Hello, the reason im writing this is becuase earlier this week my
world was turned upside down by a doctor at a local hospital, i went
for a check up to see what these growths i had on my anus were,and
he informed me i had viral warts on my anus,he also asked me if i
was homosexual,to which i replyed NO,
1st of all i should explain im a very happily
married 40 yr old man with 2 children,however like many men i enloy
sex with men & women, in paticular recieving anal sex, now my world
has been torn appart by this news as my wife does not know about any
of this,not even that i have had sex with other men,she thinks i
have piles and need to have them removed (oh god if only),now after
reading about this condition on web sites across the net i am even
more frightend and alone as i read that it is highly contagious and
i beleive i could or have passed it on to her although she doesnt
have any simptoms,I am so so scared and feel so utterly alone in all
of this,1ST off if i tell her the truth i will deffinatly lose
her ,she is a very loveing wife and mother and i love her dearly,our
sex life is v/good but i guess i was just to greedy,if this problem
only effected me i could cope with it but from what iv read it isnt
the case,in 1/2 months im booked at the hospital to have them
removed surgicaly,will the doctor mention to my wife what iv got as
she will deffinatly want to take me and collect me from there and
she knows im worried about having it done although she thinks im
just worried about having surgey on my piles and a risk of cancer,
(oh god what an awfull mess)
My main problem is even if she doesnt find out,i know
im obligated to tell her for her own health reasons,i dont have
warts on my penis only my anus and thank god she never ventures
around that area but is it still possible for her to catch this,
I must sound very selfish in all of this but i dont
want to lose her and im fightend to death at the moment ,as soon as
i wake up in the mornings i feel sick to my stomach with guilt/worry
and very discusted with my self.
I NEED HELP, THIS IS MY LIFE AND MY FAMILYS LIFE IM GOING
TO END UP RUINING.
REGARDS; Dave.