some difficult ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/TeenScene-DID-MPD>
Members: 15 | Archives: Members only
47 tasdd <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/tasdd>
This email list is intended for people with D.I.D. to gain and provide
support to one another. While professionals are encourged to join, no
soliciting of clients will be tolerated and ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/tasdd>
Members: 15 | Archives: Members only
48 gifb <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/gifb>
A mailing list for MPD/DID. The issuse of males in a female body. There
are other males inside that have the same difficulties. But are on
different list. This will help to bring them ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/gifb>
Members: 15 | Archives: Members only
49 10_DID_MPD_PTSD_AltersSafeplace
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/10_DID_MPD_PTSD_AltersSafeplace>
This is your place where your Alters can speak &; express feelings of
Mad, Sad, Glad &; feel safe. WARNING POSTS MAY BE TRIGGERING As you
learn to ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/10_DID_MPD_PTSD_AltersSafeplace>
Members: 14 | Archives: Members only
50 weeonesshare <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/weeonesshare>
For Littles age 0-14. We want this to be a safe place to share feelings
and offer support. Please provide a short description in your profile.
Members with blank profiles or offensive ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/weeonesshare>
Members: 14 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/weeonesshare/messages>

51 teddybears_and_tigertails
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/teddybears_and_tigertails>
We are just little girl and boy alters, stuck in big bodies, come join
us for stories, or whatever you want to do!! Know any one that wants to
come help us, be a Mom or dad? Well send ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/teddybears_and_tigertails>
Members: 13 | Archives: Members only
52 dissociative-eds <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/dissociative-eds>
This is a e-mail list for anyone with dissociation (multiple personality
disorder (mpd), Dissociative identity disorder (DID), Dissociative
disorder not otherwise specified (DDNOS), Mid ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/dissociative-eds>
Members: 12 | Archives: Members only
53 DIDSurveyPetition <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DIDSurveyPetition>
This group is for anyone with an interest in Mulitple Personality
Disorder/Dissociative Identity Disorder to discuss the planned petition
and what issues need to be addressed to further ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DIDSurveyPetition>
Members: 12 | Archives: Members only
54 did_ritualabuse_support
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/did_ritualabuse_support>
I want to start this group for people with DID/MPD who are also
survivors of ritual abuse. I think that with an understanding ear and
support from others, healing from this can go a bit ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/did_ritualabuse_support>
Members: 12 | Archives: Members only
55 ParentsOfDissociativeChildren
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/ParentsOfDissociativeChildren>
Unfortunately, as parents we can't always keep our children as safe as
we would like to have done. This group is for help dealing with the
guilt, anger, shame, and other feelings ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/ParentsOfDissociativeChildren>
Members: 11 | Archives: Members only
56 Withinthecrowd <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Withinthecrowd>
This group is only for people with dissociative identity disorder,(DID)
formally MPD. We will offer support and help with the everyday living
and challenge of this disorder, especially ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Withinthecrowd>
Members: 11 | Archives: Members only
57 DID-Angels <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DID-Angels>
This Support Group is for everyone that has DID or MPD. Any member is
allowed to post to this group. We welcome everyone. We request that
spoilers be used for issues of abuse or ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DID-Angels>
Members: 10 | Archives: Members only
58 DIDMPDFRIENDS <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DIDMPDFRIENDS>
Dear Friends, This group is for those who have been diagnosed with DID
who want to join with others who have DID to become friends. We are here
for support, encouragement, ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DIDMPDFRIENDS>
Members: 10 | Archives: Members only
59 HisFlock-Supporters
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/HisFlock-Supporters>
This list is for those who come along side survivors to support them.
Although there may be survivors on this list this is not a list for
survivors to get support for themselves. If a ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/HisFlock-Supporters>
Members: 10 | Archives: Members only
60 HisFlock-Survivor-Support
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/HisFlock-Survivor-Support>
HisFlock is a chat room with a mailing list and message board. HisFlock
provides Christian Support for survivors of childhood abuse who may or
may not use Dissociatiave Identity Defence ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/HisFlock-Survivor-Support>
Members: 10 | Archives: Members only

