It's been a while since I have posted or been on here. A few days ago my CG took a $700.00 deposit from a client and blew it at the track. So today rolls...
Hmmm. Boy HOWDY have I been in your shoes! Try and stay as calm and as emotionally detached as possible, first of all. Secondly, what would happen if you ...
Enforcing consequences of the limits set is really the hardest thing. It is so important, tho. Hang in there. You are right and stick to your guns. ... ...
Hello. My name is Kali and I am new here. I need advice and support on handling a very difficult and fragile situation. The short version - I have suspected...
Sounds like you are pretty sure they are gambling . . . learning more about compulsive gambling is always a good idea for families. Protecting yourself is the...
Kali, Your local Gam-Anon group can help you understand more about the gambling problem and what your role is and is not. Although the majority of the members...
I would also recommend that you contact Adult Protective Services (it might be called Elder Services, or something similar) about your grandmother. She should...
I cannot thank you all enough for the kind words of advice and support. I suppose one never thinks of having to go through something like this with one's...
Kali, The anger is perfectly normal. Don't feel guilty about it because we have all felt it because of the betrayal and lies we have been told. It will...
Kali, The concept that Cheryl is referring to is called "tough love". We discuss tough love a lot in Gam-Anon. It has to do with setting some boundaries to...
Hi, remember me, Melody, with the gambling son and my best friend who has the 29 year old son up his bedroom drinking for 5 months and they just told him he...
I am so frustrated and hurt. We have been married for so long, he said he wasn't gambling, ;ied for the last year and a half and wants me to deal eith it now....
I am so sorry for your pain. I know you feel betrayed. My husband has gambled since before we were married. According to his ex wife, he always found...
I'm so sorry. I know all too well that feeling of betrayal. It is unfair! I'll keep you in my thoughts. I'm very new here and still trying to gain courage to...
I'm new to the group, this is only my second email tho I have had some very strong feelings over recent posts. I'm not a stranger to 12 step programs as I...
I just got off the phone with him and I am just in tears. It has been 3 days since I found out- and he is mad that I keep bringing it up. He said, do you have...
I will be praying for you! ... to his ex wife, he always found something to gamble on. The hurt and betrayal you feel will soon turn to anger. ... remind you...
This is what you wrote: "He knows I won't do anything other than feel betrayed. Why can he do this for over a year and I am supposed to get over it in 3 days?...
I understand the excuses all too well. What finally drove me to do something was after I spent 2 months in the hospital 3500 miles from home for heart surgery...
Cheryl, I wonder if I'll ever see a day again that I don't feel complete rage and hopelessness at the same time. I'm not an angry person, mostly I'm pretty ...
Lori, Welcome to the Gam-Anon Support Group Message Board. You will find a lot of caring people here who have had similar experiences to yours and are willing...
Lbhfranklin, You Wrote: I just got off the phone with him and I am just in tears. It has been 3 days since I found out - and he is mad that I keep bringing it...
Hi Kat, It's been awhile since I posted here as well. I am a cg and I haven't bet in 21 months now. You are doing the right thing, no matter how much it hurts...
I have to agree with everything Gary said, the defensive behavior is common and really not complicated. I use to just sit and nod or I would take an offensive...
Gary, Thank you, for sharing with me. I have a lot more to think about than I thought. I have a whirl or thoughts going through my mind and a huge bucket of...
Hi Lori, I meant to come back on and share one point I think I missed in my previous message but your message struck me. If he is gambling why do you wonder...
If my husband is truly ready to get better- go to meeting, etc.. should I be so easy to forgive? I just spoke to him- he wants to try and go to meetings, get...
Hi Toni, I started to write to you this morning to ask if you minded sharing your experience with me but I lost my courage. Thank you for reading my mind. My...
You are very, very focused upon your husband . . . forgiving him or not, making him feel bad or not, wondering about what makes him the way he is . . . change...
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