Yeah, I know... I find it strange that there are loads of chat
groups, support lines etc. in the States, specifically for people
with HPV, but there seems to be jack-shit in the UK!? I was
feeling much the same as you a couple of months ago - damn
lonely and hopeless at the idea of not being able to have a
relationship with someone i care about because of the
fear/anticipation of having to tell them about having HPV and that
i will pass it on to them. Also, I've broken up with the girl that i
think may have given it to me, but am still in contact (long
distance) and still in love with her - so have found it very
difficult
to work up the courage to tell her something that would likely
sour all memories and ties.
Anyway, now though I have to be honest and say that I'm just
concentrating on getting rid of symptoms (the warts) and then I'm
just gonna carry on as usual (was never especially promiscuous
anyway, so not really that big a change to 'go slow' etc.), but be
very adamant about wearing protection to reduce risk of passing
it on, because when u see the reports on how many people are
expected to be carriers without showing symptoms (and it's the
symptomless strains of HPV that are the most dangerous - for
cervical cancer in women etc.), and also considering that it's very
difficult to test for in women (and nigh impossible in men) there's
a pretty high chance that many of the partners you will be or have
been with, have already got it before you - yet because u know
and they don't u are going to be the one to bear the brunt!? It's
just too psychologically damaging to wrap up your sexual being
because of something that isn't intrinsically damaging, or
life-threatening, it's just the cause of something embarrassing
and unsightly, which noone wants to talk about or deal with cos it
involves SEX, or even worse GENITALIA!!? Bollox to that! Also,
with the prospects of a new vaccine to come out in the next few
years, there's a good chance we can all be cured in time - or at
least from being contagious, and that's really what this is all
about, cos u can get rid of the warts, it's just the idea that (being
of common sense and with a conscience) you don't want to pass
it onto someone else isn't it? I say u just deal with getting rid of
the symptoms first, then look at taking things slowly for a good
while (maybe at least 6 months - u never know it might get u into
the mindset for the RIGHT relationship with the RIGHT person
with putting sex on a slightly lower priority), then make sure u
use protection, then with some luck u'll not have had a
recurrence and u can have a reasonably good prospect of not
being contagious. Especially if u look after ur immune system by
taking lots of vitamins (esp. Vitamins E and B complex - +
anything else like co-enzyme Q10) and u stop smoking etc.... If u
really can't hack it now, and u really feel suicidal (i know that's
not
necessarily a hollow threat if ur in depression and have an
honest disposition and a serious conscience) then fuck it, just
ignore it and carry on, there's a 60/30 chance that ur not making
any difference to someone else even if u have passed it on - but
it's CERTAINLY not worth losing someone's life over! I don't think
so anyway. If i was given the choice of the person that gave it to
me committing suicide or me contracting HPV, I'd say HPV
thanks and thank god she's still around!
Anyway, take care of yerself.
A.




--- In hpvuk@yahoogroups.com, dreamtripa <no_reply@y...>
wrote:
> Ok sory, I don't meen to be so negative :S Just strikes me as
odd,
> no one from this country seems to be talking about this shit. Is
> there somewhere else online I have missed for UK people
with HPV?
> Please let me know :)
>
> --- In hpvuk@yahoogroups.com, dreamtripa <no_reply@y...>
wrote:
> > I know, but where are they all?!! I really do feel totaly at the
> end
> > of the line. SO hopeless its untrue. I can see no other way
out
> > than Suicide. I know that seems strong, and there is more to
life
> > than sex, and thats the only thing this effects, but I just feel
> so
> > lonely. What have I done to deserve this? I know its not a
good
> > time of the year but...
> >
> > Why does no one post hear? Surely there must be some
more people
> > dealing with this in the UK?
> >
> >
> > --- In hpvuk@yahoogroups.com, adxxxxxxxxxx <no_reply@y...>
wrote:
> > > hey, don't despair - there's reportedly 2 thirds of the country
> (i
> > > was told by a doctor yesterday) silently (and most
> unconsciously)
> > > nodding in answer to that question, just it's not the time of
> year
> > > anyone wants to deal with it probably!?
> > >
> > > --- In hpvuk@yahoogroups.com, dreamtripa
<no_reply@y...>
> > > wrote:
> > > > God it seems like no one in the UK has this, or is it just
me?
> > > > If anyone ever wants to mail me please do! :)