My wife was diagnosed with HD last October. This diagnosis explains a
lot of problems we've had in our family for quite some time,
behavioral mostly. We have a 16 yr son, 14 yr daughter, and a 5 yr
daughter. There isn't a day goes by when my wife and son or myself
have arguments about trivial things to things that are very important
to my teenage kids. My wife is very controlling, dictatorial, and
unbending. We've all been in counseling to help iron out problems,
which has helped, but it is so laborious. My 14 yr daughter lived with
her grandparents this past school year because of the severity of
problems between her and her mom. The move was initially because we
thought it was our daughter problem, now we know different. She will
be returning home for the summer, and wants to, with the agreement
that she can retreat to grandmas if things get really bad.

Sorry about this long intro. I'm a teacher and am not going to work
this summer cause I guess I'm expecting the worst. I know thats bad,
but probably realistic.

I walk a fine line, advocating for my kids and supporting my wife's
view when it is rational and fair. The latter doesn't happen very
often. I want to with all my heart dignify my wife's views and
parental rights, but sometimes I just can't. I have to advocate for my
children!

Can anyone give me some advice for remaining sane myself, advocating
for my children, and dignifying my wife?

Kim