--- In ileostomy@yahoogroups.com, Darius <tigersharks66@y...> wrote:
> John,
> How did she respond to you when you told her about
> your ileostomy and when she saw it? We all have this
> part of us that feels we will be rejected but we
> always hope for acceptance.
>
> Darius

Those first moments are always a cliff-hanger, you tell them, will
they walk away, throw up or keep on coming?
Most of the ladies I meet, I first contact through the Internet. If
the person looks promising I will tell them about it there. But if it
looks like we will just be friends I might not mention it at all. But
once or twice I have met some one and thing have gone a little
quickly! And then a quick explanation and no turning back!
Usually the introduction to my illiostomy goes some thing on the
lines of "I am nor as other men – I have had my arse-hole surgically
removed". This then leads on to a discussion on which bits have been
cut out and put where, followed by the merits of a bag as a flotation
device and the importance's of beans in ship wreck survival strategy.
If whoever you talking to laugh's then its all going to be OK.
All of this is a risk, but it is only a risk, not a certainty, take a
deep breath and go for it.
PS till you are both comfortable keep your shirt on (unbuttoned -
dress shirts are best) and after a while nobody will care.
Oh – how did she react, well the lights where low and I kept her to
busy to notice to start with, and to be honest I was far more worried
about it than she was.