Hi Laurs,

My husband doesn't like watching the boys either. He
doesn't even play with them. When I hand the kids to
him he says he doesn't want to and he puts them in the
playpen. I took your advice and gave the boys gerber
graduates diced friut and they loved it. I took your
advice on using the bedtime bath and it works. Thanks.

--- laura scott <stressd25@...> wrote:
>
> My husband helps sometimes reluctantly. He hates to
> left alone with all four of them. I have left him
> with them and when I have returned he is very
> agitated. He has given my girls their bath maybe
> once or twice. He says that he is the daddy--so to
> him that means that he is the provider. He tells me
> that he is not a baby sitter. We live in Northwest
> Oklahoma so he is a driller one of the largest rigs
> out here. He comes home from work usually around 11
> am. He eats, watches about 2 hours of news and
> passes out in the chair. He finally comes to bed at
> 2 am and then he usually sleeps until about 10:30 or
> 11 am and then gets up and gets ready to leave for
> work at 11:30 or noon. So he is not really much
> help unless he is forced.
> Something that I can suggest with their eating are a
> few things. First of all I found that the Gerber
> graduates were a hit with my 11 month old. She can
> feed them to herself. Something similar to this
> could be just plain cut green beans from a can, or
> sliced carrots in the can. Also chunk fruit, low
> sodium, was good. Some other ideas are sliced
> cheese, macaroni or spaghetti noodles with only
> butter and a little salt. They might just be at
> that stage where they want to explore the food for
> themselves. They might just be wanting to be just a
> little independent in that way. You might try some
> finger foods and see if they will eat better. Also
> try some healthy snack like cheerio-s, shortbread
> cookies, graham crackers, sliced bananas, sliced
> apples(depending on how may teeth they have). Just
> sit with them while they eat these things to make
> sure they do not choke. Talk to them while they
> explore the food for themselves. Tell them what
> they are eating. Make it fun. Make a big deal out
> of them being big boys.
> Try to make it clear to your family in a nice way
> that you are trying to teach them some self
> reassurance. Ask them not to hold them so much. I
> am already having to do that with my twins. When
> they cry try to let them cry for about 5 minutes
> before you tend to them. I know that sounds harsh,
> but it will help them to learn to keep themselves
> happier. Also for a short while you might try
> different nap times and play with the one that is
> awake while the other sleeps. You might also try
> some lavender and chamomile bath before bedtime.
> Johnson and Johnson makes Bedtime bath. Using it
> then the Bedtime lotion really works. Suds them up
> really good and let it set on them for about 5
> minutes before rinsing. Also keep your house really
> bright during the daytime and as dark as possible at
> night. When you change them or feed them if you do
> at night make sure you do only that task with as
> little light as possible and put them straight back
> to bed so they know that it is still night time and
> they will sleep better. If they are still waking up
> for a bottle more than once a night you probably
> just have little boys who want to see their mommy in
> the middle of the night. Try letting them cry for a
> short while instead of getting a bottle or going
> into their room. My littlest girl did that at night
> and she eventually learned that I was not coming if
> she cried so she only wakes up once for a bottle now
> in the early morning hours like around 5 or 7. I
> do not have a night light in there and I keep her
> door completely closed after I put her to bed until
> I go to bed then I open it slightly. Just enough
> for me to hear her.
> These are just some things that I have learned with
> my older children. I am still learning with the
> twins how to get them on a close schedule. These
> are just some hints I am not trying to tell you how
> to raise them. You sound as if you are doing a good
> job anyway. You have gotten them this far. Just
> hang in there and always remember the good days.
>
> Amy valentine <amyvalentine2000@...> wrote:Hi
> Laura,
>
> Wow I can't believe we have so much in common. I
> would
> love to be email pals with you. By the way my name
> is
> Nikki.(not amy it's a long story)I don't know how
> you
> do it with 4 kids. Does your hubby help. Mine don't.
> My kids are 10 mths and has never given them a bath.
> I
> wouldn't put my boys up for adoption but thats how I
> feel at times. Alex the youngest one by 2 hours
> whines
> so much. I don't know how to make him happy. I put
> him
> on the floor and he's fine for 10 minutes then he
> starts all over again. Kris the oldest can keep
> himself amused for a while but then he starts up, so
> I
> put them in there cribs. Another thing they are so
> spoiled. My family will watch them for a couple of
> hours a month and they sit there and hold them all
> day. So they want to be held. When you walk out of
> the
> room they scream bloody murder. They don't want to
> take naps. When I feed them they spit there food out
> and cry. Enough about me how do you do it. How old
> are
> you. Where do you live. Have to go they're calling.
> Please write back.
> --- laura scott wrote:
> >
> > Hey!!!!!!!
> > It is so nice to hear from someone who feels
> exactly
> > the way that I do. Except the difference between
> > you and I is that I not only have 6 week old twin
> > boys, I have a baby girl who will not be one year
> > old until December 11 and I also have a very
> strong
> > willed 3 year old who will be 4 in march. I have
> > also made that same comment of wanting to put my
> > twins up for adoption. My hubby also leaves at
> noon
> > and does not get home until 11. I too do not have
> > much help. My mother is 24 hour care herself due
> to
> > a massive brain hemmorage in March of 2000 and my
> > mother-in- law only comes around when she is
> lonely.
> > She usually is too busy to help me out. I have a
> > hard time trying to go to doctor visits and WIC
> > appointments with them all. I would love to be an
> > email pal with you. It is so nice to find someone
> > with which I have so much in common. Please feel
> > free to return a reply to this email is you feel
> > like we could help each other out. Because
> adoption
> > is not the answer. Believe you me I know that it
> > can be very stressful at times. You would miss
> > those boys too much if they were gone. I am sleep
> > deprived most of the time, I seem to never get
> > everything done, laundry and dishes are never
> done,
> > and I want to just cry. I also have been stuck in
> > this house all but maybe 2 or 3 days in the past 6
> > weeks because I too do not have a car. And when I
> > have gotten away without the kids it has only been
> > for a whole hour once.
> > So please if you would like to talk reply. I could
> > also use a friend.
> > amyvalentine2000
> > wrote:Hi. I am a first time mom of 10 month old
> twin
> > boys. I need some
> > advice. I have no help at home with the boys. I
> > thought things were
> > getting better but there not. They constantly cry,
> > they don't want to
> > eat, I just can't keep them happy. I'm ready to
> put
> > them up for
> > adoption. I'm a stay at home mom, I don't have a
> car
> > and my husband
> > leaves for work at 12:30pm and doesn't get home
> unil
> > 11pm. I'm
> > looking for friends who may live by or wouldn't
> mind
> > talking. I'm
> > desperate I feel like I'm not doing anything
> right.
> > Feel free to
> > email me at amyvalentine2000@...
> >
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