Tracy, You Wrote: What are the things that classic enablers do? My Response: Wow, where to start? Well, some of the ways are: 1. Financial Bailouts in the...
My CG has been attending meetings, and doing everything he said he would. As of right now I beleive him when he says he is not gambling. I know when an ...
Tracy . . . Gary gave you a list of actions that are clearly enabling. Every one of us could easily add 10 more actions to that list . . .the list is probably...
Hello, I need just to cry a bit. My CG is at his GA meeting, swearing again to not gamble. I have just started attending Al-Anon meetings (no Gam Anon...
Abyrne_shasse, I checked the Gam-Anon website and they only had one meeting listed for the state of Montana. See below From Gam-Anon Website: MONTANA Wed....
Jani, Your question . . . Does a CG go through something similar when they are just starting their recovery? . . . is a topic that has been thoroughly studied...
Jani, not sure it applies to all gambling addicts, but I know when my husband was 'prevented' from gambing (usually someone came over or there was an family...
Thank you, Gary, for the Gam-Anon information. I did check the website and called the 800 number. No Gam-Anon meetings in my area, but the lady at the 800...
Hi there, Strength to be married, you ask? I think , in my case I tried every avenue I could think of to deal with a huge number of HIS issues at the same...
Abyrne_shasse, Sorry to hear that there are currently no Gam-Anon meetings in your immediate area. You might try writing to Gam-Anon at info3@gam- anon.org...
You asked about how people "find the strength to stay married" to a compulsive gambler . . . I had been married a long time when I found out about the gambling...
What ways have you all talked about your CG's behavior to your young children? We have a innocent almost 4 y.o. boy who is very sensitive and has special...
Hi there, I have a tough one with this issue as well. My daughter will be 3 in January. My CG and I separated 2 years ago, so she doesn't remember him in our...
Our now 17 year old son is adopted, so when we encountered this dilemma the adoption backround issues were a help here. A big issue in adoption is how to talk...
Sweetclarabell, My children were considerably older than your 4 yr old son when their mother's compulsive gambling reached a troublesome point. My daughter...
Well, I just found out tonight that my CG got married today to the bartender. I guess he isn't my CG anymore. We were still together until August 20th and he...
Bridgette, They say all things happen for a reason and perhaps his decision is what you needed. Now is the time to put the focus on YOU and YOUR NEEDS. I...
Brigitte, I suspect you can't see this now, but I hope in the near future you will realize and see what a GOOD thing this is. Substitute your own name where...
I don't know if "success" is the right word to use in working a program like this. I think that first you need to think about whose success you are looking...
Hi there, Being the cg in the situation my perspective will be a bit backwards from what you are looking for. I can't speak for my husband or if he sees what...
Toni, Congratulations on your recovery success to date. It's great to hear a success story . . . we hear so many stories that are not successful. Since you...
Hi Gary, I take no offense whatsoever to anything asked of me by anyone. My honesty and desire to become a part of the solution is in part an answer to one of...
Lisa, I think that when people say to worry about yourself, not him, it's really not that simple. Not that action and not the statement. Worry will happen, but...
You're so right, i put the word in quotes, because success is not really the right word. I'm new here and trying to sort it all out. i do know it's a process/...
Toni, Thank you so much for responding to my questions. I really admire your honesty and efforts to help others by sharing your experiences. Yes, I do ...
Hi Gary, I commend you for your work on behalf of not only the loved ones but on behalf of us as well. Washington State has very active GA chapters I'm sure....
Toni, You Wrote: I commend you for your work on behalf of not only the loved ones but on behalf of us as well. My Comments: When my ex and I were together I...
I just wanted to post a short note to share what happened to me so that some of you in the same situation can protect yourselves better than I did. I have a...
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