Val, thank you for sharing more about your precious son, Tim. I am so sorry
for your loss. I do understand that we cannot ever "get over" the loss of
our beloved children. They are part of our very "being" and we will also
hurt for our missing child. Our minds have a funny way of protecting us .
not always understood. Perhaps the memories of your son's earlier days will
come back in bits and pieces as you are able to handle them. I think we tend
to miss every child our son or daughter was - the infant, the toddler, the
preschooler, the early elementary years, the preteen years, the teenage
years, the early adult years . however long we had them, we miss the child
they were at each stage. That is a lot of missing to do. Perhaps all your
mind can deal with is the sorting through of the later years right now.



I haven't had a mental breakdown, but I have sure felt close to having what
I thought might borderline on one. Of course, I am still plugging ahead with
work and chores and it has only been a little over a year now. Your letter
serves as a reminder to me that I may still need to check in with my doctor
again. I do think that having this forum where I can relate to others on the
same journey and am able to release a lot of my feelings on a regular basis
helps.



I'm glad to have you with us, Val. Please know we care.

Sandi



From: mourninglossofachild@yahoogroups.com
[mailto:mourninglossofachild@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of Val Watson (Reed)
Sent: Saturday, May 03, 2008 5:18 AM
To: mourninglossofachild@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [Mourning Loss of a Child] My son Tim



Tim died when he was 27yrs old. He was engaged to be married and if
he hadnt died would have married at the end of June,2000...Tim died
in May 2000.

Tim was a very caring, gentle person, one couldnt help but like him.
He had heaps of friends and when you made friends with Tim, as far as
he was concerned, it was for life.
He would help anyone, he was a great friend, brother and son.

His sister was born 6yrs after him and he adored her and they were
the best of friends, sure they had their tiffs, but they were very
close.

Tim loved to draw, write stories, write poetry was a roadie in a
band. He did suffer depression, that is why he was taking large
amounts (Ididnt know) of prescription drugs from the doctor, namely
drugs with codeine in them and sleeping tablets. He died from an
accidental overdose.

Since Tim has died, I have thought on many occasions that life is not
worth living, I had a mental breakdown 18 months after Tim died and
that has left me with no memories of him as a baby or in his early
years at school, the only memories I have of him are from age 16yrs
till the time he died.

Val.





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