Dear Ann,

I'm glad you found this group. It sounds like you're doing a
wonderful job of dealing with an incredibly difficult situation. I'm
actually in awe of your ability to put your own feelings aside and
just be there for your girlfriend in whatever capacity she needs
right now. She's very lucky to have you.

...


. She's afraid that the lesbian inside of
> her was just an alter that was created to deal with the abuse from
> her ex husband and that now that part of her is gone.
>

I really doubt this. People with DID compartmentalize pretty much
everything, and sexual orientation is no exception. The girlfriend
you knew is almost certainly in there somewhere and you'll probably
be seeing her again. Alters don't just disappear. Even with
integration, every alter's thoughts and feelings just become part of
the whole. So the person you knew as your girlfriend still exists.

Please hang in there and know that your support is doing your
girlfriend a world of good at a time when she really needs it.

Peace,

Sufia