FYI, I received the same email from the same "mother of an abused child".
She's in California and seems to be emailing whomever she can. The
situation, if it really is as she describes it,
is heartbreaking and what she needs is professional help for both
herself and her daughter as well as a good
lawyer who is experienced in such matters to get the child out of the
father's house.
I strongly suggested this to her and referred her to an excellent
therapist in her area
who specializes in trauma and also uses EFT.

I told her that by allowing the situation to stay the same, she's saying
to her child that she can't protect her.
This is very devastating for a little girl who is depending on the
adult(s) in her life to protect her.
All this trauma that's being repressed could one day blow up in
everyones faces! I told her to "Get yourself to a professional
as quickly as you can. For both your child and yourself."

It seems, though, that she's still emailing around looking for
assistance over the internet. In her initial email, she also asked for a
letter
extolling the virtues of EFT to show to the authorities:
>>"....If you could please mail me this very important letter on your
letterhead if possible this would be a Godsend for my daughter.
Also, please do not be modest in listing all of your credentials,
professional affiliations, etc. because unfortunately
this may be the only way that they consider your opinions.">>
No professional in their right minds would give her such a letter, or,
for that matter, any letter under these circumstances
- not knowing this person and not being involved with the case.

This is very sad - but we know the story from one side only. If this
child is, in fact, being abused,
there is only one side to consider but we can't know from an email from
the mother. I've worked with a group
of men who were victims of spousal abuse (yes, it occurs more than
people realize) and the ex-wife of one of the men
was accusing him of child abuse to be vindictive and to keep his
children from him. In fact, she was verbally and emotionally
abusing all three children.

My 2 cents' worth....

Sharon

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Meridian Psychotherapy Services
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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de_emotiecoach wrote:

