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How To Say No!

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We've all have had the experience where we meant to say no to
someone. We knew it was going to be difficult but we were
determined this time. Then next thing you know, we're saying
yes. How did that happen? Why did that happen? Do you notice that
the very people you mean to say no to, are the ones who seem to
draw the life energy out of you?


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How To Say No!
Copyright (c) 2009 Carol Chanel
Certified Life Coach
http://www.carolchanel.com/



"I meant to say NO." We've all have had the experience where
we meant to say no to someone. We knew it was going to be
difficult but we were determined this time. Then next thing you
know, we're saying yes. How did that happen? Why did that
happen?

Do you notice that the very people you mean to say no to, are the
ones who seem to draw the life energy out of you?

It reminds me of buying a car. You know how much the car costs,
how much you can spend, and the next thing you know the salesman
has worn you down and your energy is totally spent and you'll
say yes to anything just to get out of the dealership.

I don't mean to pick on car salesmen, there are great ones out
there who are very helpful and have your best interests at heart.

There are people who are trained to get their way. They will be
persistent and determined to get you to say yes.

I take my car to a local car wash and the man who writes up your
ticket is a master at getting people to buy the full works. You
know the $35 hand wash, hand wax, air freshner, etc. I actually
can't stand going there because I know each time I'll have to
be really strong and almost harsh to get him to back down. I just
want a regular wash and wax. Do you want the $8, the $4 or the $2
wax? Just put the wax on the car and let me out of here!!!

These people are what I call energy suckers and you're the
energy lollipop. What actually goes on?

How Do People Get Your Energy?

People learn, from a young age, how to control other people to
get their way. Here are some of the techniques they'll use:

* Manipulation

* Acting aloof by puling away in an attempt to have you chase
them

* Money or gifts

* Bullying techniques - verbal, emotional or physical

* Hostility

* Persistence

* Crying or drama of some sort

* Acting intellectually superior

How Do They Control You?

Whatever they do to control you, there's only one reason why it
happens.

You allow it.

You allow it because you tell yourself you need something from
these particular people. Like love, validation, acceptance,
approval, a job, a home, or something as simple as your car
washed.

Or you allow it because you don't want to be seen a certain way
- like harsh, uncooperative, unkind, not nice!

Remember, as women we were raised to be good girls, to be sweet
and helpful, not to be assertive, not to compete with each other
and at all costs not to create conflict.

How To Be Released From Their Control?

So whatever your reason, it will keep you from being firm. So
next time you need to say no, look to see what might keep you
from no. Then once you understand that reason, instead of trying
to get it from an outside source, give yourself the love,
validation or acceptance. Or let go of needing to be seen a
certain way.

When you give yourself what you need, you take your energy back.
Then you will release yourself from their control.

When you connect to an all-loving God (Divine Source) you will be
filled with love, light and joy. God is THE energy source.

Everything comes from God (Divine Source.) If you think that your
mother, brother, boyfriend, father, boss, teacher, or husband is
the source then you can be controlled. If you realize you receive
everything you need and want when you connect to God, then you
can freely have what you want. No cost. Yes to God, no to human
control.

Saying NO to others who want you to do something you don't want
to do, is saying YES to yourself.

The Cost of Not Saying No!

The impact of not saying no to others can be costly to your
health, relationships and your spirit.

So the next time your boss asks you to stay late when you have
dinner plans, choose yourself and go to dinner. The next time a
friend wants you to listen to her sob story, for the 10th time,
and it's your workout night, choose yourself and go workout. The
next time your boyfriend or spouse wants you to stay at home and
watch TV when you have plans to go to the movies with your
girlfriends, choose yourself and go to the movies.

You'll be training people how to treat you. You'll be taking
care of yourself. You'll be maintaining balance in your life.
You'll be building strong relationships.

Remember people are not your Source. Of anything. They may look
like it, but they're not. If you get fired for not working late,
then you'll get another job right away. If your friend gets mad
and doesn't want to talk to you, well sounds like you'll be
saving yourself from lots of drama. And if your boyfriend
doesn't like you going to the movies with your girlfriends, get
another boyfriend. There are plenty where he came from. God or
Divine Source will send you anything you need. Just ask and be
open to receiving it.

Choose to take care of yourself. Choose to be firm. Choose to say
NO to others. Choose to say YES to yourself. Choose the basic $15
car wash.

Imagine the possibilities....

(c) Carol C. Chanel






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how to create loving and healthy relationships, draw boundaries,
not take things personally, be happy to be who you are, and
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