jp40177 wrote:
>
> In message 285, David wrote that if a man has a vasectomy, it takes
> away the woman's reproductive ability as well, but if a woman has a
> tubal ligation, it doesn't remove his reproductive ability. How
> does that work?
>
> It would be nice if couples always agreed on their reproductive
> issues, but that often does not happen. If a woman gets pregnant,
> then having or not having an abortion is her choice alone. A guy
> could have a vasectomy and then regret that choice. Or he could not
> have a vasectomy and then regret that choice if he relies on his
> partner for contraception and she becomes pregnant.
>
> jp
>
> --- In malecontraceptives@yahoogroups.com
> <mailto:malecontraceptives%40yahoogroups.com>, "David Brown"
> <david.brown@...> wrote:
> >
> > Hi,
> >
> > > Thanks, that's very helpful! I've been anti-vasectomy but Jeff,
> my bf,
> > has been thinking about it. I thought it was a bad idea to think
> of it as
> > reversible too, and so I've forwarded your message to him.
> >
> > That's good. This does raise another point though. It sounds like
> you aren't
> > in agreement about vasectomy. That's possibly not the best way to
> embark on
> > using it as a method of BC. There are studies that look at
> vasectomy
> > satisfaction and other angles that come up with the conclusion
> that the
> > people most satisfied with vasectomy are those couples that were
> completely
> > in agreement over vasectomy being the best option, and had
> considered it
> > long and hard. Amongst the least satisfied with it were where
> there are
> > conflicts of opinion between partners.
> >
> > That makes sense to me. I've often heard tales of regret where the
> man
> > involved has had the vasectomy under pressure from the other half
> (worse
> > still, other half + extended family) and the regret he later feels
> causes
> > relationship problems. Also, at another group there are often
> posts from
> > fundie trolls about "He had a vasectomy against my wishes and now
> I hate him
> > forever", claiming the same relationship problems. Despite being
> made up
> > posts from the fundies, there is an element of truth in what they
> warble on
> > about in that if a man has a vasectomy, it takes away the woman's
> > reproductive ability as well. She may be extremely grateful for
> this, and
> > she may not be ready to give it up yet. Therefore vasectomy,
> although it
> > happens to the man, and it's his body is mostly bound to be a
> joint
> > decision. I know there is an attitude of "My body - my decision",
> but as
> > both people are affected quite profoundly it needs to be a
> decision both are
> > in agreement with. If a woman has a tubal ligation, it doesn't
> remove his
> > reproductive ability, therefore the "My body - my decision"
> argument is very
> > different and the same reasons don't apply.
> >
> > I don't know your situation, but I would suggest that whilst
> vasectomy might
> > be the right decision for you as a couple, at the same time it
> might not be.
> > I'd certainly be tempted to put the decision about vasectomy on
> hold until
> > you can both be equally in favour of it being the primary method
> of BC that
> > you use.
> >
> > PS - sorry if this sounds like a lecture:( It's not meant to be -
> just
> > trying to put some outside perspective on the decisions other
> people make
> > regarding vasectomy.
> >
> > David
> > www.vasectomy-information.com - Main site containing all of the
> information
> > in detail
> > www.vasectomyblog.info - News items and new research discussed
> > www.vasectomy-faq.org - Vasectomy FAQ in easy reading style
> >
>
>



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