61 tasddoutercircle <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/tasddoutercircle>
The aim of this list is to provide a safe and comfortable place for
those whose lives are touched by someone with Dissociative Identity
Disorder. This list is the companion list of ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/tasddoutercircle>
Members: 9 | Archives: Members only
62 SplitHope <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/SplitHope>
A support group for people with, personality disorders including
MPD/DID, and any type of depression. People with any type of mental
illness are also welcomed here. Find friendship and ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/SplitHope>
Members: 9 | Archives: Members only
63 DIDmommy <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DIDmommy>
This list is for mothers who have DID or DDNOS or other dissociative
disorder, who have small children. The subjects discussed on this list
are not limited to being moms, but that is ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DIDmommy>
Members: 8 | Archives: Members only
64 loving_hugs_sharing_hearts
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/loving_hugs_sharing_hearts>
Welcome to Sharing Hearts and Loving hugs. Have you been Diagnosed with
MPD or DID? Need a place to talk? Or share? do youre alters need a place
to Talk To others? Well You found the ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/loving_hugs_sharing_hearts>
Members: 8 | Archives: Moderators only
65 OurBambinosHaven <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/OurBambinosHaven>
This group is for `Children Of The Mind'aged 2-12yrs. To the uninitiated
this means that this group is strictly for children of people with
disacosiative identity disorder (formerly ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/OurBambinosHaven>
Members: 8 | Archives: Members only
66 pretty_kitty1966 <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/pretty_kitty1966>
Welcome Everyone.It is a pleasure to have you visit us. Anyone who has
MPD-DID &/or any Mental Illness needs someone to listen to them.Keeping
things bottled up inside is a horrible ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/pretty_kitty1966>
Members: 8 | Archives: Members only
67 DID_MPD-PENPALS <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DID_MPD-PENPALS>
THIS GROUP IS FOR POSTING REQUESTS FOR (EPALS) PEN PALS FOR PERSONS WHO
ARE DID/MPD LET MY CHILD TALK TO YOURS, SHARE INFORMATION, TALK TO
OTHERS WHO DON'T CARE WHAT NAME YOU USE VS THE ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DID_MPD-PENPALS>
Members: 7 | Archives: Members only
68 MPD_Partners <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/MPD_Partners>
This is a support group for women who are MPD (DID) and thier partners.
Both partners do not have to join if one doesn't want too. If you are
having difficulty being in a relationship ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/MPD_Partners>
Members: 7 | Archives: Members only
69 06_Me_N_My_Shadow <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/06_Me_N_My_Shadow>
As you learn to understand & respect the ways in which your mind has
worked, not only to keep you alive, but to preserve & enhance your
strengths & capabilities, you can offer to ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/06_Me_N_My_Shadow>
Members: 6 | Archives: Members only
70 inside_guys <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/inside_guys>
This group is for guys ages 12-20 inside a MPD system. Primarially for
us poor guys stuck in a female body, so we can support one another in
trying to be male despite ourselves. And ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/inside_guys>
Members: 6 | Archives: Members only

