Thanks all for your advice, it is much appreciated. It is definitely hard to
prepare for the
aftermath. I am in no where near as much pain as I expected, but the tightness
around the
incision and staples is annoying. Kinda like a pony tail being being way too
tight!

GTG friends here. Will be back soon

sarah
xox


--- In meningioma@yahoogroups.com, Anne M Breen <anne91547@...> wrote:
>
> Hello Sarah,
> It is so great to hear back from you so soon after your brain surgery. rest
and recover
take time, report any and all new side effects to your doctor's office by phone,
just to be
sure everything is improving and your recovery is going OK????Regular walking is
good for
our brain recovery.?bending over or putting our head down might be very
uncomfortable
for a while.?
> I tried to reply to you privately,
> but your email address was no good and it came right back to me undeliverable,
so?I
am sending this to the whole yahoo m list instead because the big game has
already
started.???
>
> Your current condition maybe be a bigger shock visibly to your husband
emotionally
right now, than it was when you were initially diagnosed because now it directly
affects
him and his regular routine too,? You already know that saying thank you to him
is very
important and please?give him more time to get used to the sudden changes and
reversal?
of some of? the roles and responsibilities of your former patterns of married
life. He is
probably struggling emotionally with this sudden dramatic change in your current
appearance and his daily lifestyle which is quite normal. Many men don't deal
with their
own emotions?very easily.?
>
> Enjoy the big superbowl game on TV today with him. Let him wait on you during
the
commercials, but remember, even then he might think he is missing the best
parts?of the
show... lol?? I wish you both the best, and actions speak louder than words,
our?feelings
are not right or wrong, they just are and?it is good to express them honestly, I
think it is
how we act on them, our behavior and the appreciation we show towards each
other?that
counts for more in the final judgement, because human emotions and automatic
thinking
can and does change suddenly and often frequently as specific events happen.?
Remember
personal pain and emotional hurt is often hidden?underneath inconvenience,
annoyance?
or minor resentment that comes right to the surface.?? Make sure he knows that
he is
really helping you which is hard when we are uncomfortable or in pain, I am
still trying to
fgure out myself, how to manage my own pain, without being a pain to others.
>
> Please be sure to let him control the remote control.? lol? see my smiley
face?? &:>)?
> ?
> Of course he knew you would always serve him, he may have momentarily
forgotten
some of the details of the role he agreed to?about how he is to serve you, ?for
better or for
worse, in sickness and in health. Please give him more time, and rewards?and
praise him
to others to help him adjust to his brand new role as a caregiver in your loving
relationship.
>
> ?
>
>
>
> GBYAY Anne McGinnis Breen
> See my ponytail bouncing and my smiley face winking at you? &;>)
>
> My new personal bt blog with my list of 28 questions to ask your doctor about
brain
tumor treatments is http://gbyay.blogspot.com
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> "Hope has two daughters--anger and courage: anger at the way things are and
the
courage to work to make things other than they are." -- Saint Augustine
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> Keep you faith, cherish your reason, treasure your mind and hold to your own
good
purpose...be not afraid!
>
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