> Hi Carolann,
> this is a known situation in youthcare, unfortunately.
> The daughter herself has to make very clear she doesnot want to go
> the father anymore, and can do this by writing in her own words a
> letter to a judge in charge, the manager of the youthcare
> investigation office etc.
> Always state a rapport with the police when the child tells about
> abuse and let the child be heared in this and let it be written down
> in her own words.
> Next to that and hoping for a soon change for the better to this
> situation the mother should take the child to a self protection
> class, in which she learns how to struggle off offenders. This will
> also enable the child to fysically state NO! to abusal situations.
> This will enhance her self security more.
> Teach her also to EFT on the emotion Even though I was not able to
> defend myself" and Even though I was able to defend myself but chose
> not to" etc.
> And yes! EFT is a very powerful tool to all, educated or not, young
> or old.
> Success with this.
> alexandra Prinssen, De Emotiecoach, the Netherlands -- In
> meridiantherapy@yahoogroups.com
> <mailto:meridiantherapy%40yahoogroups.com>, "Carol Ann Rowland"
> <carolann.rowland@...> wrote:
> >
> > Hi,
> >
> >
> >
> > Someone contacted me today, in relation to an extremely concerning
> > situation.
> >
> >
> >
> > Her 6 year old daughter is being molested by her father - the
> parents are no
> > longer together. The daughter was very symptomatic and was having
> > difficulties at school and in general.
> >
> >
> >
> > The mom learned about EFT and used it with her daughter, and taught
> her how
> > to use EFT herself.
> >
> >
> >
> > The daughter then improved a great deal, except when she had to
> visit her
> > father (CPS was investigating but had not yet drawn any conclusions
> and
> > visits were still happening).
> >
> >
> >
> > The mom would have her tap before she went and after she went and
> the little
> > girl would tap herself as needed, to help her to process any trauma
> and deal
> > with the symptoms.
> >
> >
> >
> > As a result the daughter vastly improved.
> >
> >
> >
> > As a result of this improvement, CPS decided that the daughter can
> not have
> > been being abused, because she was doing well, was not displaying
> symptoms
> > of trauma, and talked about the abuse without a great deal of
> emotion.
> >
> >
> >
> > CPS then decided that, although they believe that the mom believes
> abuse is
> > occurring that her fear about it is being transferred to the
> daughter and is
> > what is causing her to talk about abuse. They feel that this is
> harming the
> > daughter and so have removed the child from her mother's care and
> instead
> > placed her with the father.
> >
> >
> >
> > The mom has explained to them about EFT but they refuse to believe
> that it
> > could create such dramatic effects and that even if it could, that
> a mom
> > with only high school education could be skilled enough with it, or
> that a 6
> > year old child could use it herself and obtain good results.
> >
> >
> >
> > The mom has contacted me with the request below:
> >
> >
> >
> > I am not asking you to take sides because that would be unfair
> because you
> > only have my side. The professionals in my situation simply do
> not
> > believe me nor do they believe my daughter. I believe that this is
> because
> > of who I am and possible other prejudices. A single parent of
> modest
> > income with only a high school education does not register with
> them but it
> > dawned on me that a Professional with experience using EFT and who
> knows
> > exactly what EFT can do is a totally different story. This is why
> I am
> > writing you because I need help and my daughter needs help. Is it
> possible
> > that you could send me a letter with you letterhead and/or
> professional
> > credentials answering the following questions:
> >
> >
> >
> > 1. Could EFT have helped my daughter in the miraculous way that I
> have
> > described in this email?
> >
> >
> >
> > 2. Through the constant and regular use of EFT, could a child be
> able to
> > function as a seeming normal child while still experiencing abuse
> if EFT is
> > used after abuse episodes?
> >
> >
> >
> > 3. Is it possible for a child who has been the repeated victim of
> sexual
> > and psychological abuse speak about this abuse as if she is
> speaking about
> > "spilt milk" as described by one of her Therapists?
> >
> >
> >
> > 4. Is it possible for a child to not exihibit any or very minimal
> fear and
> > discomfort around her father in public, even if he abuses her
> behind closed
> > doors, with the constant and regular use of EFT?
> >
> >
> >
> > 5. Is it possible for a single mother with only a high school
> education to
> > learn to administer EFT effectively to her child and is it also
> possible for
> > a 6 year old child to learn how to self-administer EFT?
> >
> >
> >
> > If along with answering these very important questions, you could
> give any
> > details about your own professional experience using EFT, what
> problems you
> > have successfully used EFT for, give all of you professional
> credentials,
> > anything published whether it is related to EFT or not, or
> anything else
> > which will make these Professionals that I am dealing with who
> refuse to
> > even consider to investigate the promise of EFT, to at least
> investigate
> > EFT in the best interest of my daughter. I know that the hardest
> words for
> > most Professionals are to say " I may have made a mistake or
> misdiagnosed
> > this situation entirely", but that it tragically what has happened
> here and
> > it is a 6 year old child who has been suffering for so long because
> of the
> > mistakes of so many "experts" who refuse to "think outside of the
> box".
> >
> >
> >
> > I am asking that any credentialed therapists or other practitioners
> who use
> > EFT in their practice, who are interested in helping provide a
> supportive
> > letter that will not of course attest to whether this child has
> been abused
> > or not but rather talk about the effectiveness of EFT in such a
> situation,
> > contact me and I can, with her permission, forward the woman's name
> and
> > mailing address so that letters can be sent to her that may be
> useful.
> >
> >
> >
> > I know that everyone is busy, but it would only take a few minutes
> to write
> > something up and send it off. Please take a moment and think about
> what if
> > it were your child, or a child that you care about.
> >
> >
> >
> > I am thinking it may be especially helpful to hear from people who
> work with
> > trauma. What I find interesting is that some of what they are
> disbelieving
> > i.e. that a child could not exhibit fear or only minimal fear or
> discomfort
> > around her father in public, or for a child to not display emotion
> when
> > discussing abuse - that is entirely possible for any child who is
> being
> > abused, regardless of whether or not EFT has been used. It's called
> > dissociation and would not be so unusual for such a thing to occur,
> and is
> > one of the reasons that much of the time sexual abuse is not
> detected,
> > sometimes even by others living in the same home.
> >
> >
> >
> > Take care,
> >
> >
> >
> > Carol Ann Rowland, MSW, RSW
> >
>
>
>
>