71 Multiple_Middles <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Multiple_Middles>
Are you a Middle Alter? Are you always feeling left out because you are
not a little or a teen? Do you want to be able to talk to other Middles?
Then you have come to the right place. ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Multiple_Middles>
Members: 6 | Archives: Members only
72 Wiccan_Multiples <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Wiccan_Multiples>
This is a support group for people who are multiple (MPD or DID) and who
are also wiccan.
Members: 5 | Archives: Members only
73 friendsofnorkee <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/friendsofnorkee>
This group is for friends and support system of Nora Gibson-Krieg. I am
a cancer survivor and have dealt with DID on a personal level. We do not
have to talk about the depressing stuff. ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/friendsofnorkee>
Members: 5 | Archives: Members only
74 altersasindividuals
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/altersasindividuals>
I have opinions, ideas, thoughs and emotions. I am not part of a person,
I am a person. I want to be recognized for who I am, furthermore, I want
to understand who I am, where I came ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/altersasindividuals>
Members: 5 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/altersasindividuals/messages>
75 Saving_Ourselves <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Saving_Ourselves>
I suffer from dissociative identity disorder. I may have alters but I
still feel lonely. I would love to share this crazy world we have to
live in with others like me. Chrissy and Co.
Members: 5 | Archives: Members only
76 DIDFORTHEYOUNG <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DIDFORTHEYOUNG>
This is a place of safety for the young parts to get together and share
and have a place to talk. Hoping they can meet and get to know one
another. An outlet to express their feelings ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DIDFORTHEYOUNG>
Members: 5 | Archives: Members only
77 MultiplesUnited <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/MultiplesUnited>
For individuals who have Dissociative Idenity Disorder and want to give
and receive support.
< 5 | Archives: Members only
78 SOsanctuary_DIDsupport
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/SOsanctuary_DIDsupport>
A safe sanctuary for the significant others, spouses, family and friends
of anyone diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder aka multiple
personality disorder (DID/MPD) to discuss ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/SOsanctuary_DIDsupport>
< 5 | Archives: Members only
79 our_sanctuary <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/our_sanctuary>
Sanctuary is a list specifically designed for Multiples who are advanced
in their healing process, and are comfortable with themselves, and their
way of life (for the most part). Those ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/our_sanctuary>
< 5 | Archives: Members only
80 hopeofgloryhaven <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/hopeofgloryhaven>
A place to be able to connect with other Christians struggling to know
the Lord Jesus Christ in the midst of struggling with issues involving
DID/SRA. In Christ alone is our hope of ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/hopeofgloryhaven>
< 5 | Archives: Members only

81 messianincone <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/messianincone>
help and advise for multiples and dealimg with alters
< 5 | Archives: Members only
82 day_by_day_depersonalization
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/day_by_day_depersonalization>
Its like I fall deep within myself. I look at my mind from within and
feel both trapped and puzzled about the strangeness of my existence. My
thoughts swirl round and round constantly ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/day_by_day_depersonalization>
< 5 | Archives: Members only
83 DIDbham <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DIDbham>
This is a special email list for people who have DID or DDNOS in the
greater Birmingham Area. For rules for this list, please read the
description for Amongst Ourselves at Onelist ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/DIDbham>
< 5 | Archives: Members only
84 BambinoHaven <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/BambinoHaven>
BambinoHaven is a group set up for the inside littles and young people
of adults with dissociative identity disorder previously known as MPD.
The aim of this group is to give littles ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/BambinoHaven>
< 5 | Archives: Members only
85 wickedones <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/wickedones>
This is a private list for the dark or evil ones in multiple systems who
want a place to talk where they will not be disturbed by others in their
system. We are looking for specific ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/wickedones>
< 5 | Archives: Members only
86 mysplitpersonality
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/mysplitpersonality>
My Split Personality
< 5 | Archives: Public
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/mysplitpersonality/messages>
87 Multiple_Partners <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/Multiple_Partners>
This group is for people who have DID (MPD) and thier partners. This
group is for women only, although exceptions can be made for men who are
really cool. lol
< 5 | Archives: Members only
88 MPD_inside_pets <http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/MPD_inside_pets>
We are Krystale, a co-operative MPD system, one of our best friends is
our inside kitty, Tish Cat. This group is a forum for any inside
domestic-type pets. We will share tips and tricks ... more
<http://dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/MPD_inside_pets>
< 5 | Archives: Members only

Hi Sufia,

Here are some yahoo groups for SO's like myself. In the message that
follows this one, I'll post ALL of the groups on yahoo concerning MPD/DID:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sosupport
This group is hyper-active. However, although the group is supposed to
mainly support SO's, it seems to be mainly DID's posting. There are a
lot of SO's in the group, however. I have found it a bit sensitive for
genuine discussions among SO's because it often triggers some of the
DID's. It will definitely keep your message area full.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/livingmultiple
This is a very friendly and informative group, I've found. Both my
wife (who is DID), and I (as an SO) have found it very informative and
supportive. The thing is the insight given by the alters and people
with DID has proven quite helpful to me as an SO in this group.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/abusesurvivorswithmpdordid
For anyone who is an abuse survivor, who has MPD or DID or who is a
Significant Other (SO) of someone who is. Pretty good too.

I'm an SO, Sufia... these are the groups I belong to.

In the next message I'll post all of the DID/MPD groups currently
listed on yahoo.

