I second all of that Tammy...

--- In mpdspouses@yahoogroups.com, "TAMMY CUNDIFF"
<tendermommycare@p...> wrote:
> On Thu, 06 Feb 2003 05:27:00 -0000
> "the_cailleach <Rainscailleach@a...>"
> <Rainscailleach@a...> wrote:
>
> Hello,
>
> I wanted to answer your questions in a very general form
> for now and will write more soon...but as to your 3
> questions here are my thoughts...
>
> 1-It is my husband who struggles with DID and I think I
> mentioned previously that I am told that finding one male
> out there with this struggle is "someting" because you
> don't find many who are not women. Women are often the
> abused or victims you might say
>
> 2-My husband deals with 8 alters all together (so far).
>
> 3-And a very important answer for you....It is "Poor
> Therapy". No one has the right to invade your vacation, has
> the right to make decisions without you, has the right to
> give your husband a free reign to call day or night, has
> the right to be this demanding or possessive of your
> husband or you. I realize , too , that it is very hard to
> find a find a therapist who is capable and willing and even
> believes DID exists. We drive over an hour in a half
> ourselves. Do not take shoulder this concern on your
> behalf. You husband is in the vulnerable state and it
> sounds as if she is influencing his progress & healing.
> There is nothing I am sure more frustrating than having to
> start all over again but this seems like a red flag waving
> violently. I would proceed with extreme caution.
>
> Just my thoughts. Have a good day. Tammy