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Sent: Monday, October 09, 2006 1:20 PM
Subject: Re: [hydrocephalus] New Here..A little about my daughter...
>Sean,
>Thanks for your reply - even if it was a little offensive.
Oh hey! I'm really sorry. I didn't mean to be offensive. I know that the words I use aren't always the best, and I'm sorry, but I didn't mean to be offensive.
>There is nothing wrong with a mother feeling devastated when she finds out there is something wrong with her baby.
To be certain, I'm not sure how to take that. For example, because of a mis-read test result someone at the hospital informed my wife that our baby could have considerable health problems. I remained unusually defiant but it really upset my wife. Sure enough, they miscalculated the gestational age which is why everything looked amiss. With the adjusted age estimate everything seemd - even to them - just fine.
> Please don't go around telling people how they are supposed to feel. A mother's bond to her unborn child is extremely strong, as only a woman would know.
My wife told me it felt like being in an "Alien" movie, and quite honestly, it wasn't clear WHO had the closer bond, me or her. So, if what you say is true, then she was trying to deny her pregnancy and all the headaches that came with it (to her).
I had a doctor tell me that my baby had a very serious life-threatening condition - come on, I was supposed to have a stoic, calm reaction? Also remember, I knew nothing about the condition at the time - absolutely nothing.
So you didn't consider it at any time in the past. I didn't know if others did or not. I had announced to my wife that one way or another we would deal with it if the baby had a condition. I think she responded "No, YOU would deal with it because I can't." But maybe that's me as a pessimist. Expect the worst and be surprised if it turns out better than expected. You are obviously NOT a pessimist
>I did get her eyes checked - they are perfectly fine.
That is so awesome! After realizing how many are surprised it can be done (and therefore how many babies don't get the optical help they need) It's disappointing.
Anyway, you're right - I don't understand this concept, which is why your reaction surprised me to no end.
However, you present yourself as an intelligent woman and it's obvious I'm in the wrong. Therefore I apologize.
-Ugly Sean
PS Hope you had a good Thanksgiving.
Because of my strep throat all I could eat is ice cream so we skipped the turkey this year.
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