-Wayne

Sufia wrote:

Hi, everyone,

I remember seeing some mention(s) of some more active groups for SOs
of people with DID. I did some searching but haven't found much of
anything. Could any of you direct me to a group--Yahoo or otherwise?
Thanks.

Hi Sufia,

Here are some yahoo groups for SO's like myself:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sosupport
This group is hyper-active. However, although the group is supposed to
mainly support SO's, it seems to be mainly DID's posting. There are a
lot of SO's in the group, however. I have found it a bit sensitive for
genuine discussions among SO's because it often triggers some of the
DID's. It will definitely keep your message area full.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/livingmultiple
This is a very friendly and informative group, I've found. Both my wife
(who is DID), and I (as an SO) have found it very informative and
supportive. The thing is the insight given by the alters and people with
DID has proven quite helpful to me as an SO in this group.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/abusesurvivorswithmpdordid
For anyone who is an abuse survivor, who has MPD or DID or who is a
Significant Other (SO) of someone who is. Pretty good too.

I'm an SO, Sufia... these are the groups I belong to.

In the next message I'll post all of the DID/MPD groups currently listed
on yahoo.

-Wayne

Sufia wrote:

> Hi, everyone,
>
> I remember seeing some mention(s) of some more active groups for SOs
> of people with DID. I did some searching but haven't found much of
> anything. Could any of you direct me to a group--Yahoo or otherwise?
> Thanks.

Hi, everyone,

I remember seeing some mention(s) of some more active groups for SOs
of people with DID. I did some searching but haven't found much of
anything. Could any of you direct me to a group--Yahoo or otherwise?
Thanks.

Peace,

Sufia

Hi i have a group that is very caring and supportive.Heres the link

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/DitchThatClutter/

The clutter that bogs your mind

Welcome, DragonRidr,

I'm 50, my wife is 45, and she has DID too. We've only known about DID
for about three or four months, but she's had it since childhood in all
probability, though I am the first man in her life that has discovered
it. A most striking condition, DID.

About two months ago I figured out there must be support groups for
spouses of DID's.... and thus I found this an other yahoo groups.

I'm sure you'll find a lot of support here.

-Wayne

Dragon wrote:
HI i wanted to do the intro thing to get it over with and to let
every one know that there is a real person behind this name, i am the
SO and other to a lady that has DID. we are not in what some would
call a normal relashinship but then what is normal.

if any one wishes to know feel free to ask i will awnser any
questions put too me. and may ask some real tough ones back.....


btw i am 44+ and my girl is 32+ lol our bdays are only 3 days apart
wich is sweet......

at moment we have only been toghter since november and do not live
toghter yet but is what i want as soon as we can work it out.

thanks
DragonRidr

Hi DragonRidr.  Welcome to the group.  This particular groups is not very active
but there are a few of us here who have communicated.  There are a couple of
other groups which are far more vigorous. Anyway, I understand what you mean
about what is normal.  I am married to a DID with 15 (so far alters).  I am 50,
she is 49. Her alters range from 3 to 20...all with completely different
personalities, problems and needs.  To make things VERY interesting....while my
wife is a very straight, conservative, moral type person, we have an 18-year old
party animal alter who just wants to go out and have fun.  She is especially
interested in the BDSM lifestyle, and we caught her sneaking into chat rooms and
cybering...which of course brought my wife to near hysteria. It has been
extremely challenging living with someone with DID, but I love my wife and all
of her parts and am willing to undergo whatever it is she needs from me.  I am
working to get to know all the alters individually.  Some rarely come out, some
I have met only once, and some come out almost every day.  I am not sure what
all completely lies beneath the surface there. Anyway, welcome and perhaps we
can chat sometime.  My yahoo ID is rampartranger50 and you can catch me on IM
during the week usually.  Jeff

Dragon <bronzedragonridr@...> wrote:HI i wanted to do the intro thing to
get it over with and to let
every one know that there is a real person behind this name, i am the
SO and other to a lady that has DID. we are not in what some would
call a normal relashinship but then what is normal.

if any one wishes to know feel free to ask i will awnser any
questions put too me. and may ask some real tough ones back.....


btw i am 44+ and my girl is 32+ lol our bdays are only 3 days apart
wich is sweet......

