Hi Kara,
thank you for the advice. i have never wanted to let him cry, it just
went againts all of my instincts. but as you said, i feel like i
would like some time to my self and maybe a minute with my husband.
(the last time we had a baby sitter we had to come home he was so
upset) i have also been worring about him getting enough sleep, he
seems to wake up easier and is harder to get to sleep. i guess i
thought if i could get him to sleep with out me, then i would not be
an interuption to his sleep. i also feel like maybe i am keeping him
up to late because he is going to bed when i do.(we are cosleeping
too)

i love him so much and just want to do what is best for him. i guess
i have to come up with a middle ground approach. i got this
book, "the no cry sleep solution." i am going to see it has any good
techniques we can use.

BTW, Ethan is now over 15 pounds and nursing very well @ 6.5 months!!

i hope you are doing well.

michelle






--- In midwifecenternewparentsgroup@yahoogroups.com, "kara peterson"
<karapw@...> wrote:
>
> Hi Michelle!!
>
> Thought I would give you a different view. No one way is right, it
> is what feels right for you and your baby and what feels right in
> your heart. This is always a complicated issue for parents and
many
> people feel strongly one way or another about it.
>
> I personally was never for letting my kids cry themselves to
sleep.
> When my babies were 6 months , I was where you are, feeling
> frustrated at night and really feeling ready to have some time to
> myself. But we would just nurse each night and the baby would
sleep
> on my stomach until I went to bed. (we coslept) I would nap
during
> the day with my son (who was my first, my daughter just didn't
> nap!!) With both kids, once they hit aroun 9-10 months, they
started
> sleeping better and longer periods by themselves. I found I could
> lie them down for 15 min, then 30 and before I knew it they were
> sleeping 2-3 hours during the day and at night before waking to
> nurse. I always felt it was a developmental milestone. My son
began
> sleeping through the night in his own bed around 18 months and my
> daughter is 18 months now and sleeping through most nights.
(usually
> in her crib)
> Honestly, I look back and value the time I had to nap during the
day
> with my son, we certainly don't have that now. I loved waking up
> with him all sleepy and sweet.
> Also, I would like to note that babies do not develop object
> permenance (knowing that something exsists even when they can't see
> it) until 9 months of age. Maybe this is why they settle and sleep
> better at this time.
>
> Somthing good to remember that my pediatrician told me (whom I
> love). He said, no matter what you do, it will be the right thing
as
> long as it is done with compassion. Great advice.
>
> Hope you are doing well, and good luck!!!
>
> Kara
>