Hi,

I’m 62 and reunited with my ex last August, but could not have i/c.  Ob-gyn said he saw no reason I couldn’t. Got 2^nd opinion after watching Berman & Berman on Discovery Health Channel from board-certified ob-gyn and registered sex therapist.  He prescribed vaginal PT.  Have been doing it for a month after a meeting and screening with the PT at the hospital.  Practicing Kegels.  Yesterday, it all came together:

›   She had “prescribed” vibrating dilators (from sex toy stores) in last two sizes; I got them a month ago and used them 2-3 minutes 2x day well lubricated; she also gave me handouts on exercises, leg stretches etc to open up the PC muscles and train them

›   Practiced Kegels, including in the car while driving and while shopping at WalMart

›   Took warm baths before trying i/c to get the relaxation

›   She said use Crisco Oil or Slippery stuff because it had no phenol glycol, a possible irritant (Vagisil SilkEE however worked for me); heck, I was ready to try bacon grease

›   Yesterday she taught me to use my thumbs to insert in my vagina and PRESS HARD on the left and right to get PC muscles to relax

›   She inserted a biofeed back probe and I watched the graph being created as I squeezed and relaxed; my relaxation was not deep enough but after 10 exercises, it worked; I was very close to the consistent 30 muscle tone (but not the 50 of a young woman)

›   She said my partner should start with HIP massage.

›   She said I should be practicing my kegels on HIM even if not complete

›   She said I should get some adult videos (XX not XXX); I went to a video store and got 3

›   My partner and I put one on last night and it worked; he was able to come in fully

›   I could not tolerate him going sideways or around, only in and out but he was able to achieve ejaculation and I had NO PAIN

›   We each had 2 glasses of Merlot also

›   Position that worked for me was flat on my back at the edge of the waterbed, legs straight up, and him standing on the floor; that way he could scome DOWN on those muscles and not trigger vaginismus

›   What can I say?  Practice makes perfect.

›   Lesson learned: you have to keep TRYING and trying and experimenting and not be afraid of some pain.  You have to really let go. The wine assisted me there.

 

I wish you all luck!  I highly recommend a physical therapist prescribed by an ob-gyn and recommend you visit a sex shop also.  I am working again and want to send up balloons!! [Don’t tell my grandkids.]

Linda