Dear Elizabeth...
My name is Shelby. I am mpd. My partner suggested these things: try and
become friends with the alters, find out what they want. Don't try and force
them to be your mate and don't try and make them do things your spouse would do.
I feel for you. I will be praying for you and your husband. Please feel free
to write again.
Sincerely,
Shelby

Elizabeth Heiby-Boteler <cutewideeyedhobbitgirl@...> wrote:
To whomever has ever gone through this before;

My spouse has been diagnosed as PTSD and DID
disorders. Here's my problem. I have been with my
spouse for 3 years now and this is the very first time
that he has ever said the word divorce to me while
he's been switching left and right. Here's our story
about each other and how we met. In the beginning when
we first met we talked about everything espcially
divorce and we are both against it. His biological
parents divorced when he was 4 years old and that was
a traumatic experiance for him so that is one of the
reasons why he is against divorce. I know for a fact
that the person that I met was no alter because none
of his personalities like me and plus he has never
felt this way about anyone in his life. He said to me
when we first met that I shattered him. And in the
process I realize that he shattered me too. What I
mean by shattered is that the worlds that we both were
living in came crumbling down and a light shone
through for the first time ever in our lives. I am
asking these questions to anyone that has gone through
this before because I am not sure if these
personalities are serious enough to get the divorce or
if their blowing smoke? I was wondering if anyone has
gone through this before because I want to know if it
might really happen or if they are just empty threats
from these personalities that can't stand me? His
personalities have never been on their own like this
before so this is new territory for them. He for the
first time in his life has his own money and can do
everything with it. We have a daughter together and I
wanted to know if anyone that has kids has gone
through this before and what you did? I can't afford
an attorney because my husband practically cleaned out
our bank account that we had together. It was in my
name only so that he wasn't able and allowed to touch
it and his paychecks were (until now) direct deposit
but now only his personalities figured out a way to
get into it with me and without me. He did not know
the pin number until one night one of his
personalities figured out the code. Now his
personalities have gone haywire. He has been diagnosed
as well as a born alcoholic and he is very dependant
on drugs and tabacco. He can't handle drinking one
beer or smoking because once he has one he starts
going back for more and more. I'm afraid that he will
end up in jail again or harming himself as well as
others. He is not willing to listen to any reasoning
what so ever. He has closed off his mind and heart to
me and our daughter. All he has told me is that he
wants to be allowed to do whatever he wants. I know
what that means when he saids that and I not only
don't agree with that I don't want our daughter
growing up in a home like that. I know for a fact that
these are constant personality switches and the person
that I met and fell in love with does not believe in
what these personality are doing. I know that my
husband is trapped in his own mind and body and is
screaming to be released and saved but my hands are
tied and there is no way I can help him. Does anyone
have any comforting words or advice for me? I am
hanging literally by a thread here. Can anyone out
there help me in any way? Please write me back
privately and let me know. Thank you. I'll be waiting
for someone to respond to me who has comforting words
and can help. If you can't help do you know of anyone
in your life that has gone through what I am right
now? If you do know of someone in your life that can
help please ask them to e-mail me so I can get help in
this matter. Thanks again. Bye for now.

Sincerely,
Elizabeth (frightened stiff)




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