hey barbara,

i know exactly how you feel,i feel bad thinking feeling happy and letting go
moving on is letting go of the memories,or forgetting but its not...personally a
lot fell on me when my son passed away so i never grieved as i should have and
its 4 years now and i am emotionally unavialable to my son now,recently i am
working on focusing on just him,remembering that letting go and accepting is the
first step to a healthy grieving process,i owe my other son that much.i hurts
because i am starting to hear a silence where his laughter use to be.i am
starting to not remember his particular sound but i can ever forget him or what
he use to say just the way he would sound...i have good days i have bad
days,still every day my son who is now a few months older than my other one was
when he passed away is helping me .i love him so much i always will.



----- Original Message ----
From: Barbara Kramer <wreath505@...>
To: mourninglossofachild@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Saturday, July 26, 2008 9:03:56 PM
Subject: Re: [Mourning Loss of a Child] loss of love one


Hi Laura,

My name is Barbara and thank you so much for replaying. I have known some
people that loss a child in the past and I felt sorry for them , but I never
knew the pain they really felt till it happen to me and I want to say to you
mother to mother I feel for you for the loss of your son.
I want to move on and a part of me is afraid cause I do not want the close
memories to fad away with time.

--- On Sat, 7/26/08, laura hernandez <lilillusion1109@ yahoo.com> wrote:

From: laura hernandez <lilillusion1109@ yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: [Mourning Loss of a Child] loss of love one
To: mourninglossofachil d@yahoogroups. com
Date: Saturday, July 26, 2008, 5:45 PM

hello sorry for your loss,i know that no parent should ever have to bury their
children,i lost my son to a hospital contamination( bacterial menegitis) and for
me its been 4 years now,i still feel almost the same as when he died...it hurts
the same but eventually a day will come when youll be able to cope...i remember
waking up one day and saying my god i wasnt a total wreck yesterday,nothing or
no one can ever replace your child...i had another son 3 years later and he
still will never take my sons place.for me his whole memory consumes me,so its
really hard but it is all about getting on and letting it go even if its hard
eventually we have to.hope i have helped even a little hope u a world of
strength.always laura

----- Original Message ----
From: wreath <wreath505@yahoo. com>
To: mourninglossofachil d@yahoogroups. com
Sent: Saturday, July 26, 2008 12:26:08 AM
Subject: [Mourning Loss of a Child] loss of love one

My son had a mental illiness and the medicine that help him , turn on
him and he had a bad reaction and he jump to his death.

It is only two months, I feel ok somedays and then i get so depress. I
know it takes time , but having your child go before you doesn't sit
right.

I feel so tired and have loss energy. I know went i do things i feel
better .
I wonder how it feels after so many years

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