Hello Rita
I wish I could start off by telling you it will get better soon it won't.
Losing a child is the hardest thing in life to bear. My heart hurt for you, I
know the pain that you are going through every step of the way. Whatever you are
feeling is okay. It's going to be a long lonely road but you will get through
it. I am here for you. I am a survivor after the death of a child. For so many
years I didn't think I was going to make it, I didn't want to make it but I did.
You have to first grieve. Let your body and mind go through that process. Some
days are going to be good some days are going to bad, some days you are going to
cry and cry but it's okay. Don't let anyone tell you how long to grieve Morgan
is your child. It's your pain you feel not theirs. See once the funeral is over
the family move on and you are left to find a way to survive, that's when your
grieving process comes in. You have to go through your process of grief as I
said it is going to rough, and it's
going to be tough. Don't try to be strong for anyone but you. For years I
tried to be strong for everyone but me. In the end my body got weak and I had to
grieve through a weak body. Take your time crying helped me a lot. I cried more
than anybody in the world. I know it's a lot going on in your my why me? So
many times I asked myself why me. I understand your pain if you need a friend
who truly understand what you are going through you can email me a t
msukenny@...
I have turned such an offer tragic in my life to something to help someone
else.
visit www.patriciayarbrough.com I wish there was something to ease the pain
as we go through this journey there is nothing but us. We have to help pull each
other through. Take my hand as you go through your journey, I hope to one day to
lead you to the light at the end of the tunnel. There is light at the end of the
tunnel after a tragic like this. I am just an email away. Don't feel you have to
walk alone.
Take Care

rita abila <nmbr1twice@...> wrote:
Hi Kelly,
I am so sorry that you have lost your Morgan, I'm sitting here with a lump in my
throat and tears in my eyes I know how hard all this is and I wished you would
not have to go through all of the heart ache that you are facing now. If you
ever need to to just vent feel free to to write me anytime if I am not here my
work address is rita.abila@... I lost my son Rudy Jr. 2 1/2 years
ago he was 14 yrs. old and there's not a day that goes by that I don't think of
him and wish I could hold him for just a second or two.
My Rudy died playing sports he had always wanted to box since he was about 8
yrs. old With my job I had a parenting booth at a car show and they also happen
to have some exibition matches so they found a coach and started going to
practice. During sparring practice a vain in his head broke and they took him
into emergency surgery but the Dr. came out and said there was nothing he could
do they Jr. would pass away that his brain was swelling to much when they
removed the bone. His heart gave out the next day and all I could do was hand
him back to our Lord.
I wish I could say that things will be better in a year or two but everone goes
at there own pace, life has gotten alittle better but the holidays are still
hell to go thru.
My first year I did what I had to I felt no emotions I just existed and cried
and pretended that he was a way at a friends for a while but after a while that
did not work either.
I tried writing for a while keeping a journal of my thoughts and that helped
some.
I looked up alot of things on the internet to trying to help me relieve some of
the pain that I was feeling and to try and help my husband and kids.
Take it one day at a time and sometimes if may be one minute at a time.
God bless you and your family and help guide you thru this trying time
especially this first year.
Take care
Rita

















m> wrote:
Hi, My name is Kelly I lost my 17 year old daughter on 9-22-07. She
died in a car accident. She was the oldest of three girls.

Her name is Morgan...she was with 3 friends and the driver of the
car she was in ran a stop sign and was hit in the passangers side where
Morgan was sitting. Morgan and two others were thrown from the
vechile. Morgan was killed instantly...or was dead when the EMS
arrived.

Her best friend was in the hospital up until about 4 weeks ago. The
driver and other passanger were treated and released.

I am having a real hard time dealing with the whole thing. So I
decided to try a new approach....and thats this group.

If anyone out there cares to share with me their story and how they
have managed to make it so far I would be grateful.

Sincerely,
Kelly

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