Hi all.

Beth is very correct. It can be a very hard road. I have known my SO for
almost 3 years. She was diagnosed with DID almost 4 years ago but knew about
her other "residents" long before that. Her protector has been there since she
was around 12 I believe. I knew about them very early on in our friendship.
Since then I have become very good friends with many of them. At last count
there were over 40 residents in her head. I've not met all of them, but most of
them. My best advice is patience, patience, patience. It is a long, hard road,
but the rewards I have found are priceless. Coming this October 12th will be my
SO and my first year anniversary.

Hope this helps,
Josh



angel <twistedangel64@...> wrote:
Hi Jack,

unfortunately i cant give you much help but i am eagerly waiting to
hear some replies to your questions.

i have been with my husband for more than 6 years now, have known
for 5 that he (or his body???) is multiple...... i suspected
before, especially after finding out the army diagnosed him
with "mpd tendencies" tendencies my but...... sheesh

but he, my husband, has been in denial for a long time, he chose
to think of himself as a "freak" or a "monster" instead of believing
he was multiple..

there hasnt been any therapy for either of us and right now i am
dead set against it but leave it open for the future....

i too feel we came together for a reason, D is my soulmate and i
love him just the way he is but sometimes its a rough road we travel
its been especially hard for me when he didnt "remember" a
conversation (especially when he was being a jerk or worse) but the
more i have read and learned and become comfortable with i believe
that each are individuals not parts of a whole and right now i feel
attempting to integrate would do more harm than good

i love my man the way he is and accept all of them, so far i "know"
3 others for sure and have had glimpses of more, get along great
with the one little, have an uneasy truce with the "protector" and
the 3rd just seems to be a narrator of sorts...

i have found no evidence of trauma or abuse to indicate this caused
the multiples but rather all of them tell me they just have always
been........ there is nothing that scares any of them except the
fear of being left by the little and spiders terrify D himself, and
the only trigger for the protector so far seems to be arguing with D
or a tremendous stress on him in some way,

but like i said its still really all new because until D was ready
to accept and deal with being multiple i felt there wasnt much i
could do without causing more harm than good......

anway, i think its awesome that you want to stand strong with the
woman you fell in love with and i offer friendship and support in
anyway i can......


best wishes
beth





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