Pierre, Thank you for posting the information ... there is a lot of good data here and some suggestions that may help individuals who recognize they have a...
Gary: Melody Here!!! How are you?? I have a question. Actually, it's the same question, but I need you to be more clear. Remember, my friend with the 29 year...
Hello Gary, The information comes from several sites. Like smartrecovey, rationalrecovery, ga, etc. Just use google or the wikipedia. Lots (if not everything)...
Hi Melody, I know this was addressed to Gary, but I have a few thoughts on this subject. With regard to your friend's dilemma & your question about what do ...
You gave me excellent advice. I never thought that by listening to her, I was enabling her. She was upset that none of her family came to the hospital and her...
Very thought-provoking advice from Stacie - I see my own self "enabling" others in the same sort of way and then complaining about having to hear them whine...
Melody, I think Stacie has provided you with some excellent advice. Sometimes the act of "letting go" not only applies to your loved one who suffers from a...
Thanks Gary: I don't want to lose a friend here. I already lost one friend who enabled her son and gave him a basement apartment that was promised to me and my...
... difference? Hi Melody, The difference is action. Enabling begins when your support leads to you doing activitys the addict should do him/herself. (When an...
Melody, You Asked: Where does support end and enabling begin? I mean what is the difference? My Response: In regards to you and your friend ... I think most...
No Pierre: I didn't mean for the gambler, I meant for my friend. When does Supporting her and being her friend, well, when does it switch to enabling her? This...
Thanks very much Gary. I know I have done all I can do. I gave her the best advice anyone could. Go to Al-anon meetings. But I also know that she is a mother....
hello melody, Its part of it. I liked the answer you got from gary. Its true saying let the ownership where it belongs. Learn to let go. I think the following...
Pierre: I thank you for that very lovely message. I was having a (I don't know what you call it, when you have a broken heart), but I don't feel anything for...
Meloday, I had a pity party yesterday about my son. On Wed. I drove to his house and then we went to a BBQ at my brother's house. It's a lot of driving for...
Oh Nancy: I am sending you a hug from one mother to another. We do not deserve what happened to us. No one does. But happen it did, and we have to go about our...
Irrationality - The "Fatal Flaw" Irrationality Defined One Definition : A good definition for irrational: 1) Rigid, 2) inconsistent with reality 3) illogical...
Just catching up, so this might have already been said, but in answer to Melody's question about her friend, "When does supporting her and being her friend,...
Stacy is so right about this. My only other thought is, that enabling starts long before some of us "feel" used or ignored . . . for some of us, we continue...
You know Melody, in my mind I had imagined you as a New Yorker; there was a city neighborhood flavor to your messages. I'm over in NJ. And I hear you about...
Stacie: My son collects SSI and SSD (he only gets $20.00 from the SSD), and the reason he is able to get SSD is quite interesting. He applied to get SSI. He...
Stacie: I must apologize (I even sent you an email but yahoo has my old email address, and you may not get that email I sent). I just realized I have been...
Just quickly: I've been offline most of the weekend because I've been run down & sick with a cr@ppy summer cold (felt more like the flu). No offense taken at...
Hi Stacie: Thanks for being a good listener. Sometimes, it's all we have and it's all we need. So how are you doing?? I am getting over a stupid cold too. I...
DO YOU LIVE IN OR NEAR CONNECTICUT? DO YOU GAMBLE FREQUENTLY OR ON A REGULAR BASIS? HAVE YOU EVER GAMBLED FREQUENTLY? If so, Yale University School of Medicine...
How come these boards have no one posting anymore??? Hope everybody is doing okay!!! My son finely did what I hoped he never would do. He called up family...
I guess I haven't been posting because it makes me sort of depressed and I'm in denial. My CG has been online gambling again - not that he has any money, but ...
I read all of your posts, but seldom chime in. You have such good advice people on this board, so by the time I think I should answer to someone, the answers ...
Good for you Rita. Blessings to both you and your hubby. Take care, Melody ... From: Rita Jacks To: gamanonsupportgroup@yahoogroups.com Sent: Thursday, July...
Hi, A while ago I asked here about home ownership with a CG and was advised to talk to a lawyer. Thank you for the good advice, I did. I called a couple of...
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