at moment we have only been toghter since november and do not live
toghter yet but is what i want as soon as we can work it out.

thanks
DragonRidr


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HI i wanted to do the intro thing to get it over with and to let
every one know that there is a real person behind this name, i am the
SO and other to a lady that has DID. we are not in what some would
call a normal relashinship but then what is normal.

if any one wishes to know feel free to ask i will awnser any
questions put too me. and may ask some real tough ones back.....


btw i am 44+ and my girl is 32+ lol our bdays are only 3 days apart
wich is sweet......

at moment we have only been toghter since november and do not live
toghter yet but is what i want as soon as we can work it out.

thanks
DragonRidr

Well, since the group here isn't that active these days, and I'm new
anyway, I'd like to say something about the responsibilities of an SO
toward a person with DID.

I think that in order to be an SO, you have to be an amazing person, and
my hat is off to all of you wonderful SO's out there. I am also
personally thankful to have met so many new friends by which I can share
my amazing journey.

I call the SO's life a journey, because much is written about case
studies of persons with DID, but not much is written about the amazing
journey of the significant others and spouses of persons with DID. I
have had some of the most astounding adventures, and have met new and
interesting people, all within the person of my wife. And I find that
fascinating.

There are a number of other yahoo groups offering support for SO's and
DID's which I now belong to, and I have found the discussions
educational and enlightening.

Just some thoughts.

-Wayne

Dear Jeff,

Thanks for the story. I think the journey of the Significant Other
in a relationship with a person with MPD is, in many ways, as
difficult or even more difficult than it is for the person with MPD.

Of course, that's obviously not true in every instance. Many
relationships have been seriously damaged because of an alter, and
this affects the host personality greatly. But it is the significant
other that gets to meet all of these alternate personalities, talk
with them, and learn to come to terms with them.

It's a long journey, and a difficult journey. It seems to require a
lot of determination and understanding, which you obviously have.

I'm glad that there is some more activity in this group. I hope to
take time to explore some other groups offering support for SO's.

Sincerely, Wayne

Hi Wayne,

Ho, have I got a story for you!  Anyway, I just
finished reading a book about a woman with MPD, whose
core personality married an abusive man, but one of
the alters never considered herself married to him,
and ended up divorcing him.  Oddly enough, she marched
right into the lawyer's office, told her straight out
what the deal was, and the lawyer drew up the papers
without flinching for a minute.

My wife presents me with an interesting challenge.
She herself is a very conservative, evangelical
Christian.  We are both almost 50.  However, she has
an 18-year old alter who is a party-animal with almost
no spiritual convictions and no moral boundaries.
When I met my wife, she only knew about one alter, a
4-year old, who came to view me as safe and came out
quite frequently.  In the last year, 11 others have
manifested, each seemingly carrying some portion of
the abuse and hurt my wife experienced as a child.
The younger children usually just need reassurance
that the "bad men" are no longer out to get them, and
that they are safe with me.  The recalcitrant teenager
is presenting us with quite a challange.  She has been
up surfing the net and visiting chat rooms, and
basically being a typical brassy, naughty teenager.
It is a precarious balancing act.  It's almost
legalized bigamy in a way.  I do treat them as
completely distinct personalities, inhabiting one
body, since this is the way they want to be treated.
I am trying to get all the alters co-conscious and
cooperative which has been a challenge.

Sometimes I do treat all of them as if we are one
large family.  I have referred to the place we all
live as the "orphanage" where God has placed the
children to be safe, and where the bad men can't get
them. What is both amazing and unsetting to me, is
that some of the littles are able to tap into my
wife's ability to do things such as drive, make phone
calls and write email.  It is disconcerting getting a
phone call from a 4-year old driving down an
interstate utterly lost, or the 5-year old who called
me up and told me she just joined the "Y".  Also, the
18-year old starting to rack up traffic tickets for
which unfortunately my wife and I get to foot the
bill.

Twilight zone indeed.  I never would have believed
this in my wildest dreams were I not living it as
daily reality.

