HI Trish, I am not a spouse, but a very good friend of somone with DID.
I am close to many of her parts and I know how difficult it can be. I
just a read a very good book called "Shattered and Then.." by Laurie
Morris. She was married to a man with DID. It has a lot of religion in
it, but even if you are not religious the marriage part of the book and
DID may help you. I found that educating myself, listening to all the
parts, not judging and just being there for them is the best I can do.
Therapy may be very important, but be careful about who the therapist is
that you choose. Not all of them are familiar with DID. Your fiance
probably does not even know all the horrible things that his parts may
share with you. It will be a challenging relationship, but also a very
rewarding one. Hang in there....one thing it took me a long time to
"get" is dont take everything he says to you personally...you never know
who you are talking to! Also, as my friend and I do,,,have a sense a
humor about it all...that will get your through the hard times!

Donna
--- In mpdspouses@yahoogroups.com, "Anthony" <brdlevel@...> wrote:
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> Hi Trish,
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> I found out my wife had DID 8 years in to our marriage.
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> It is not easy. I first I thought it was under control..
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> I was wrong.
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> Anthony
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> From: mpdspouses@yahoogroups.com [mailto:mpdspouses@yahoogroups.com]
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> Behalf Of rblegs
> Sent: Wednesday, July 09, 2008 10:38 AM
> To: mpdspouses@yahoogroups.com
> Subject: [MPD Spouses] New Here - Engaged to a Multiple
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> Greetings:
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> My name is Trish. I have been dating a guy with MPD (DID) for a year
> and a half now and we have become engaged. He told me right up front
> that he had the disorder, so I 'knew' what I was getting into - or so
> I thought. I find that at times I don't have a clue - truly I don't -
> about what I'm dealing with and I get a bit baffled about what I see.
> I am deeply, deeply in love with him (them) and was relieved when I
> found this group yesterday. I will take my time and read each post -
> believe me - and everything else available in this group so that I can
> know how best to live and love in this relationship.
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> Thanks,
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> Trish
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