My wife and I had a wonderful marriage for many many years.
But over the last several she became increasingly irritable. Then
a few years ago I began to see extreme episodes of amnesia in
her, drastic changes in mood, outlook, demeanor, dress and
mannerisms. She eventually became paranoid delusional that
friends were trying to kill her/us, she disappeared from our family
often and ultimately came to believe that I too was trying to kill
her. No amount of persuasion could get her to feel otherwise.

In the end, she divorced me out of fear that I was trying to harm
her. I have never even raised my voice at her and would run
through flames to save her. She had no basis for her fear at all,
other then something deep in her past.

Im wondering if anyone else out there has lost their spouse to
MPD. The pain that myself and my children have gone through is
indescribable, and Im sure my ex is in horrific pain as well,
though she shows no emotions whatsoever and refuses all
therapy or suggestion of treatment.

She now lives alone, has few friends, does not work and seems
to be just impoding. It is horrible to sit by helpless and watch her
spiral down.

What becomes of someone with DID who never gets treated?
Where does this go? Was the person I married and loved and
alter, or a whole person who is now fractured into many alters?
Can I expect any reason to hold out hope for this situation that I
might ever see "her" again?

any advice or insight that can be offered would be greatly
appreciated.