Hi Wayne,

Ho, have I got a story for you! Anyway, I just
finished reading a book about a woman with MPD, whose
core personality married an abusive man, but one of
the alters never considered herself married to him,
and ended up divorcing him. Oddly enough, she marched
right into the lawyer's office, told her straight out
what the deal was, and the lawyer drew up the papers
without flinching for a minute.

My wife presents me with an interesting challenge.
She herself is a very conservative, evangelical
Christian. We are both almost 50. However, she has
an 18-year old alter who is a party-animal with almost
no spiritual convictions and no moral boundaries.
When I met my wife, she only knew about one alter, a
4-year old, who came to view me as safe and came out
quite frequently. In the last year, 11 others have
manifested, each seemingly carrying some portion of
the abuse and hurt my wife experienced as a child.
The younger children usually just need reassurance
that the "bad men" are no longer out to get them, and
that they are safe with me. The recalcitrant teenager
is presenting us with quite a challange. She has been
up surfing the net and visiting chat rooms, and
basically being a typical brassy, naughty teenager.
It is a precarious balancing act. It's almost
legalized bigamy in a way. I do treat them as
completely distinct personalities, inhabiting one
body, since this is the way they want to be treated.
I am trying to get all the alters co-conscious and
cooperative which has been a challenge.

Sometimes I do treat all of them as if we are one
large family. I have referred to the place we all
live as the "orphanage" where God has placed the
children to be safe, and where the bad men can't get
them. What is both amazing and unsetting to me, is
that some of the littles are able to tap into my
wife's ability to do things such as drive, make phone
calls and write email. It is disconcerting getting a
phone call from a 4-year old driving down an
interstate utterly lost, or the 5-year old who called
me up and told me she just joined the "Y". Also, the
18-year old starting to rack up traffic tickets for
which unfortunately my wife and I get to foot the
bill.

Twilight zone indeed. I never would have believed
this in my wildest dreams were I not living it as
daily reality.

Jeff

--- mwb53tx <mwb53tx@...> wrote:
> Jeff, I know exactly what you mean.
>
> Interestingly, in my case, I actually married one of
> my wife's
> alters before either of us knew about MPD. Later, as
> things
> progressed, I discovered who the host was, and
> fortunately, we get
> along just fine! It's been a real adventure of
> getting to know
> someone all over again. So when you mentioned the
> Twilight Zone, I
> smiled. No one would believe this if they didn't
> know about DID.
>
> We've been able to identify seven distinct
> personalities, two of
> whom doen't even know they are married to me, but
> whom I've only met
> once. But as the husband, I am supportive, and I
> love all of "them"
> as disassociative parts of the one complete girl. I
> have learned a
> lot. Sometimes it's fascinating. Sometimes it's
> frustrating. But
> nice to know there are others in my position out
> there.
>
> Sincerely, Wayne
>
>


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