Would you mind elaborating on your post a bit, please?

My fiance and I (and his alters) talk ALOT, though I mainly talk to the
main one that is out most of the time. I know that the personality born
to the body is dead and there are several inside that do not talk, some
that are dead, some that are defenders, some are female, etc. The main
one is female and probably the one that I fell in love with (though I
don't know for sure), so I have all sorts of self-reflection on my own
sexuality and question if I'm gay and whatnot. His voice isn't high or
anything, he doesn't 'act like a woman' but I do find myself chatting
with him like I do with a close girlfriend and I catch myself. It will
dawn on me that he really doesn't find 'those shoes cute' but during
those times...he 'feels' female to me and holy hell do I yap it up to
him just as if he is. Then its like I catch myself and I realize, he's a
guy again... Maybe the main one is a dyke? :) I've see his children
alters come out at different times and giggle and play and be
mischievous...sometimes at times that I think are completely
inappropriate. They laugh, say mean, hurtful things to me and others and
general make me wonder sometimes if he's trying to drive me away; but I
know - without a doubt in my mind - that he loves me so deeply and wants
to build a life with me, so I hold onto that. He has given me his trust
and allowed himself to feel and love when he's not done that before and
I feel so honored, so very honored. I just need to understand what I'm
supposed to do with my own feelings when the alters come out and attack
as 'don't take it personally' really only works for so long and the fact
that they have little or no accountability really pisses me off. Just
speaking for myself - I had no part in his abuse. I myself have been
abused and suffer from chronic PTSD and depersonalization disorder
myself. It is not fair for his alters to attack me just for loving him,
or just because I am easiest to attack. So...since some of you have been
living with this for a much longer time than me - HELP!

Thanks.

Trish

--- In mpdspouses@yahoogroups.com, "Anthony" <brdlevel@...> wrote:
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> Hi Trish,
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> I found out my wife had DID 8 years in to our marriage.
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> It is not easy. I first I thought it was under control..
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> I was wrong.
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> Anthony