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After a social evening of dancing, last night in the shower (where I get
many of my best ideas), I had a thought about the portion of this
message which I address below having snipped all the rest.
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On 04/17/2009 02:09 PM, Paul Wakfer wrote:
> On 04/05/2009 09:22 PM, Steve Floyd Jr wrote:
>
>> Paul wrote:
>>
>>> Still I can certainly understand that you need some one or others with
>>> whom you can associate more directly and regularly. I certainly could
>>> not be and would not be functioning as I am without having found Kitty
>>> and having her physically with me most of the time.
>>>
>> I had thought this to be the case: that the constant, physical
>> presence of a certain person could make a large difference in my
>> happiness. I'm glad to hear that you have experienced this, which
>> helps to support my hypothesis. Note, I understand it is not simply
>> the other person's physical presence that brings benefit, but also the
>> fact that hir physical presence enables easier communication and a
>> wider range of activities that can be done together, relative to the
>> lack of hir physical presence.
>
> Yes the immediate sharing of experiences and immediate ability to
> comment and respond is what is mainly necessary. The physical nearness
> is simply a necessary prerequisite for that immediacy, and when a
> romantic relationship is also enough physical presence is "icing on the cake".
>
>>> [I will concur on this point of enormous value of close human friendship.
**Kitty]
>>>
>> I have been trying to discover why I get a bit depressed and feel
>> relatively unmotivated for a period of a day or two about once per
>> month. After having considered vitamin deficiencies (i.e. vitamin D
>> supplementation), lack of exercise, and some other possible causes, I
>> think that my lack of close friendship may be a large part of the cause.
>
> Well you simply have to keep looking, never get "hard boiled"
> (unreceptive and unopen to others) and never give up.

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> In the meantime you must learn to do with many less complete
> relationships that are each of benefit in an important but different
> area of your life, and perhaps a few longer distance, less immediate
> relationships that are more complete. Of course, you can also consider
> relocating to where there exist one or more people with whom you do
> have a more complete relationship.


You could use the Internet to search your area for groups and activities
where people more compatible to your character and interests might be
more easily found than merely during your normal daily activities.
Here are some suggestions in that direction:
1) There are "meetup" groups of all interest types in all major cities.
Check out http://meetup.com
2) Categories of interest that you might look for would be: libertarian,
liberal, humanist, objectivist, philosophy, activism, life extension,
cryonics. atheist, free thinker, utilitarian, Bright

There is an interesting one that I found right off, at meetup.com,
with the title of Positive Thinkers & Doers.

Good luck!

--Paul