I am in total agreement with the others who have
responded, with justifiable distaste, to the goings
on with in this so claimed "therapy". The complaints
you have described, are not simple misuderstandings,
or even over sensativities!!!

Your mail has hit a very sensitive spot whith me, in
that, my husband and I have been going over the same
issues,with the same delema, concernig therapists!
The only difference, is that i am going through this
process to find help for two of my young children. So
I will pass on a little advise, that was imparted to
me over the past few days....

1. Therapy is disigned to be a healing process, it is
suppose to bring a sense of safty and calmness, into
the family unit,so that support and patients can be
achieved as a foundation, on which a very difficult
phase of healing can begin! This is of course opposite
of what you have described!

2. Regardless, as to whether or not you think you
are being overly sensitive, the point has to be made
that you are uncomfortable. This causing instability
to the foundation of the therapy process itself, and
cannot proceed successfuly into any stage safely,
without causing potential harm in the procsess!!!

3. I have spoken to many Dr.'s over the phone, for
several months, within an hr to 2hr radias of my home
before i found a therapist who not only came highly
recommended for children, but, claimed to have dealt
with DID in patients in the past. So far, I too am
wondering where the plan is...where does the family
fit in? How can we be more productive in the process
to stabilize, the varios situations that arise on a
day to day basis. The point being, that I have
recieved more info on the healing process, how to calm
the situations, what to expect from therapy with a
child, how it will differ at times from traditional
therapy for an adult, how long it will take, as well
as what has to take place even before the DID therapy
to begin, all within the short convesations I had with
therapist, kind enough to give suggestions as to where
I might go in my area!

4. If for ANY reason, you feel that you are being
divided as a unit, "the core support", which I feel is
the most vital step toward healing, Im sorry to say I
can understand why she is not wanting to continue into
the next phase!!! She as a therapist has to realize
that it would not be sucessful! Just from the
knowledge that i have collected, like I said
previously, could give an idea, at least, as to what
to expect....Then I would have to wonder seriously
whether or not she knows what to do. This would not
be healthy for your husband, you or your family as a
whole! But of coure this is just an opinion!

5. Lastly, my husband told me when i went through my
litany of concerns, He said "whats the problem? you
have the check book, she works FOR you! and you have
one of two choices, list and confront her with the
problem or find someone else!!! Feelings are the
MAIN issue in therapy!!!

the Sidran foundation has been most helpful to me, as
well as various web sights, with very kind people who
truly want to help! sidran@... have trauma
therapist willing to assist in questions or concerns
to therapy, referal as well as books and such!

Good Luck! allxs


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