Hi Lisa and James and anyone else that comes on.

Lisa, im really sorry you felt like you had to split up with your
partner over this but i can understand why. When i found out i had
it i broke up with my boyfriend of a year in the attempt to not pass
it on to him, unfortunately it was too late by then and i he got
symptoms. I felt sick that i'd done it to him but sometimes its not
until you tell the person that you realize how well they might deal
with it. Not only did he keep it together and not get angry with
me, he actually comforted me and reassured me that it wasnt my fault.
Telling someone about it will be hard but at least if the person
still wants to be in a relationship after hearing it you know they
are serious and likely to stick around.
James, good to have some more people using this, specially since
your from the uk so we know that we arent alone. I know what you
mean about
the mix of info, one doctor said i wouldnt even need to use condoms
unless i had visible signs so no wonder its spreading around so much.
From what i gather now, lisa dont know if this is what youve heard,
is that condoms help but there still is a risk of passing it on from
the areas not covered. I know it is hard but i think its just best
to be honest with new partners, according to statistics there is a
good chance they have it or know someone that has anyway. The
reason i say this is cos i got it from someone who knew they had it
and yet claimed that he had been checked out and couldnt give
anything to me. When i found out i felt angry at him, not so much
for giving it to me, but for hiding it from me, he didnt even
suggest using condoms.
Don't listen to your mates, just try and be happy and confident in
yourself.
When i found out i thought id never had sex again, i felt dirty and
i really was playing the victim but then i jus told myself to get on
with things, i cant go back so i might as well stop feeling sorry
for myself. We can still do everything that others can, just with a
bit more thought and honesty,
we're lucky we dont have anything worse.
Take care xxx