Jeff

--- mwb53tx <mwb53tx@...> wrote:
> Jeff, I know exactly what you mean.
>
> Interestingly, in my case, I actually married one of
> my wife's
> alters before either of us knew about MPD. Later, as
> things
> progressed, I discovered who the host was, and
> fortunately, we get
> along just fine! It's been a real adventure of
> getting to know
> someone all over again. So when you mentioned the
> Twilight Zone, I
> smiled. No one would believe this if they didn't
> know about DID.
>
> We've been able to identify seven distinct
> personalities, two of
> whom doen't even know they are married to me, but
> whom I've only met
> once. But as the husband, I am supportive, and I
> love all of "them"
> as disassociative parts of the one complete girl. I
> have learned a
> lot. Sometimes it's fascinating. Sometimes it's
> frustrating. But
> nice to know there are others in my position out
> there.
>
> Sincerely, Wayne
>
>


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Jeff, I know exactly what you mean.

Interestingly, in my case, I actually married one of my wife's
alters before either of us knew about MPD. Later, as things
progressed, I discovered who the host was, and fortunately, we get
along just fine! It's been a real adventure of getting to know
someone all over again. So when you mentioned the Twilight Zone, I
smiled. No one would believe this if they didn't know about DID.

We've been able to identify seven distinct personalities, two of
whom doen't even know they are married to me, but whom I've only met
once. But as the husband, I am supportive, and I love all of "them"
as disassociative parts of the one complete girl. I have learned a
lot. Sometimes it's fascinating. Sometimes it's frustrating. But
nice to know there are others in my position out there.

Sincerely, Wayne

Hey! I just joined this group, as you know, and my wife and I just
happened to look at the bouncing list. Bouncers are people who
belong to a group, but when the group mail is sent to them the email
bounces.

This group has 89 members and 79 of them are bouncing. That means
there are only presently 10 active members.

Bouncing members must be managed by the moderator, otherwise after
some time yahoo goes through and elimates groups with a high
percentage of bouncers. They do this because sending email to
bouncers is a problem and clogs up yahoo's servers.

I know this, because I also own a group, and I have to manage the
bouncers myself. You can get your bouncers down sometimes by sending
a reactivation request.

Sincerely, Wayne

Hi.  My name is Jeff, and my wife has DID.  She has
(so far anyway) 12 alters ranging in age from 3 to 18.
  I am a member of a number of SO support groups, some
of which are VERY active, and some not so much.  I do
recommend getting involved in a support group, because
being a SO of a DID is very challenging and often
frustrating.  I love my wife and "the children" very
much, but living with someone with DID, as you all
know can be extremely daunting.  It's good sometimes
to know we are not the only ones going through what we
are going through.  Sometimes it all seems like a
dream, sometimes like play-acting, and sometimes like
an episode from Twilight Zone or a Stephen King novel.
  I think you all know what I'm talking about.

Jeff


--- mwb53tx <mwb53tx@...> wrote:
> Hello everyone. I am the husband of a wonderful girl
> who has DID.
> Just to let you know there are spouses here. I
> joined to read and
> share notes with other spouses, and to ask questions
> and learn.
>
> -Wayne
>
>


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Hello everyone. I am the husband of a wonderful girl who has DID.
Just to let you know there are spouses here. I joined to read and
share notes with other spouses, and to ask questions and learn.

-Wayne

I guess that is one way to look at it.

--- In mpdspouses@yahoogroups.com, "delian47" <feral@b...> wrote:
> i am DID and experiencing healing profoundly.   as for complete
> intergration, my response is that even singletons are not
completely
> integrated.  i believe every indivudal is multifaceted to greater
or
> lesser degeree, and that full integration of all of ones
perspectives
> or viewpoints is a work of a life time.
>
> deb
>
> --- In mpdspouses@yahoogroups.com, setfree7 <no_reply@y...> wrote:
> > anybody here know anybody who has completely integrated?  or
> anybody
> > here who has completely integrated?

i am DID and experiencing healing profoundly.   as for complete
intergration, my response is that even singletons are not completely
integrated.  i believe every indivudal is multifaceted to greater or
lesser degeree, and that full integration of all of ones perspectives
or viewpoints is a work of a life time.

deb

--- In mpdspouses@yahoogroups.com, setfree7 <no_reply@y...> wrote:
> anybody here know anybody who has completely integrated?  or
anybody
> here who has completely integrated?