I am DID, and i did lose my marriage, but it was not because of your
situation.

i think you need to take care of youself and your daughter. by
setting boundaries you are also helping your DID spouse. your DID
spouse is not in any way served by allowing you and or your daughter
to be harmed by thier symptoms.

i am sure DID individuals generally do not want to bring any harm,
and when they do inadvertantly, they will feel really awful so do not
allow your did spouses symptoms to bring harm to you or your daughter.

i don't think enabling the running is the helpful thing to do, when
it is abundantly true that when your DID spouse recovers more these
symptoms will decrease, and they are symptoms, resulting from not
having worked through healing processes.

delian



--- In mpdspouses@yahoogroups.com, sufia_j@y... wrote:
> What do you do when you just can't stand it anymore? I mean, I've
> really, really had enough. And the worst part is that I can't talk
> to anyone about it; nobody here knows about his DID.
>
> Twice yesterday he told our daughter, "I'm not Daddy." She's four
> years old. She shouldn't have to deal with this. And that's just
> the tip of the iceberg. He's ONCE AGAIN changing our life plans
and
> wanting to move (read: escape) to another city. Well, I'm not
doing
> it again. I'm just not. I've put up with this for fourteen
years.
> Now I'm putting my foot down. If he needs to go, he can go. But
> we're staying here.
>
> And everything is my fault according to him. If I point out how
he's
> being irrational, I'm standing in his way. I'm the source of all
his
> problems. I'm the bad guy if I don't jump at every crazy plan he
> comes up with--and he comes up with a new one just about every
week.
> Do you know how many job changes and moves I've supported him in?
I
> don't know; I've actually lost count. But there are times when
he's
> just not making any sense and I *have* to say no, right? He's got
me
> so confused I don't know what's right and wrong, what's reasonable
or
> crazy anymore. I wish we had some neutral person we could talk
this
> all out with.
>
> I really wish he was in therapy. Do you think there's any way I
> could convince him to get back in therapy?
>
> All I know is that I can't take this anymore.
>
> Thanks for listening. I know I've been rambling, but I'm too upset
> and stressed-out to make much sense at the moment. I think I need
to
> get away for a while.
>
> Peace,
>
> Sufia