The formula is "Less words and more experience".

To quote Kir Li Molari, "One of the best ways
to figure IT out is to stop figuring out
anything." But, if you find you can't stop your
inner chatterer from figuring out everything,
there are very efficient meditative actions you
can take that will surely benefit you greatly
in gaining self control and evolving spiritually.
Whenever you witness your inner or outer
chattering being of a nature that upsets you,
taking your peace away, simply replace those
thoughts and feelings with their opposites. For
instance, if you witness yourself thinking about
what a jerk a coworker is and feeling annoyed at
how annoying they are, cease that line of thought
and think of how sorrowful it must be to be such
a negative person, and have compassion for them,
and then beam your love and hopes for their spiritual
growth so that they may end the suffering they cause
others and that they too must be going through.
And if you witness yourself being a negative person
or doing actions that cause you or others suffering,
have compassion for yourself and pray for your
own spiritual upliftment. Always, in all ways look
for your actions and thoughts to be ones of kindness,
selflessness, and compassion. You can't go wrong
with this game plan. You can't accrue bad karma. You
can't have remorse if your motivations are pure
and sweet. All that is required is to witness your
life as it takes place. This opens the door to
being able to effectively change your patterns of
behavior to ones that will bring you peace. Meditation
is a powerful tool for this witnessing to happen.
Sitting in meditation without distractions is
probably best at first (and often at last) for
most people to get used to placing awareness on
and in the present. It then becomes easier to be
in the witness mode during active daily life events.
At a point it becomes spontaneous and effortless
to witness mental, physical and emotional fluctuations.
At first you may be embarrassed at how awkward
and inappropriate they have been and are. But soon
you will just laugh at the ridiculous actions and
recognize them to be just a part of a show you
are attending. For in truth you are not your mind
nor your body or your emotions and have no
ownership over the way they play around. You are
the witness to them and the creative energy
behind them. There really is no need to judge or
compare or comment about anything. When that
becomes experiential and not just theoretical, you
will be living in the now and that lasts
happily ever after.