Hi Carolann,
this is a known situation in youthcare, unfortunately.
The daughter herself has to make very clear she doesnot want to go
the father anymore, and can do this by writing in her own words a
letter to a judge in charge, the manager of the youthcare
investigation office etc.
Always state a rapport with the police when the child tells about
abuse and let the child be heared in this and let it be written down
in her own words.
Next to that and hoping for a soon change for the better to this
situation the mother should take the child to a self protection
class, in which she learns how to struggle off offenders. This will
also enable the child to fysically state NO! to abusal situations.
This will enhance her self security more.
Teach her also to EFT on the emotion Even though I was not able to
defend myself" and Even though I was able to defend myself but chose
not to" etc.
And yes! EFT is a very powerful tool to all, educated or not, young
or old.
Success with this.
alexandra Prinssen, De Emotiecoach, the Netherlands -- In
meridiantherapy@yahoogroups.com, "Carol Ann Rowland"
<carolann.rowland@...> wrote:
>
> Hi,
>
>
>
> Someone contacted me today, in relation to an extremely concerning
> situation.
>
>
>
> Her 6 year old daughter is being molested by her father - the
parents are no
> longer together. The daughter was very symptomatic and was having
> difficulties at school and in general.
>
>
>
> The mom learned about EFT and used it with her daughter, and taught
her how
> to use EFT herself.
>
>
>
> The daughter then improved a great deal, except when she had to
visit her
> father (CPS was investigating but had not yet drawn any conclusions
and
> visits were still happening).
>
>
>
> The mom would have her tap before she went and after she went and
the little
> girl would tap herself as needed, to help her to process any trauma
and deal
> with the symptoms.
>
>
>
> As a result the daughter vastly improved.
>
>
>
> As a result of this improvement, CPS decided that the daughter can
not have
> been being abused, because she was doing well, was not displaying
symptoms
> of trauma, and talked about the abuse without a great deal of
emotion.
>
>
>
> CPS then decided that, although they believe that the mom believes
abuse is
> occurring that her fear about it is being transferred to the
daughter and is
> what is causing her to talk about abuse. They feel that this is
harming the
> daughter and so have removed the child from her mother's care and
instead
> placed her with the father.
>
>
>
> The mom has explained to them about EFT but they refuse to believe
that it
> could create such dramatic effects and that even if it could, that
a mom
> with only high school education could be skilled enough with it, or
that a 6
> year old child could use it herself and obtain good results.
>
>
>
> The mom has contacted me with the request below:
>
>
>
> I am not asking you to take sides because that would be unfair
because you
> only have my side. The professionals in my situation simply do
not
> believe me nor do they believe my daughter. I believe that this is
because
> of who I am and possible other prejudices. A single parent of
modest
> income with only a high school education does not register with
them but it
> dawned on me that a Professional with experience using EFT and who
knows
> exactly what EFT can do is a totally different story. This is why
I am
> writing you because I need help and my daughter needs help. Is it
possible
> that you could send me a letter with you letterhead and/or
professional
> credentials answering the following questions:
>
>
>
> 1. Could EFT have helped my daughter in the miraculous way that I
have
> described in this email?
>
>
>
> 2. Through the constant and regular use of EFT, could a child be
able to
> function as a seeming normal child while still experiencing abuse
if EFT is
> used after abuse episodes?
>
>
>
> 3. Is it possible for a child who has been the repeated victim of
sexual
> and psychological abuse speak about this abuse as if she is
speaking about
> "spilt milk" as described by one of her Therapists?
>
>
>
> 4. Is it possible for a child to not exihibit any or very minimal
fear and
> discomfort around her father in public, even if he abuses her
behind closed
> doors, with the constant and regular use of EFT?
>
>
>
> 5. Is it possible for a single mother with only a high school
education to
> learn to administer EFT effectively to her child and is it also
possible for
> a 6 year old child to learn how to self-administer EFT?
>
>
>
> If along with answering these very important questions, you could
give any
> details about your own professional experience using EFT, what
problems you
> have successfully used EFT for, give all of you professional
credentials,
> anything published whether it is related to EFT or not, or
anything else
> which will make these Professionals that I am dealing with who
refuse to
> even consider to investigate the promise of EFT, to at least
investigate
> EFT in the best interest of my daughter. I know that the hardest
words for
> most Professionals are to say " I may have made a mistake or
misdiagnosed
> this situation entirely", but that it tragically what has happened
here and
> it is a 6 year old child who has been suffering for so long because
of the
> mistakes of so many "experts" who refuse to "think outside of the
box".
>
>
>
> I am asking that any credentialed therapists or other practitioners
who use
> EFT in their practice, who are interested in helping provide a
supportive
> letter that will not of course attest to whether this child has
been abused
> or not but rather talk about the effectiveness of EFT in such a
situation,
> contact me and I can, with her permission, forward the woman's name
and
> mailing address so that letters can be sent to her that may be
useful.
>
>
>
> I know that everyone is busy, but it would only take a few minutes
to write
> something up and send it off. Please take a moment and think about
what if
> it were your child, or a child that you care about.
>
>
>
> I am thinking it may be especially helpful to hear from people who
work with
> trauma. What I find interesting is that some of what they are
disbelieving
> i.e. that a child could not exhibit fear or only minimal fear or
discomfort
> around her father in public, or for a child to not display emotion
when
> discussing abuse - that is entirely possible for any child who is
being
> abused, regardless of whether or not EFT has been used. It's called
> dissociation and would not be so unusual for such a thing to occur,
and is
> one of the reasons that much of the time sexual abuse is not
detected,
> sometimes even by others living in the same home.
>
>
>
> Take care,
>
>
>
> Carol Ann Rowland, MSW, RSW
>
> www.ZensightProcess.com <http://www.zensightprocess.com/>
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